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on 4/9/12 7:42 am - CO

First let me say that I completely respect nice people - but I don't listen to them. I don't want cheerleaders. I want the ******es and the a**holes to come give me a good verbal beating. I want to hate you and love you at the same time for speaking the truth. That's what works for me. Nice folks feel free to post too -  I'll try to "open my ears" as I tell my kids.

Here it goes.

1. Protein Bars - I'm addicted. I'm a slow loser and HATE that I can't have a single "treat", but I can't. I am almost out of the protein bars and I really want to go buy more, but they just aren't helping me lose weight. Damnit. It's decision time. Keep the protein bars and try to control the amount I have per day *laughs to self* or let them go and possibly cry a little - maybe curl up into a ball for awhile. They are my crack. My Precious!!!

2. I've been playing head games with myself about the 6 month post surgery mark that's quickly approaching. I think as a slow loser the whole "romance period" really messes with my head. I've sort of convinced myself that I won't lose after 6 months. I have allowed it to let me sabotage my own weightloss. I've literally been waiting for the hunger to come back (it hasn't) and I've made choices lately that I KNOW are because I'm setting myself up for failure just because I didn't reach my goal in 6 months. I would love to hear from anyone who reached to goal after 6 months, better yet after a year - because at the rate I'm losing , it will be over a year to get to goal. Am I right or wrong for thinking I'll fail after 6 months?

Bring it!

Day of Surgery

5 Months Out

Hair Donation

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



on 4/9/12 7:49 am - CO
Oh, and don't freak out about the hair. I'd been planning to donate it before surgery.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



on 4/9/12 12:38 pm - los angeles, CA
I already danced the dance of the protein bars with you.  Cut them down, then cut them out.  I did the same mind **** at 6 months and started to slip but then i bucked up better in fact because of fear and the number of old posts i read about folks losing 40-50lbs and then stopping.  my weight loss has been better since month 6.  it's been a struggle but what the hell isn't.  Now get your ass in gear i don't have time to kick yours as well as my own.  Snarky enough?)
on 4/9/12 1:01 pm - CO

LOL that's snarky enough, although I think you dialed it down a bit.  Yeah, our conversation is what sparked this thread.

I just need the 6 mo date to get past. It's not helping that my man-child turns 14 next Monday.

Numbers are freaking me out this week.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



on 4/9/12 7:58 am
VSG on 03/07/12 with
 Wow, that's a lot of hair 

But I am nice and i think you look wonderful! (I was never a cheerleader though LOL) 

 VSG 3/07/12     HW:260   SW: 249   CW:164  


on 4/9/12 8:06 am - CO
Thanks Amber. I was never a cheerleader either.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



on 4/9/12 8:07 am, edited 4/9/12 8:07 am
VSG on 04/11/11 with
Ha! The whole time I was losing I was scared ****less it'd stop any minute and that would be it.. worse when I started only losing maybe 7-10days out of a month..Heck, I didn't totally believe I'd make it to goal to begin with.. that's a weight I last saw over 15 years ago. I didn't reach any of the % 3mo/6mo etc. "goals".. WTF are goals anyway?? It's not like we can return this thing, it's kinda with us till we die.. so you got till then I guess to make it work for you..

I just hit my arbitrary goal today, and you know what.. meh. It's cool, I'm happy.. I realize I need to take pics.. but it wasn't a happy-happy-joy-joy moment for me.. just another day, another number.. I don't get the rush mentality. So what if it gets harder, so what if hunger comes back- if it does it does, the fight is to stay at a healthy weight for the rest of our lives- right? We are going to have to deal with those things eventually, but we can still lose with them happening- right?

What protein bars are da crack for you? Just wondering? I have some in the house, for emergency use only (aka PMS chocolate attack.) But.. get them out if you think they are damaging your efforts.. but are they really? Are you adding them on top of foods and upping the totals, or are they worked in to your macros for the day? Are they higher carb? Can you find a livable medium, tasty lower carb option that will let you enjoy what you enjoy and not slow you down?

To my eyes, you're doing great. I'm not you- but I don't see anything slow about the changes I see above in 6mo! Reality check- I think you are doing really good with everything but patience! I think if you think the protein bars are out, try getting them out and see if anything changes..

Edited to add: I just saw your ticker.. um, you are not a slow loser. 

on 4/9/12 8:29 am - CO
Thanks INgirl. I like your view on goals. LOL - definitely no return policy on my Sleeve!

I love *carresses" Oh Yeah! peanut butter and choc wafers and Protein Crunch peanut butter and choc wafers.

I'm a slow loser because I lose 1-2 lbs a week and my BMR is 1814 (yep, you read that right) I should be losing 3-4 a week, but I'm lucky to lose 1 lb. It was this way for me before surgery too. Doc says it's just the way I lose, my body is "very efficient at keeping the fat." Whatever.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



on 4/9/12 8:34 am
VSG on 04/11/11 with
Now I understand the crack better- I have a stockpile of Oh Yeah Chocolate Mint (discontinued) and love the Peanut Butter Cup too.. they are my favs as well, and frankly- a great nut profile!

