Tired of this diet and feeling like giving up...rant

on 4/11/12 12:23 am - Charlotte, NC

...but I probably won't.  I'm just tired of seeing the scale creep down, then up....then slowly down again by ounces...I'm almost at my 6 month mark and worried because I'm only down 66 pounds since surgery...well...as of this morning I'm back up 2 pounds...and I don't understand.  I eat between 600-800 calories a day, I exercise at least 3-4 times a week.  I "cheat" very little, and when I do, I'm typically still staying in my calorie range.  I'm low carbing it...my body constantly aches from exercise....and I'm not losing like I should be.  I don't know if it's due to my PCOS or what.  I've actually started avoiding this site, which I love, because I'm tired of see posts of people reaching goal in 6 months, 8 months...I'm not even at my halfway mark, which is where I wanted to be by 6 months.  I feel like I'm depriving myself for nothing.  And I can't even go out and eat a bacon cheeseburger or half a pizza to make me feel better...

I know that I would never have lost this weight without the surgery...and I know that this feeling will pass.  I just want to know what I am doing wrong that I'm not getting the same results I see in other people...It could be worse I guess, I could be losing my hair. Oh wait, I am.

Thanks...just needed to unload a little.


on 4/11/12 12:30 am - CA
VSG on 01/12/12
Hmm.....need more info to see if there really is a problem at all.  66 lbs in six months is pretty damn good actually....especially depending on your start wt.

So lets have it.

Start Wt

Current Wt

Goal Wt


What is your typical daily menu?  Be honest......not your best day....your nomal day.  What do you do for exercise?  How often?

on 4/11/12 1:09 am - Charlotte, NC

OK, you asked for it.

Start:  307
Current: 243 (up 2 lbs from yesterday, wth???)
Goal: Dream 150, Realistic 165-175
Height 5'2

Typical daily menu...I can't say what's typical...but check out my recent tracking.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/food/diary/jastrong78?date=2012- 04-08

Looking back at the last couple of weeks I have been over my cals on some days, but keep in mind that I'm not tracking all my exercise.  I find it hard to find the right descriptions on myfitnesspal. 

I do Zumba either at home or take a class once or twice a week, Been working with a trainer for 30 mins once a week the last 3 weeks mostly doing strength training, and I typically do cardio, treadmill or elliptical at least 1 - 2 times a week along with strength training exercises. 

The only thing I can think of is I need to start keeping my carbs below 40 everyday...and also improve water intake.  I do not track water, and I should start.



on 4/11/12 1:19 am - Charlotte, NC
oh, I'm jastrong78 on myfitnesspal

Kevin H.
on 4/11/12 12:32 am - Baltimore, MD
VSG on 02/06/12
 This is a change you made for life.  I know its disheartening but as long as you are loosing the weight and not gaining your heading the right way.  They say you loose most of your weight in the first 6 months to 1 year but that doesn't mean that it just has to stop.  Keep on keeping on ... you'll get there when your body is ready to get there.  It's not really a race and if it is .. its only because you have made it into one comparing yourself to other people.  I've had to deal with the same feelings you are having so I know how you feel.  I wonder if I'm ever going to get there myself sometimes when I see no loss on the scale for a while, but what can we do other then just keep on trying?

Best of luck to you!


on 4/11/12 12:36 am
VSG on 06/07/12
you know I havent had my surgery yet so all I can say is what has been posted...are you tracking EVERYTHING that goes into your mouth? are you getting in enuff protein? water?

remember the feeling you had when you created your user name...YOU ARE STRONGER 1....do not give up on yourself....you are too important...take time to truly reflect on what you are doing and stay OR get back on track and the results you want will come. 66 lbs. really?! that aint nuttin to be mad at...

HANG IN THERE...give yourself a fighting chance


on 4/11/12 12:44 am - LA
I know that it is very frustrating at times but you will get there.  Like some of the others have said, 66lbs in 6 monts is fantastic.  If you keep it up, then after a year you will be over 120lbs down, that's not too shabby.  I agree, it gets annoying to see others that lose weight really fast but we are all different.  Try to lay off of the "cheating" as that might be slowing you down as well.  Make sure you are getting in all your liquids and protein as this is very important.  You are doing awesome, don't give up!
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                                                156LBS. LOST

on 4/11/12 1:17 am - Charlotte, NC
Thanks for the encouragement, and congrats on reaching your goal!!!! 

on 4/11/12 1:06 am - GA
VSG on 03/21/12
Don't short change yourself. You have lost 66lbs in 4 months according to your avatar, you had surgery on 12/1/11. That is fantastic! You still have 2 months to go and I am will to bet you will make that half way point.

We bit off a lot when we decided to have this surgery and actually went through with it. I'm only 3 weeks out and already miss eating my favorite foods, but we did this to feel better, to get healthy and live long lives. You can do this!
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on 4/11/12 1:15 am - Granada Hills, CA
I think it's time to get away from the diet mentality, and away from thinking that *this* is something you can quit. What do you mean quit - you are just going to eat whatever you want, whatever unhealthy stuff you want?

Once we altered our anatomy, our health really depends on the choices we make, more so than for people with "normal" sized stomachs. Quitting isn't an option - just repeat that over and over.

Set some goals for yourself. Pursue something OTHER than weight loss. Reframe what you are doing from simply "dieting' and look at it and start working towards life style changes.

Ive been in weight loss mode for almost 2 years now - that's almost 4x as long as it takes some of these people to reach goal, and im not even that close yet. It SUCKS. It's tiring. But, I don't have an option, and that's what I've told myself from the beginning and it keeps me going. I don't think I'm on a diet. Even if I wanted to "give up" - I'm still going to be making my food every day and measuring my portions out (since I pretty much only own 1/2 cup size dishes lol) and there's still only healthy food in my house. I know that after 2 years of making some changes - I can fall back on those when my will power fails - and I'll be o****il I can get back up.

You have done very well - there's absolutely nothing unusual or "wrong" about your numbers - that is a very steady WL and above 10lbs per month which is amazing. You have to get your head in your game - and dont compare yourself to all of these other people. Every body is different - we all lose weight at different paces - I should have been at goal by now with some of the people that started around my weight, but I'm not, and OH WELL. Just keep going - you will get there!

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