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happiegirl
on 4/11/12 7:30 am - Albuquerque, NM
VSG on 04/24/12
My boyfriend has never supported the surgery.  Even as I started the liquid diet...he was like you don't have to do this.  He's been so mean to me recently.  I guess it's because of the surgery...but really I don't know.  My mom is going to go with me, which is probably better because she really supports me doing this.  I know my boyfriend and I are breaking up...it's just something that's going to happen.  I love him but it's just not working.  There is just too much resentment.  I wish I didn't have to go through this and surgery...but I guess I have to.

HW: 351 Pre-op: 272  Current: 140.7 Goal:160      M1:14 M2:14  M3:11  M4:10 M5:10  M6:12  M7:8  M8:6 M9: 6 M10:7 M11: 6 M12: 4 M13: 5 M14:7 M15: 4 M16: 3 M17: 1   M18: 4

 
"Glory lies in the attempt to reach one's goal and not in reaching it." - Gandhi
 

    

doggz109
on 4/11/12 7:32 am - CA
VSG on 01/12/12 with
Awww I'm sorry you are going through this......surgery is tough enough without this crap on the back burner.

I do agree though......your relationship is over.  People support those who they love and care about....they don't abandon them when they are needed even if they may disagree with what someone is doing.  But I mean.....come on....its not like you are doing something BAD or foolish...you are trying to improve your health.

Hope things get better for you. 
happiegirl
on 4/11/12 8:00 am - Albuquerque, NM
VSG on 04/24/12
Yup...you are right...people that love you support you!  Thanks!

HW: 351 Pre-op: 272  Current: 140.7 Goal:160      M1:14 M2:14  M3:11  M4:10 M5:10  M6:12  M7:8  M8:6 M9: 6 M10:7 M11: 6 M12: 4 M13: 5 M14:7 M15: 4 M16: 3 M17: 1   M18: 4

 
"Glory lies in the attempt to reach one's goal and not in reaching it." - Gandhi
 

    

onemoretry
on 4/11/12 7:37 am - GA
VSG on 03/21/12 with
Doggz said it best! Put yourself first and formost. You can get through this! I'm sorry that it has to be this way, but better to get it out of the way now, so you can concentrate on you. {{{Hugs}}}
HT: 5'4"      HW: 251  SW: 237  CW: 172 GW: 135 
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happiegirl
on 4/11/12 8:02 am - Albuquerque, NM
VSG on 04/24/12
This is actually the first time in a long time something is going to be about just me...even though he thinks I'm the most selfish person in the world.  I really do things for others always...he just doesn't see it.

HW: 351 Pre-op: 272  Current: 140.7 Goal:160      M1:14 M2:14  M3:11  M4:10 M5:10  M6:12  M7:8  M8:6 M9: 6 M10:7 M11: 6 M12: 4 M13: 5 M14:7 M15: 4 M16: 3 M17: 1   M18: 4

 
"Glory lies in the attempt to reach one's goal and not in reaching it." - Gandhi
 

    

felicity2u
on 4/11/12 7:40 am - LA
I'm so sorry you are going through this at this time but in the end, it is probably for the best.  You only need to surround yourself with people that are going to be there for you every step of the way. It doesn't sound like he was much of a catch anyways if he wasn't going to support you through one of the most important things in your life. It speaks volumes about a person.  Trust me, when you get to goal, he is going to regret not supporting you, lol and you can just rub it in his face.  Everything happens for a reason.  Focus on what's important right now, yourself! Good luck on your surgery!
     
   
    
If you fear nothing, then you love nothing. If you love nothing, what joy can there be in life?
                       VSG-3/3/2011 HW-308 SW-298 CW-152 GW-160
                                                156LBS. LOST

happiegirl
on 4/11/12 8:01 am - Albuquerque, NM
VSG on 04/24/12
Right?! Only positive vibes!

HW: 351 Pre-op: 272  Current: 140.7 Goal:160      M1:14 M2:14  M3:11  M4:10 M5:10  M6:12  M7:8  M8:6 M9: 6 M10:7 M11: 6 M12: 4 M13: 5 M14:7 M15: 4 M16: 3 M17: 1   M18: 4

 
"Glory lies in the attempt to reach one's goal and not in reaching it." - Gandhi
 

    

BriarRose
on 4/11/12 7:49 am
Sorry about the relationship....Just think about it as losing MORE unneeded weight !!!! And you will be fine without him. YOU need people who are supportive, not dead weight hanging around pulling you down.

I did my surgery with no one around for support. The nurses will be right there to help you. Ask for help, and lean on yourself, and know that you are making healthy decisions for yourself !!!
Briar Rose  
High Wt 300 lbs.  Pre-op Wt loss 34 lbs.   
happiegirl
on 4/11/12 8:00 am - Albuquerque, NM
VSG on 04/24/12
lol that was funny!  Thanks for the smile!

HW: 351 Pre-op: 272  Current: 140.7 Goal:160      M1:14 M2:14  M3:11  M4:10 M5:10  M6:12  M7:8  M8:6 M9: 6 M10:7 M11: 6 M12: 4 M13: 5 M14:7 M15: 4 M16: 3 M17: 1   M18: 4

 
"Glory lies in the attempt to reach one's goal and not in reaching it." - Gandhi
 

    

Marabell
on 4/11/12 7:52 am
VSG on 06/07/12
man...that stinks...Im so sorry you are dealing with that heartache. but you know...excess weight is just that...not needed...serving no purpose...so whether its actually ON your body or not..its still surrounding you and weighing you down....its time to say goodbye..

this is YOUR time...time to be selfish and time to do what you would tell your best girlfriend to do....

((((((hugs))))))