Throw that "should lose" out the window already. I lost about the same speed you are, and I never considered myself a slow loser. "Whatever" is the best attitude to have.. just do what you need to do, pay no attention to the man behind the curtain -errr, the scale, and keep going.. what's the alternative, really? 

on 4/9/12 9:17 am - CO

No alerneative. Just keep losing.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



Kevin H.
on 4/9/12 8:07 am - Baltimore, MD
VSG on 02/06/12
 I just started counseling .. I've been to 2 sessions so far.  You are very lucky that you don't get hungry.  I am hungry quite a lot and it makes my battle so much harder.  At least you have that going for you.  I bring up the counseling because if your not hungry then why are you addicted to protein bars?  Why eat them if your not hungry?  Maybe the counseling will help you with your mental/head/food addiction issues like I'm hoping it will for me.

I would try to think more positively about your weight loss too rather then dooming yourself for failure at the 6 month mark.  I don't know if you have ever watched The Secret or read the book but basically its all about the power of thinking positively and having good thoughts and emotions.  Good things seem to follow when you spend most of your day thinking positively and feeling good about yourself.  I see a drastic difference in your before and after photo's and I think you look MUCH better .. you should be quite proud of what you have done!


on 4/9/12 8:30 am - CO
I made a counselor run out of the room crying once - does that count? (kidding. I'm kidding)

I did read The Secret and you are absolutely right, I need to change my thinking about all of this.

Thanks khessmd

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



on 4/9/12 8:08 am
VSG on 01/05/12
I was just sleeved 3 months ago so I can't offer input on losing after the six month mark, but I hear ya about the protein bars! I was eating them daily and just realized that they really need to be a once in awhile treat because they are too much like eating candy bars. I am not sure if they are affecting the rate of my weight loss but I am not cool with what they do to my mindset. By the way, you look great!
on 4/9/12 8:32 am - CO
I'm still losing with the protein bars - for now. But, they are taking up brain time and that's a red light for me. If I'm thinking about them too much - they need to go.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



on 4/9/12 8:37 am
VSG on 04/11/11 with
This is true- they may not be bad nutritionally, but mentally.. if they are calling to you all the time.. yeah, go cold-turkey for a while. They can always come back in during maintenance if wanted, even just for an occasional visit. Trigger foods- I cannot have them in the house. I have a few, I can visit with them over friends houses, but they get left behind when I leave.
on 4/9/12 8:46 am - CO
Yes! it Sucks that a protein bar is a trigger food for me!

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



on 4/9/12 8:10 am
 First off, you look incredible- a huge difference in the pics.  As far as the protein bars- can you substitute in a different form of crack that will not sabotage your efforts?  Maybe switch brands to something that has less cals and carbs even?  Here is a strategy that I use that has helped.  When I really feel like I must have something I do not buy it and keep it stocked in the house.  Instead, I walk the mile or so up to Kroger and puchase just one even if this means throwing out others in the trash outside of the store- skinny cow has been victimized by this.  By the time I walk up there and back I have burned at least some of the calories from the choice.  Many times I realize that it isn't worth the walk, or even better by the time I make it to Kroger I am sufficiently distracted enough to not buy it.  

Now I am just going to say it.  If you know that the protein bars are underminng your success, cut that **** out.  Don't buy more.  I am not of the mindset that one has to be absolutely perfect, that balance is key.  But on the other hand ,I AM of the mindset that you set yourself up for failure if you keep that crap in the house knowing full well you won't be able to stay out of it.  So what do you gain by keeping it in the house- nothing, and the consequences are not worth it.  I can't keep cookies and ice cream in the hosue- I just can't stop shoveling that kind of stuff in.  My family understands.  

I empathize with you about the concern of coming off of the honeymoon period.  This weights on me too, but I take note that there are many posters here who continue to lose positive amounts of weight months and months past the 6 month period.  I know that I will need to continue after 6 months, as I started out having to lose a whole lot of weight.  I am ok with that and confident that I will continue to lose, albeit qiuite possibly at a slower rate.  Do not let the mindset of it being difficult or making a bad choce translate into giving yourself permission to screw up even more- that is a mindset that you need to work very hard at to banish and allow yourself to fulfill your weightloss goal.  You can do this!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  BMI 24  CW: 188  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 103%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) now size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

on 4/9/12 8:33 am - CO
I like the idea of having to walk to the store to get a protein bar. Hmmmm... I might have to steal that one.

Thanks for seeing the difference. The pics help me see what I don't see in the mirror.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton



Lee ~
on 4/9/12 8:16 am - CA
 Slow loser here.  During year one I got down to 168. Year two I went from 168 to 145.  Still losing during year three.  Lots harder to get each pound off after 9 months but it can be done. I was diagnosed with thyroid disease at six months out.  Exercised at least an hour a day, sometimes two hours, kept calories under 800 and carbs low.  It still took me a long time, but I was determined.

Get rid of the protein bars and any useless carbs and get back to the business of getting the weight off.  You're young and have that going for you. Take advantage of it,  don't let your window of opportunity close because that's when the real crying would begin.

HW: 249   SW: 229 GW: 149 Age: 63 - Body by Sauceda - 12/2011

on 4/9/12 8:38 am - CO

I don't pick favorites, *whispers* but don't tell anyone else, I love you the most right now because you said my favorite word - young.

I'm 41. So THANK YOU for saying I'm young!

Yes! You've reminded me that I'm in this to the finish! It's a life thing! Okay! I can do this!

I know the protein bars need to go - I need to pout about it for while longer.

VSG 10/18/11      If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.-Dolly Parton