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    Carol Lee McNeil’s Posts

    Topic: RE: I wonder......
    It is beginning to look to me like most of us "oldie bandsters" are having the same problems.  For years (about 3) I have thrown up most of what I have eaten.  unfill after unfill, new drug after new drug, many many missed days of work and trips to Moncton later, in December I had surgery to repair a hernia and reposition my band.  Now, I am not having any problems what so ever other than gaining weight since I have no restriction, but that it totally my fault. I do feel great, I have my energy back and am excited to start this journey again.

    This being said, I don't want anyone to think I’m whining or complaining (well maybe a bit). I would not change my decision to have my surgery.  I am just wondering that if this seems to be as common as it is, could there be a better way/procedure of the lapband surgery? Could anything be done differently after surgery to help eliminate these problems? Could there be a drug we could be put on to help stop the progression of a hernia or to prevent it from happening at all.  Why are we getting hernias?  Is the vomiting causing the hernias? or does the hernia cause the vomiting?  The nurse thought that maybe my vomiting was caused by the food I ate going into the gap at the top of my stomach from the hernia instead of my stomach, since I threw up within seconds of eating.

    My daughter has had lapband surgery.  She has lost over 80lbs now and seems to have only occasional trouble. Usually when she eats something she knows she is not supposed to eat.  I wonder what if anything Dr, Savoie did with her differed from what Dr. B has done.  OR if it is just the person.

    Again..I hope you all don't think I’m whining; I am just seeing a quite common thread and hoping we can have a dialogue on your opinions :)

    What are your views on this?
    Topic: RE: Decision
    HI Jet..I just had this done onthe 10th of December. I had a hernia repair as well.  It went very well, easier than the original surgery.  The only part that sucks is you will have to the meditrim diet things before.  They are not too bad really. I lost like 12 lbs in 3 weeks but I have now gained 20 lbs since the surgery. I was told that was normal because of the rapid weightloss and actually being able to eat and hold food down for the first time in4 years. :)

    Best of luck:)
    Topic: RE: fill on Thursday.....
    I'm going in on Monday at 2 for yet another unfill. 

    I so wish I knew why I have had so much trouble. I only have 3 ccs in now and I still throw up every meal and the reflux is horrible. It's ironic that all my life I felt as if I failed at loosing weight with all the different programs I had been on.  Now, I have  had WS and......... (yeah I know Im having a major pity party ..just ignore it  it will pass hehehe)

    I am terrified that I will gain 37lbs again like I did last summer when he unfilled me. I have a bit left to go to finish loosing that. Now, I did join Food for life, and I did have a week where I actually was able to keep each meal down, smaller portions of course, but I still kept it all down. and belive it or not, I lost 3 lbs the first week. Since then I have started throwing up again and I seem to have stalled on my weight loss again. Maybe I will be ok this time, as long as I have some accountability. FIngers crossed
    Topic: RE: Info on an empty band- so mad I could just.....
    Dr. B had unfilled me in the early fall, and sadly my hunger got the best of me...37lbs worth...disguisted..but anyhoodles I have to remember that I had not kept a full meal down before that for almost a year and a half..sooooo...Time to get off my own back maybe.

    I went back in last month and he filled me up to 5ccs..and that is what I had in originally so he will probably fill you back up again.    Hope to see you soon, Miss talking with you.
    Topic: RE: I’ve had many NSVs but this one truly is worthy of mention.
    The same sort of thing happened to me as well. I was in Penningtons and the size 14 did not fit..was too big. I just started to cry. I could not fathom what I was to do. My best pal was with me at the time and she was really confused as to why I was so upet. I just looked at her and said...well the 14s don't fit..what do I do now? I honestly could not wrap my head around it.  She just looked at me and said in her best "Valley Girl" accent..well you like just march yourself into Rickies and buy some clothes.  It was like a lightbulb turned on.  So off we go to the other mall.  walk up to Rickie's and I freeze in the doorway.  Same thing as you....they are going to tell me to leave..people will laugh at me in this type of store....this is a waste of time.  So with her help I get past it and in I go.  Well I ended up spending over $400.00 on clothes. and Yeah I kind of had a melt down over that as well. 

    I think that may have been my most emotional day I had since my surgery..maybe even in my life because I had to adjust what I thought I was. I don't mean to diminish the joy I had with my babies or getting married, but this was all about me and no one else. That day I turned into a different person. To me anyways.
    Topic: RE: more liquids, nom nom nom
    hi Everyone:

    Meg is my daughter that I have been babbling about
    Topic: RE: Support Group in Freddy

    Count me in as well :)
     

    Topic: RE: Update :)
    Hi Everyone and Merry Christmas.

