I am newly divorced after 20 years of marriage and I didn't want to waste another minute finding someone I could hang out with, do things with, take as a date to events, etc.
So on the advice of some co-workers I got on a few online dating sites. Most of them were crap, but I found one ****upid in case you have to know, but really there are probably others that are just as good) that worked out for me.
In any case, when I started the online dating adventure, I was never quite sure what to put in my profiles. In my pictures, I was super-morbidly obese. I wanted men to like me for me, but I also wanted them to know that I was going to undergo RNY in October. I was torn... do I mention it? Don't I?
I finally put the following paragraph in my profile: "I am undergoing gastric bypass in October, but don't think that if you don't like me now, that you'll just be able to waltz into my life when I am thin and hot... like me for me, right now, or don't waste my time."
I was concerned that I had killed my chances right there and then. But instead an amazing thing happened. At least four guys over a 2-month period messaged me, telling me they appreciated my honesty and were interested in getting to know me now.
All of them were very nice, funny, normal (and normal-sized, whatever "normal" means) guys. One of those guys turned out to be very special, and right now we are seeing each other exclusively, which is not something I was looking for... but then again, life is what happens when we are busy making other plans, right?
So the moral of this story? Be yourself, be truthful, and never be ashamed of yourself, big or small. It was a huge step for me to trust myself long enough to write a truthful dating profile... but the reward is worth it.
Highest weight: 340
Surgery weight: 313
Surgery date: 10/24/11
Current weight 157! 183 pounds lost!!!!!
5K #1 11/18/12 44 minutes! Next stop: duathlon!
I am not a doctor, but I play one at work.