Topic: RE: I need to know I'm not wasting my time Well, Here are my 2 cents worth. I had started a discussion before on the board about food addiction and it was a great discussion with lots of opinions and I love that. I believe that I am a food addict. Some do not and that is ok, they may not be. I work with recovering and non recovering people and I believe that addiction is addiction. An addict is an addict and we "choose" or are drawn to our substance for what ever reason. Wether it be choice or just availability. For example..if an alcoholic stops drinking without supports and care, even if not drinking he/she usually may start other addictive behavior, eg, gambling, drugs, spending etc. This being said. ---------
The band is a tool to help you loose weight. It is not a magic wand. If you are stress eating over upcoming surgery that in my view (not everyone's) that there may be an underlying problem. My advice is to set up some appointments with a councilor or pastor or someone who understands addictive personality or overeating traits. And make sure that you are treating the underlying cause. As you saw, some have not cheated at all, they are not stress eaters or are able to control that impulse. If you are not, and do not deal with the problems, the band may only work marginally for you. Lise once told me if you go into battle with your band, YOU will win. Meaning, if you are going to force more food in or make wrong choices, you will not loose weight, the band can only help you if you follow the rules.
I do occasionally go into battle with my band. I am full and satisfied (food wise) but I still have the impulse, craving for more food or the wrong food. I am a food addict, so sometimes being satisfied and having enough to eat is not enough, it's an emotional thing with me. And I work at it every day.
So I guess my point is, in a rather convoluted way is...try to relax, the upset will only make your cravings worse. Realize that this is not going to be easy but you WILL do it. Allow yourself to accept that change is scary! A new life is SCARY. Its a good thing, but any change causes stress and insecurities. Just allow yourself the supports you need, you deserve any tools available to you to reach your goal and don’t let your "fat" person stand in the way of your moving on. My fat person still whispers hateful things to me, its all a process.
Anyways, I need to get some work done. Hugs you..you are doing just fine, and these last minute/week/month meltdowns are totally normal, we have all had them. You are fine, totally normal, and a super person. I am so excited for you because I know what you will be going through in the next few months, it’s a wonderful feeling.