I feel completely off track.  I AM completely off track.  My husband and I both.  We have been discussing trying to refocus, maybe start the gradual diet from day one, with liquid.  What would you/have you guys done to kind of hit "reset" and get your weighloss going again?  Is it possible to get some restriction back?  I feel like I can eat way more than I should.  

I feel like I have failed.  

 Food addiction couseling .. preferably with some nutrition education / background .. back to basics with the shakes, low fat dense protein, lots of water in between meals to keep you busy and tummy active, etc.  You lost 127 lbs .. you know what to do.

Best of luck getting back on track.

Awww...it's always a ***** at this point. sorry.

Start with a mind set.... both of you.
Pick a day
Go back to pre op diet for a week
Then to the liquid, mushy stage.
during that time educate yourself (again)
on protein first, carbs, etc.
Set a date for a check in...like 30 days.

Just a suggestion.
good luck
donna

I would definitly recommned going to the NUT.  I went to mine last night as I have been a slow loser.  She told me I needed more calories, more carbs and more fiber.  We'll see how it goes, I am following her orders to a T in hopes to boost my weight loss.

You have not failed. You are here seeking help. `Failure would be staying off track! You've clearly strayed and want to get back on track. That's not failure to me, but you are tempting fate...

SO.......

Like Kevin H. wrote, you must get back to basics!

Not sure what your basic program is, but it must be pretty sound since you have lost almost 130 pounds already!

Have you had regain? If so, congrats on getting it in control before you gain too much! Good for you.

I would go back to 2 to 3 oz servings of LEAN, DENSE protein and some veggies at each and every meal. Plan out your snacks - measured portions of beef jerkey, low fat cheese, greek yogurt, hard cooked eggs, etc...

Drink lots and lots of water. My doc wants me drinking quite a bit more during the summer time. We had a conversation about it at my six month check up last week. I'm supposed to have 1 ounce of water for every 2 pounds of body weight - minimum!  So for me, I'm drinking about 90 oz of water (or non caffinated liquid) per day just to stay minimally hydrated.

Next, stop "trying to refocus". Refocus. By discussing the concept you are leaving a door wide open to not refocus. The only person you can be responsible for when it comes to eating is yourself. Your husband must come to his own decision. If you are ready, just do it. Kick yourself in the ass and get back on track. If hubby is not ready, too bad for him! Don't let him pull you down.

Please feel free to PM if you need a little cheering on!

LIKE!!

 The first thing you have to do is to get rid of the guilt.  You havent failed, you may have made some bad choices.

To get back on track, you just have to start making better choices.  Its not rocket science - its that easy.

For me, I wouldn't try to restart the whole process.  You have been successful at losing weight, your ticker shows that.  What you have to do is go back to basics, including:

1.  Plan Your Meals, Measur your portions
2.  Journal everything you eat - if it goes in your mouth it goes in your journal
3.  Cut out the carbs and snacking
4.  Get your head back in the game - meaning go back to your support groups, get private counseling if you can.

My center has a "Back on Track" group specifically for people who are in your position.  You may see if there is something like that in your area.

Main thing - let go of the guilt and feelings of failure.  They do not serve you.

LIKE!

When I feel like I'm letting junk back into my diet or if I feel like I've been grazing too much, I do the 5-day pouch test. Google "5-day pouch test" and you'll find several sites that will walk you through it. Technically, it is to get you using your stomach restriction correctly to monitor fullness, etc. I use it more to clean up my intake.

It helps me get back on track every time. I like it because it gives you a five-day menu to follow so I don't have to think about it, just do it. In the past, I've also used it to break stalls.

This sounds exactly like what we need to do!  Thank you so much for this info!!!

 The 5DPT is GREAT! back to basics...when your done..gently ease into HI FIBER carbs...and see how it goes. Startin to get outta control..no weight loss pull back on them reigns. 

I usually drop 5 ..but once following it to a T and uppin that burn I lost 8 in 5DAYS!


Some caveats on doin it...gettin into ketosis.

Stalls and Plateaus...gotta scroll down some

http://www.obesityhelp.com/member/carmelita/blog/tag/stalls+ and+plateaus/

 I picked a day - Sunday - as my automatic "reset button" day if I need it. Every single Sunday for a year (with a few exceptions when out of town for an extended period) I have a routine. I wake up - I exercise. I review my goals (which i keep on my note pad on my ipad which is never more than a few feet from me :-p). I think about the previous week - what was i going through, how did I do, what can I do better. I think about going grocery shopping. Get myself pumped up a little - excited to be able to start a new week. Then - when, and only when, I am in the right frame of my mind, I head to the grocery store, and I know what i want, and I stick to it. I dont ever really feel tempted to grab stuff I don't need (sometimes I get a little sad knowing I can't eat the same crap I used to but it doesnt tempt me). I go home - unpack. And then I prepare my meals for the week - I pack everything in my little 1/2 cup containers and I'm ready to go. That way - I dont have to decide in the middle of a stressful week what and how much I am going to eat. I only have things I need in my house - I never bring the junk food in. Ever. 

The only way I'm ever really able to "reset" is by planning, planning and more planning. When I am an emotional wreck, I can't trust myself to make decisions in the spur of the moment, so I absolutely have to have a plan. And even when I dont feel like making better decisions, if I have a plan, its kind of comforting to me. It might be a little of my OCD side, but I can't emphasize enough how much we need a plan - and im talking about more than a plan for the next meal. You need a global idea of how your day and week is going to go. Dont go back to the beginning - that doesnt help. That continues the diet mentality. Get back to the bbasics - back to your PLAN. 

LIKE!!

Make a ceremony of it.  Make it a celebration; a holiday.

Oh, and throw away EVERYTHING in the house you're not supposed to eat.  Every little thing.

You make dense protein 80% or more of your food, that restriction will come back but do not rely upon restriction to tell you when to stop eating.  I'm  a big fan of Frisco's philosophy here.  I agree with him that if you're getting restriction, then you're eating too much.  Weigh out your food, measure it, eat it, be done.  That's what some (not all) but many of the most successful vets do, and it's what I do as well.

 I'm a year out and can eat two to three times what I could post-op. It's still miles away from the endless capacity that I had before my surgery. I just slammed down TWO small salads a moment ago and I'm stuffed. I keep thinking "My restriction is gone!" But then I think about the large Jack In The Box Meal + Shake + Extra Burger I used to put away a couple years ago and it really puts things in perspective. If you want to press the reset button, I've got two simple words:

Atkins Induction

Look it up, and happy losing.

So many good answers!!  Ignore the guilt and shame, it is counterproductive.  For me, it's the addiction trying to tell me not to even try, I'm a failure, I might as well eat.  When I say I am "hard wired" to have food issues, I mean that left to my own devices, I will gravitate instinctively toward using food to manage my feelings.  Even though it's not a very effective feeling-manager!  SO, it takes daily focus, it takes a plan, it takes acceptance (for me) that I don't have good food instincts.  And to stop waiting for the day when I *will* have good food instincts.  Hugs!!