How do you feel when people ask you how much you've lost?

z_m14
on 5/24/17 4:08 am
RNY on 07/05/16

I have people tell me all the time how "good" I look, but whenever someone asks me how much I've lost, it makes me somewhat uncomfortable. I know that I should be proud of the 145 lbs. (as of my doctor's visit in March - it's more than that, but I don't weigh myself) I've lost, but part of me hates revealing that number to everyone. Does anyone else feel weird when people ask how much?

Queen JB
on 5/24/17 4:33 am
RNY on 07/20/15

I never-ever tell people how much I have lost. None of your damn business!

Maybe I should adopt a different attitude, but I still live in the land of being more embarrassed of the high weight, than proud of the low weight.

But I don't get defensive, I just jokingly say, "A LOT!" and laugh a little, and they drop it. They'd have to be really assholy to insist on a number if you deflect like that.

  • High Weight before LapBand: 200 (2008)
  • High Weight before RNY: 160 (2015)
  • Lowest post-op weight: 110 (2016)
  • Maintenance Weight: 120 (2017-2019)
  • Battling Regain Weight: 135 (current)

peachpie
on 5/24/17 4:47 am - Philadelphia, PA
RNY on 04/28/15

Sometimes I'll say a lot, sometimes I'll say more than 50, 80, etc. I never give an exact #, other than to close family.

5'6.5" High weight:337 Lowest weight:193/31 BMI: Goal: 195-205/31-32 BMI

H.A.L.A B.
on 5/24/17 4:49 am

And for some people that are rude and clueless- if they ask me again - I smile and I ask "why do you need to know that? "

Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG

"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"

"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."

(deactivated member)
on 5/24/17 4:59 am
RNY on 11/22/16

I hate when people ask me. I feel awkward. I tell them that i have lost a lot, and that I really don't keep track. I am focusing on how good I feel and how much energy I have.

selhard
on 5/24/17 5:00 am, edited 5/23/17 10:15 pm - MN
RNY on 11/26/12

Whether the motive or not, people outside of immediate family who felt they had the prerogative to ask such a question were probably trying to calculate in their head how much I must have weighed at my highest. Following are possible future responses for your consideration: "medical staff is keeping track of numbers for me so I can concentrate on getting healthy," "that is a question I don't care to answer," "why do you want to know?" or simply "a lot." In retrospect, I wish I had evaded the question altogether because it doesn't even deserve acknowledgement.

(deactivated member)
on 5/24/17 5:32 am
RNY on 10/20/16

Between, "How much have you lost?" and "How do you feel?" I would really like to throat punch some of them. I mean I guess I can understand that they are trying to be supportive but why does it matter?

catwoman7
on 5/24/17 5:32 am
RNY on 06/03/15

my usual answer is "over 100 lbs". Never mind I've lost more than double that, but like another poster, I don't want them calculating what I must have weighed at my highest. Plus to normal people, 100 lbs sounds like a truckload of weight...

RNY 06/03/15 by Michael Garren (Madison, WI)

HW: 373 SW: 316 GW: 150 LW: 138 CW: 163

selhard
on 5/24/17 6:08 am, edited 5/23/17 11:10 pm - MN
RNY on 11/26/12

Like your answer, catwoman7. Living on a cattle farm with our bull weighing a typical bull size of 2,000 pounds, I contemplated answering, "I used to weigh more than our bull." (then think to myself, "calculate that.")

Corrie33
on 5/24/17 1:39 pm
RNY on 02/09/15

This is EXACTLY my answer as well.

GOAL REACHED! 170 lbs lost...

RNY: 2/9/15 (age 52), Ht-5'9" HW=304, SW=292, GW=155, LW=134, CW=147

Mo.1 -29lbs Mo.2 -18lbs Mo.3 -13lbs Mo.4 -11lbs Mo.5 - 14lbs Mo.6 - 10lbs Mo. 7 -11lbs Mo. 8 -9.4lbs

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