happyteacher’s Posts

happyteacher
on 11/24/14 3:15 pm
Topic: RE: Down two sizes, no weight loss

I think you make a good point about weight vs. size... I weigh 190 and a size 12 tall. Medium shirts are too tight for my taste, but if they are a tall they fit like most women wear them. I am a giant, and not skinny nor fat, but a 12 doesn't seem right. My daighter is 6'2'' and a size 2. Yes, she is very trim but not grossly underweight by any stretch of the imagination. What do short women do? Wear negative sizes? I truly have no idea how that works, unless it is reverting to the childrens department.

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/22/14 7:18 pm
Topic: RE: Galaxy s5 s health app- stress meter question

Thanks all!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/22/14 1:23 pm
Topic: RE: New to Forum - Prospective Sleever

I agree- it is not unsual to NOT be nervous, just as it is not unusual to be nervous. It just depends is all. I was like you, once I decided I was not nervous about the procedure. Congrats on making the decision!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/17/14 4:32 pm
Topic: RE: Galaxy s5 s health app- stress meter question

I just got a S5 and saw the S health app, and then the stress meter. Mine is red. I am not surprised. But I am curious if others out there find that it seems like it is a fairly decent measure, or if it is just a spoof. And is there anyway to log exercise as elliptical, instead of the preset running, hiking, walking thing?  Thanks in advance-

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/16/14 2:48 pm
Topic: RE: Thanksgiving. What are some good choices.

Typically there are fresh veggies, salads, and cooked veggies to go along with that lean turkey. I always find that turkey day it is pretty easyto eat a healthy meal, assuming once can stay away from the desserts. I usually make a dessert that is 100 calories for anyone attending that wants a lighter fare.

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/13/14 8:05 pm
Topic: RE: Has my VSG journey been out of the norm?

Hello,

I did not share your experience of the extended stay in the hospital and cannot really comment on whether what you are experiencing is related to that, related to overeating, or similar to what I went through. With that said I:

- had no trouble putting that much down in the early days as well. In fact, from week 2- week 6 I experienced some distress over the idea that I was failing the process so early out due to this. Eventually I asked the surgeon what size sleeve I had, and sure enough it was larger than what is typically on this boards (in the 40's somewhere, I don't exactly remember). I did not feel a strong sense of satiety during this period.

-once dense protein hit whoooaaaa mama, did I feel the restriction. Large sleeve and all, I made it to goal with no problems. 

-do not eat more than measured... the nerves in your stomach are cut so you will not experience the "normal" full feeling nor possibly even a warning of signifcantly overeating and putting stress on that raw staple line. 

- consider a ppi. That absolutely mimics hunger for me. I don't have persistent issues with acid, but when it flares up I feel a false sense of hunger frequently. 

- you are in the classic stall period so don't stress. Stick to your plan and the plan will work. 

Welcome to the bench!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/11/14 4:46 pm
Topic: RE: Would you have self paid?

100% yes. Loans, sell the jewlery- whatever it took. 

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/11/14 4:36 pm
Topic: RE: Early stages of research

I will keep the answers simple, but if you want more detail don't hesitate to ask.

Went to a RNY consult, husband was scared, I didn't do it. 2 years later, diagnosed with cancer and utterly unable at this point to lose nor even slow down rapid gain. Heard about the sleeve over the summer, immediately called to start the process. It took 3 months. Would have been faster if it didn't take so long to schedule the pre req appointments. 

I can eat just about anything. Dry protein (overcooked meat type) is not a friend, but generally I eat anything. 

Surprised that I made goal to be brutally honest. I was in such a dark place before surgery I was simply hoping to lose enough to be able to move around a little better. Unpleasant surprise- my cholesterol went up. Surprised how much the NUT and going to support group helped. Surprised my husband did a 180 (he was scared and didn't want me to have surgery). Surprised he lost over a 100 pounds with me. Love how healthy I feel now. 

I rarely drink both before and after surgery. It hits me fast though, so one glass of wine and I am done. 

You don't drink with food because it washes the food through faster, hungry faster, and takes up real estate- of which will be heavily restricted.