    Just a quick update to let you all know that my daughter Meghan has been officially banded.  She was done on the 16th of Dec and we are home and settled for almost a week now.  We were a bit panicked because they had her all prepped for surgery and then Dr S came in and said they didn't have a bed for her so they may have to cancell.  I could have puked right there.  She as you all know had been on boost for 2 weeks and had stuck to it. Now the thought of having to go through that again was quite defeating.  After a few minutes he asked me if I was staying at the pavillioin and I said that we had indeed stayed the night before and I had the room again that night. so he said he I promised NOT to sneak her home and stay the night at the pavillion he would let her stay there to rest up and go home in the morning.  After a few tense minutes, she was off to the OR. 

    She has had only a bit of pain and is tollerating it well. Mostly the gas pain we all had.  He did not use staples on her but rather surgical glue and a special tape which it great that we dont have to worry about another trip up in 2 weeks to have them removed.  Another difference between Drs S and B is, Meg was only on clear fluids that day.  The nurse in recovery told her she could have pudding or yogurt in 2 days and only needed to stay on full fluids for 1 day.  She has to remain on soft food or mushies for a month though. No meat or raw veggies or fruits for a month.

    For any of you that are having surgery in Bathurst, it would be well worth your while to use the UCT Pavillion services.  They only charge $10 a night for the patient and $25 a night for family members.  The rooms are like little hotel rooms only with no tv and 2 single beds.  I found them spotless. You have your own full bathroom as well.  The beds were a bit hard but after the long ride up and the day in the hospital I had no problem getting to sleep.  they have a TV room with some really comfy couches and a kitchenette.  Since Meg had to stay the second night, they refunded me all my money for the stay as well.  The pavillion is just in the hosptial parking lot and they give you a keycard to access the hospital in the back way and the key also give you access to the staff (free) parking lot.   The don't take reservations, so it's first come first serve, but they have 12 rooms and both nights it was only us and one other couple there.  You will need to go to the admitting desk at the hospital to pay and request your room.

    talk soon

    Carol
    Topic: RE: Hot off the Press....
    gosh I am jelous! I had my unfill in June because of reflux and he told me to come back in 3 weeks, I have yet to have a call to go back in.I have absolutly NO restriction at all. I have called every month and they keep telling me he is booked.  The sad part is I was up 25lbs since June.  I did however, buckle down and have over 10lbs off now..but this stinks:(
    Topic: RE: Runny Nose
    Yes My nose runs too, untill whatever is stuck becomes unstuck or comes up. I thought I was the only one LOL
    Topic: RE: Starbucks Tomorrow?
    It would be great to see you too. It's only about 45 mins from Saint John..we could wait around if you could make it up:) But if not this time, maybe next time. They usually do a scheduled weekend meeting, I have never been able to make it so far, next one I will be there come hell or high water!. But that may be the best bet for you. But if you decided you could make it tonight that would be fan-tab-you-lussss!
    *Fingers Crossed*
    Topic: RE: Starbucks Tomorrow?
    Good Morning ladies:

    Just double checking on place and time and date (what the h*ll, I have a memory an inch long)

    I seem to remember..tomorrow, Thursday Oct 8, 5ish at Starbucks in the Regent mall.  Now Is that Starbucks in Chapters or in the food court?

    Can't wait to see you all :)
    Topic: RE: Time to get social!
    Thursday is great for me also. I have Friday off so meeting up with you lovely ladies will be the perfect ending to my week
    Topic: RE: The List,,,remember the list?
    Hi Charlene and all

    Sorry I have not been posting as of late, it's been absolutly insane here.  I do however pop on a few times a week to catch up on everyone. 

    I do have an addition to your list.  My daughter Meg ( who unfortunalty is not a member of our board but........) Has her date for her lap band surgery.  She goes in on Dec 16th.  Dr. Savoe thought that date would be better since she just started University this fall and this way it would not interfere with her exams or study. I wonder if there are any other mother/daughter lap band patients in the province..would be cool to find out.


    On an up-note about me. I finally got to see De. B, and found out that I had reflux.  He changed my meds and I have gone a whole month without throwing up once.  Quite a change from 3 to 4 times EACH meal.  But on the down side of that, I am now up 7lbs, but I am still under his goal so I am not going to worry about it too much yet.  I know I am eating healthy, so I think it's just my body adjusting to having nourishment in it.

