Listen, I am not a big believer in expressing a lot of angry feelings. I don't mean, stuffing your anger or not letting people know when you're angry. But I had a therapist tell me once that research showed that emoting a lot of angry feelings (like yelling and throwing things - my favorite!) actually exacerbates the feelings, not disappates them. So I really, really try to tell myself that yelling will make me feel worse.
I raised two girls, and nothing *ever* pushed my buttons like a 13-yr-old girl. It was very hard, and I wasn't able to stay serene very often. But it really, really worked when I could actually disconnect for a bit instead of having it out with my kids or partner. Which is, believe me, my first instinct.
53 yrs old, 5'6" HW: 293 ConsW: 273 SW: 263 CW: 163