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/11/14 4:22 pm
Topic: RE: Carb cycling - Help, how do I stop?!?!?

If you are hypoglycemic and go low (no) carb- be sure to monitor your blood sugar. Eat dense protein and green leafy veggies. Set a time in between meals that you will not eat (unless of course you are legit low blood sugar and need to). Perhaps try an acid reducer- acid can mimic hunger. 

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/11/14 3:12 pm
Topic: RE: Stall at 3wks post-op....Normal????

What everybody above said! Just a side note that some of us lose in a stair step manner. Myself- pretty steady for the first couple months (not including the 3 week stall). Then, no loss for up to 21 days and BAM! 8 pounds in 2 days. First time it happened it freaked me out, but by the third cycle I settled down. Remember- if you work your plan, your plan will work. Just don't bull**** yourself!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/11/14 3:09 pm
Topic: RE: PLASTIC SURGERY AFTER MEETING GOAL WEIGHT

I carried the bulk of the weight in the abdomen and there was no amount of exercise that could repair that. I had PS (anchor cut TT) and the result are amazing. Yes, i have a scar-but what the hell, it just matches my 100+ other scars. The skin, on the other hand, really bothered me. I worked hard to get the weight off, and that skin and stretched muscle issue was making me feel like i didn't "finish" the job. If I could afford it, I would totally nix the turkey waddle!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/11/14 3:06 pm
Topic: RE: How do you make time for exercise?

School teacher here... I start my day by leaving my house by 6:15 a.m., return home 5:30-6:30 with a couple hours of "homework" a night. I am tired, tired, tired some days. What works for me is simply setting my goal of "20 minutes". No matter how tired I am or how busy, I can manage 20 minutes. Then, 90% of the time once I have started I make it to my comfort zone of 60 minutes (or more). I am not supposed to exercise right now, but dangit- my stress level is ridiculous right now so i am hitting the elliptical and praying it doesn't cause me issues with the double mastectomy before my next surgery... and it feels great!   You can do it! Make yourself a priority!!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/9/14 4:41 pm
Topic: RE: RTD Protein Drink

There are two different ones from Costco that I buy. Premier Protein- the ones with the 30 grams of protein. They also sell a 100 calorie snack size with I think 17 grams of protein that is good too. The other brand is EAS CarbAdvantage- 100 calories and I like the chocolate flavor. The Sams club here or Costco, I can't remember which now sells the strawberry flavor of premier protein as well. Finally, there is a soy based powder option that I used for a while there, but I cannot recall the name and it wasn't as good, aside from having a good nutrition profile. Be careful- the protein supplements there are not created equally- be sure to confirm the protein source and get the ones with the added vitamins and minerals. 

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/9/14 1:16 pm
Topic: RE: Is it better to do 3 meals or smaller mini meals?

I fall into the 3 meals and 2-3 snacks camp. That worked great during my weight loss phase, but I did have to put a minimum time between eating guideline in order for it to not turn into grazing. I also had low blood sugar issues during that part, which had a lot to do with the eating routine. If you elect to go this route, keep a close eye on the calories. The big advantages are stoking the metabolism and keeping it burning, and never feeling deprived. The risks are grazing, or eating smaller amounts that are higher in calories or carby items that triggers hunger more frequently. 

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/9/14 1:13 pm
Topic: RE: What just happened??

I have 2 thoughts, neither based in anything that I "know" to be true...

Any chance it was a lactose thing? 

My other thought, at times this happens to me. Not from drinks though that I can recall. I occassionally can take just 1 or 2 bites of something and feel a specific type of stomach pain as a result. If I continue to eat, I will get sick and vomit. Sometimes even if I don't eat anymore, I still get sick. This just happened last week off of less than 1/2 of a meatball. It has happened with 1 of 2 bites of scrambled eggs too, and I do not think it is associated with eating too fast or not chewing enough. Hence, my only real advice is try to identify whatever it was you felt right before you got sick. Eventually I learned to recognize this twinge of pain for what it was, and now avoid getting sick as much. 