    Anyhoodles-- now that things have slowed down a bit, maybe we (you Star and whomever is in town) can get together for a cuppa someday after work. Im good today or tomorrow, Friday is out, But any day next week is ok as well.  Maybe I can convince Meg to come too seeing how she is an " all grown up University gurl " now (rolls eyes)...OHHHH! and we met a sweet little girl at Dr. Savoie's office (both times) from Fredericton. She is here on the board but unfortanatly I did not get her real name or her OH name..so if you are out there cutie-patootie, It would be great if you could come for coffee as well..maybe I can get your name then  *lol*

    Ok talk soon.

    Carol
    Topic: RE: Support group-would Sunday be better?
    I'd love to come if there is room:)
    Topic: RE: DECH Support Group
    I think I had told her but I will check my sent emails and if I had not I will let her know

    added after the fact:::
    Yes I just checked and yes I had invited her but I have yet to hear back from her on the subject (or any other for that matter ) :)
    Topic: RE: I have a nsv
    Shrinking Boobies can be good and bad...I used to wear a 42DD ...now I wear a 36 EL ( extra long)
    Topic: RE: DECH Support Group
    HI everyone..here is a letter I received from Denise Columbe (I hope I spelled her name right) She used to run the Bariatric Support Group at the DECH here in Fredericton.  I had not gone actually because I was still waiting and they, I thought at the time, had all had surgery. Well they are starting up again. I do not know any of the people involved so I am not endorsing this group.  I found the group that met in Fredericton from this board a wonderful group of people and a fountain of infomation.  But the more the Merrier as the saying goes :)
     ..Here is the email and contact information if anyone is interested:


    "Hello ladies,

     

    Well it has been a long time since I have held a support group meeting and I am starting it up again.  I need to do this as, if any of you are like me, I ahve gained 20 pounds back and would liek to discuss these issues with others.
     

    By starting up the support group again, I am looking at having focues topic meetings meaning, having a topic at each meeting that you would know ahead of time so that you could come prepared if you would like to discuss.
     

    So, I guess this email is to find out if you are interested in partaking in teh support group again and if so, which night of the week would be most convenient for you and the time.  Meetinsg would be either 1.5 hours long or 2 hours long.  Please indicate your choice.
     

    Thank you and hping to have you join again.

     
    Denise"



    denisecc@nb.sympatico.ca
    Topic: RE: Soooo Loosers.........

    Soooooo Loosers  A few questions for you.    

    What do you do differently now that you have lost a pile of weight?   

     Buying clothes is different. Before I would just buy what ever fit..even if it was too big, as long as it was not too small I bought it. The color or style or lack thereof didn’t matter.  Now unless it fits properly and looks good, I do not buy it. Shopping is fun now. Not something I dread.   I am more active and not quite as shy as I was. I used to live in flip flops or sneakers, now I wear heals every day. I burned all my flannel PJs *wink wink nudge nudge*           

    What do you do surprisingly the same?    
    I still pull the seatbelt allll the way out before buckling up like I had to before I lost the weight. And sometimes forget and just let it go thinking it will be snug and it zips back in and slaps me in the side of the face LOL I still refuse to sit in lawn chairs.       
      What has changed the most for you other than the scales or clothes size?   
      I try different things now that I would have just let pass by because I was too big to even try.  This summer I went kayaking, and we did a lot of canoeing.  And I went on rides at the Exhibition. Before I would just say, nah I’m too big and never even really consider these things.      
        What has change has surprised you the most, what happened that you were not expecting?    
    I actually went to the doctor about 2 strange lumps that appeared on my chest at the base of my neck.  Once she stopped laughing she told me it was just my collar bones and now I could see them since I lost weight. (I do love her) I thought I had some strange tumor action going on and had convinced myself that I was going to die.  Story of my life I thought, I finally loose weight, now I’m going to die before I can enjoy the new bod.  We at least I’d make a better looking corpse (honestly, those were my thoughts)       

      How about a funny weight loss story:   
      I was in our village store one day last year and the owner came up to me and asked me if I was Carol McNeil’s sister , since I looked familiar and she could not place me. J My family is from another village so she had never seen my sister before, who is 5”10, red hair and gorgeous. I’m only 5”5 and have black hair and ..well we won’t go there LOL   My daughter will be 18 in July and people have asked her if I was her sister when I drop her off or take her places – I thought your mom was coming sorta thing.   The gossip train had my husband having an affair with some younger woman that had the guts to drive my car when I was at work and was EVEN seen walking with him through the village HOLDING hands in public with him one evening…the HUSSY!

