if you had the surgery in 05 you are 8 years IN
YOU HAVE TO GET BACK TO BASICS
start weighting your food and tracking everything , stop eating crap,drink your 65 oz of water
pretend you just had the surgery
Im guessing you had the rny , so you will have less malabsorbtion of calories that just means you have to be more careful what you put in your mouth now , you still have a small pouch
start using myfitnesspal.com and get to the gym
there is no secret , there is no magic just get back on your plan
maybe a therapist might help