Good luck-

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/5/14 6:05 pm
Topic: RE: WLS and metabolism

Do I eat less calories now (maintaining over 2 years with a vsg)? Yes. BUT I no longer weigh over 320 pounds, so of course I need less calories- I am no longer carrying around an extra 150 pounds every minute of the day. My maintenance average is 1600 (no exercising). Some days higher, some lower. With exercise up to 2,000. Nothing wrong with that. More importantly, I can feel very satisfied on 800 calories if I eat smart. It is plenty of calories for a day. Now if head hunger is an issue, then no- when I fall off the wagon I am entirely capable of putting down 3,000 calories. The sleeve does slow me down though, so when I screw my head back on correctly less damage was done and it is a little easier to reign it in. I do not regret getting surgery, returning to a normal bmi, and perhaps yes eating less calories than when I weighed 320 pounds. 

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/5/14 5:38 pm
Topic: RE: The Naked Truth about Regain

I couldn't agree more. Even for me, a strong advocate for moderation, I could not agree more with being mindful about carbs. Like you- whole, natural foods I can manage- even the "carby" ones. I derail on refined processed carbs. I used to be able to have some and do Ok, but my blood sugar levels are letting me know that this is no longer working for me. 

Great post, and good to see you pop in every so often. Hope this years cuties in the classroom are a joy for you, and congrats on surviving the Halloween onslaught of sugar. UGHHHHH! I really wish my administrators would follow the damn nutrition laws and not allow the sugar in!!!!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/5/14 5:19 pm
Topic: RE: RE:Kairk's post/ regain...

I concur with the others-you do not look too thin. You appear to be at a fantastic weight overall, so ignore the sandwich comments. Like Karik mentioned- they simply are not used to seeing you at this size. It will take months for people to adjust AFTER you stop losing weight. In the mean time, I interpreted your post as being far too fearful of regain. I get losing another pound here and there until you find your perfect weight. If that is now, and you still feel compelled (obsessively so) to continue losing, I would immediately seek a therapist. On the other hand, if the adjustments down in your weight simply is finding your ideal weight, and you can begin to transition to maintenance without sabotaging yourself- then all is well. You cannot make 700 calories work long term obviously. 

My daughter is 6'2'', and pushing 6'3''. She weighs 145 right now and does not look sickly thin at all. Us tall chics, if given a slight frame, do not need to linger at the upper end of the bmi weight range. My daughter is build identical to me, but I do choose 185 as an ideal weight... but only for health reasons. (Lots of surgeries, cancer... want to keep some calories for recoveries as needed.) I would not look too thin at 145 or 150 if that had been a goal of mine- or at least I don't think so. When I was in high school I was 133- thin, but not grossly so. I have no desire to return to that weight though. My daughter looks awesome at her weight- nice curves, a 34D up top and size 2 on bottom. Your weight looks fantastic on you in other words!! You do not appear to need to lose another ounce though- at least via a picture and not seeing you IRL. 

I also think you are at high risk of dropping weight once you increase your calories. Everytime I increased (intentionally) during my weight loss phase, it triggered a rapid loss up to 5 pounds. Might want to start maintenance now in case this happens- remember, it is all about finding your balance. You lost the weight. Now go after balance!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/5/14 4:55 pm
Topic: RE: Fears of promiscuity and going wild after losing weight

First,

May I start with I believe you? I believe that you have no desire to hurt your husband and that what you are dwelling on is very real. I am glad to read you are in therapy and working on it, and also wonder if perhaps your husband could join you on a few visits here and there to work on both you and the marriage at the same time. Not sure if all therapists are up for that, but perhaps.

You only outlined all of the negative things that "could" happen. Why not outline all of the positive things that you "can make' happen? Yes, you can lose all the weight. Instead of thinking that will lead you to promiscuity, it could indeed lead you to a higher self worth and acceptance that you are worthy of the love from your husband, and indeed very special. 

I guess when I read this my overriding thought is, cheating is a choice. Promiscuity is a choice. Being promiscuous with your husband (only) is also a choice! 

