Snarky folks I need you - with pics
First let me say that I completely respect nice people - but I don't listen to them. I don't want cheerleaders. I want the ******es and the a**holes to come give me a good verbal beating. I want to hate you and love you at the same time for speaking the truth. That's what works for me. Nice folks feel free to post too - I'll try to "open my ears" as I tell my kids.
Here it goes.
1. Protein Bars - I'm addicted. I'm a slow loser and HATE that I can't have a single "treat", but I can't. I am almost out of the protein bars and I really want to go buy more, but they just aren't helping me lose weight. Damnit. It's decision time. Keep the protein bars and try to control the amount I have per day *laughs to self* or let them go and possibly cry a little - maybe curl up into a ball for awhile. They are my crack. My Precious!!!
2. I've been playing head games with myself about the 6 month post surgery mark that's quickly approaching. I think as a slow loser the whole "romance period" really messes with my head. I've sort of convinced myself that I won't lose after 6 months. I have allowed it to let me sabotage my own weightloss. I've literally been waiting for the hunger to come back (it hasn't) and I've made choices lately that I KNOW are because I'm setting myself up for failure just because I didn't reach my goal in 6 months. I would love to hear from anyone who reached to goal after 6 months, better yet after a year - because at the rate I'm losing , it will be over a year to get to goal. Am I right or wrong for thinking I'll fail after 6 months?
Day of Surgery
5 Months Out
LOL that's snarky enough, although I think you dialed it down a bit. Yeah, our conversation is what sparked this thread.
I just need the 6 mo date to get past. It's not helping that my man-child turns 14 next Monday.
Numbers are freaking me out this week.
I just hit my arbitrary goal today, and you know what.. meh. It's cool, I'm happy.. I realize I need to take pics.. but it wasn't a happy-happy-joy-joy moment for me.. just another day, another number.. I don't get the rush mentality. So what if it gets harder, so what if hunger comes back- if it does it does, the fight is to stay at a healthy weight for the rest of our lives- right? We are going to have to deal with those things eventually, but we can still lose with them happening- right?
What protein bars are da crack for you? Just wondering? I have some in the house, for emergency use only (aka PMS chocolate attack.) But.. get them out if you think they are damaging your efforts.. but are they really? Are you adding them on top of foods and upping the totals, or are they worked in to your macros for the day? Are they higher carb? Can you find a livable medium, tasty lower carb option that will let you enjoy what you enjoy and not slow you down?
To my eyes, you're doing great. I'm not you- but I don't see anything slow about the changes I see above in 6mo! Reality check- I think you are doing really good with everything but patience! I think if you think the protein bars are out, try getting them out and see if anything changes..
Edited to add: I just saw your ticker.. um, you are not a slow loser.
I love *carresses" Oh Yeah! peanut butter and choc wafers and Protein Crunch peanut butter and choc wafers.
I'm a slow loser because I lose 1-2 lbs a week and my BMR is 1814 (yep, you read that right) I should be losing 3-4 a week, but I'm lucky to lose 1 lb. It was this way for me before surgery too. Doc says it's just the way I lose, my body is "very efficient at keeping the fat." Whatever.
Throw that "should lose" out the window already. I lost about the same speed you are, and I never considered myself a slow loser. "Whatever" is the best attitude to have.. just do what you need to do, pay no attention to the man behind the curtain -errr, the scale, and keep going.. what's the alternative, really?
I would try to think more positively about your weight loss too rather then dooming yourself for failure at the 6 month mark. I don't know if you have ever watched The Secret or read the book but basically its all about the power of thinking positively and having good thoughts and emotions. Good things seem to follow when you spend most of your day thinking positively and feeling good about yourself. I see a drastic difference in your before and after photo's and I think you look MUCH better .. you should be quite proud of what you have done!
I did read The Secret and you are absolutely right, I need to change my thinking about all of this.
Now I am just going to say it. If you know that the protein bars are underminng your success, cut that **** out. Don't buy more. I am not of the mindset that one has to be absolutely perfect, that balance is key. But on the other hand ,I AM of the mindset that you set yourself up for failure if you keep that crap in the house knowing full well you won't be able to stay out of it. So what do you gain by keeping it in the house- nothing, and the consequences are not worth it. I can't keep cookies and ice cream in the hosue- I just can't stop shoveling that kind of stuff in. My family understands.
I empathize with you about the concern of coming off of the honeymoon period. This weights on me too, but I take note that there are many posters here who continue to lose positive amounts of weight months and months past the 6 month period. I know that I will need to continue after 6 months, as I started out having to lose a whole lot of weight. I am ok with that and confident that I will continue to lose, albeit qiuite possibly at a slower rate. Do not let the mindset of it being difficult or making a bad choce translate into giving yourself permission to screw up even more- that is a mindset that you need to work very hard at to banish and allow yourself to fulfill your weightloss goal. You can do this!
Surgeon: Chengelis Surgery on 12/19/2011 Carb eating loose sleever here!
1Mo: -21 2Mo: -16 3Mo: -12 4MO - 13 5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6 9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10 MO 10: -8 MO 11: +1 MO 12: -1.4 Mo 13-14: 0 Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good! Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24 BMI 23 CW: 179 Goal in 8 months 4 days!! 6' 2'' EWL 112% Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5 150+ pounds lost
Get rid of the protein bars and any useless carbs and get back to the business of getting the weight off. You're young and have that going for you. Take advantage of it, don't let your window of opportunity close because that's when the real crying would begin.
I don't pick favorites, *whispers* but don't tell anyone else, I love you the most right now because you said my favorite word - young.
I'm 41. So THANK YOU for saying I'm young!
Yes! You've reminded me that I'm in this to the finish! It's a life thing! Okay! I can do this!
I know the protein bars need to go - I need to pout about it for while longer.