    Topic: RE: I need to know I'm not wasting my time
    Well, Here are my 2 cents worth.  I had started a discussion before on the board about food addiction and it was a great discussion with lots of opinions and I love that.  I believe that I am a food addict. Some do not and that is ok, they may not be.  I work with recovering and non recovering people and I believe that addiction is addiction. An addict is an addict and we "choose" or are drawn to our substance for what ever reason. Wether it be choice or just availability.  For example..if an alcoholic stops drinking without supports and care, even if not drinking he/she usually may start other addictive behavior, eg, gambling, drugs, spending etc.  This being said. ---------

    The band is a tool to help you loose weight. It is not a magic wand. If you are stress eating over upcoming surgery that in my view (not everyone's) that there may be an underlying problem.   My advice is to set up some appointments with a councilor or pastor or someone who understands addictive personality or overeating traits. And make sure that you are treating the underlying cause.  As you saw, some have not cheated at all, they are not stress eaters or are able to control that impulse.  If you are not, and do not deal with the problems, the band may only work marginally for you.  Lise once told me if you go into battle with your band, YOU will win.  Meaning, if you are going to force more food in or make wrong choices, you will not loose weight, the band can only help you if you follow the rules. 

    I do occasionally go into battle with my band. I am full and satisfied (food wise) but I still have the impulse, craving for more food or the wrong food. I am a food addict, so sometimes being satisfied and having enough to eat is not enough, it's an emotional thing with me. And I work at it every day.

    So I guess my point is, in a rather convoluted way is...try to relax, the upset will only make your cravings worse.  Realize that this is not going to be easy but you WILL do it.  Allow yourself to accept that change is scary!  A new life is SCARY. Its a good thing, but any change causes stress and insecurities.  Just allow yourself the supports you need, you deserve any tools available to you to reach your goal and don’t let your "fat" person stand in the way of your moving on.  My fat person still whispers hateful things to me, its all a process.

    Anyways, I need to get some work done. Hugs you..you are doing just fine, and these last minute/week/month meltdowns are totally normal, we have all had them. You are fine, totally normal, and a super person. I am so excited for you because I know what you will be going through in the next few months, it’s a wonderful feeling.
    Topic: RE: NB's inadequate prep.& support for WLS program.
    There is one re-starting in Fredericton Charlene. I will get you the email I have it at home. It was one they had at the DECH. Denise Columbe was running it and she just emailed me last week about restarting. I am sending you another private message so please check them. :)
    Topic: RE: dr. s and dr. b?
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    I have a theory :)
    With 3 new doctors in the Atlantic provinces doing surgery, it does not make sense that Dr. B's list is still so long.....unless...people have been leaving their names on Dr. B's list while going to the other's for consults...just in case. 

    I actually know of 3 people who have seen other doctors...1 Dr. S and 2 one of the Drs in Halifax and are on their lists, but are keeping their place on Dr. B's list .  I can see why they are doing it of course, and I am not sure I wouldn't do the same thing, especially when you have waited on Dr. B’s list for 2, 3 ,4, or 5 years. But it makes it hard for anyone waiting on Dr. B's list and being in the “thousands”

    I suspect in the next 6-12 months Dr. B's list will decrease dramatically once the new surgeons start doing the surgeries and the "double- dippers" (hehehe) are done and are off all the lists

    Topic: RE: New +Getting to know you?
    You know the drill-
    1- What "toy" are you hoping for this Christmas?-- A Tassimo Machine..so I can make my own expresso;s whenevahhh I want:)
    2- What is your favorite winter fun? (even if you can't participate right now)--I love to go sliding, and we used to cross country ski when I was a kid..I loved it.
    3-Is your Xmas tree up? (If it is I may have to hate you!)-- no not yet..probably Sunday. We have wood heat and it just plays havoc with a real tree. Not so safe to have it up too long.
    4- Do you still live in the town that you grew up in? If not would you ever move back? -- No I don't, but yes I'd love to move back. I grew up in the village of Gagetown.
    5- Did you marry your high school sweetheart? -- I sure did. Mike and I started going together in Grade 12 and we have been married for 22 years.
    6-What do you do to reduce stress? Non- food answers!!! -- I hide from the children in my bedroom with a good book...NO KIDS ALLOWED!  :)

    Topic: RE: probably too much information yet again
    I was just the oppsite. I had the (you know what's) for about a month after the surgery. When I called Lise in Dr. B's clinic, she told me that was normal...fluids in -- fluids out.  Once I started eating solid food, I was fine.  Sorry to hear you are having such trouble:(