Now I get that us eating ourselves into oblivion was also a choice that all of us made. I do feel though that biology played a bit of a nasty role, and that is why surgery was needed- or at least in my case. So, not a fair comparison.

Keep going to therapy. Reframe your thinking to focus on what you can choose to do, and the positive aspects of getting surgery. 

Good luck in your journey.

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/3/14 4:13 pm
Topic: RE: Struggling a bit

I had huge issues with this so I feel for you. Distract, distract, distract yourself. 3 weeks seems like an eternity at the moment, but it will be over soon. 

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/3/14 4:11 pm
Topic: RE: What is life like for those of you who have been sleeved long term?

Statistically, most of us regain a small percentage of what we lost- don't quote me on this, but I recall it being around 5%. For me, 7.5 pounds is 5% and ironically, that is exactly where I am sitting at today. Despite my goal weight being 195, I consider 185 to be my ideal- and today sit at 192.5. I have endured several surgeries over the last year, of which has made it so I cannot exericise... I expect once I finish this next one I will be back on track overall.

Half cup of food issue- it is hard to wrap your head around this preop, but you will experience the same exact satisfaction from that portion size as you do with what you eat now. I actually think I am more satisfied- I tend to eat better tasting food, and not eat mindlessly anymore. Don't sweat that at all. I have a large sleeve that is loosely sewn, but still struggle putting down what would be a very small adult sized portion. I still get comments or looks every time I eat with colleagues. 

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/3/14 3:56 pm
Topic: RE: Did those of you who love carbs still succeed?

Yep! I have to be careful with them, but so far so good. (Although I am up a couple pounds higher than what I want, but a couple pounds under goal weight still- and carbs are the reason.)

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 11/3/14 3:54 pm
Topic: RE: Newbie Alert

Welcome aboard!

 

If it were me, I would drive to the center and attempt an intervention. Explain why you need the date and see what they will do for you. More than one chic can put a name on a schedule. Good luck!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 10/31/14 5:21 pm
Topic: RE: Does anyone use a juicer?

I am a believer when it comes to juicing for improved health- but I am really, really lazy about making it. When I was feeling crappy due to cancer related crap I would make the following concoction.... it makes a lot though, as my husband and daughter would have a large glass also.

Greens- kale, beet greens, a little parsley, spinach

2 carrots

a couple tomatoes (cherry, grape- small size, or 1 regular size)

1 lemon including the rind

1 apple 

celery

I use enough greens that this comes out a green murky color. I can't stand it without the lemon- some type of citrus to lighten it up. When I juiced regularly (4-5 times a week, 1 glass in the morning about 12 ounces or so) my labs improved, my skin improved (a big deal for me as I have skin cancer- less irritation on the skin is a good thing), I stopped getting sick, etc. If someone would make it for me I would drink a glass a day. 

Careful though- calories abound in this. In my case when I was in weight loss mode I built it into my regimen- but it is not triggery for me (or at least not when I was doing it back then). Just google juicer recipes- there are a ton out there. I think for me the combo of the greens and citrus is what really helped. 

I don't like using my vitamix for it. I can't stand thick juice- but my friend uses her Ninja and likes that a lot. 

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost 

happyteacher
on 10/27/14 4:36 pm
Topic: RE: Former SSMO: Guess who is at GOAL!?!?!?!?! (w/pic)

Triple century, triple impressive! Congrats!

  Surgeon: Chengelis  Surgery on 12/19/2011  Carb eating loose sleever here!  "Dying is easy. Living is hard."

1Mo: -21  2Mo: -16  3Mo: -12  4MO - 13  5MO: -11 6MO: -10 7MO: -10.3 8MO: -6  9 MO: -5 with slight regain from the original -10   MO 10: -8  MO 11: +1  MO 12: -1.4  Mo 13-14: 0  Mo 15:-10 (meds side effect) Month 27: maintenance so far so good!  Plastic surgery Abdominoplasty month 24        BMI 23  CW: 179  Goal in 8 months 4 days!!   6' 2''  EWL 112%  Starting size 28 or 4x (tight) currently a size 12 or large, shoe size 12 w to 10.5   150+ pounds lost