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on 1/31/07 6:21 pm - Gaithersburg, MD
I am really embarrassed guys so here goes.... I need help, I am so blown by how much I can eat!!!! Can you believe that I ate an entire steak at The Olive Garden last weekend??? It was really soft and fell off the bone but I ate the whole thing!!! I can eat so much I feel. It's only 9 months!!! This is what I ate today for example: 3/4 of a croissant with cream cheese 1 raspberry filled croissant (yes, I know!!! )  1 cup of basmati rice with 7 pieces of tenderloin a breast of chicken from the hospital ( I went to see my dad) 4 20oz bottles of water 1/2 bag of cashews (honey coated) a little back of swedish fish oh and 1/2 a cup of coffee Look at all this food!!! none of it good. I took all my vitamins though... I am so shocked by how much I can eat and I feel like crap...a few days ago my Dad went in the hospital and my brother (dying of a terminal illness) is being researched on in a facility far away from us. I am not using this as an excuse but it certainly plays a part, you know all the stress. AHHHHHH!  I have lost 100Lbs so far and I need to lose 70 more Lbs!!! I have stopped losing for two months now...what am I to do? How can I get out of this path to destruction??? I have called my nut's office and NO response. Any ideas are welcome. Thanks. Vi

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Janna B.
on 1/31/07 6:26 pm - Silverdale, WA
We have all been there.  There are so many reasons we feel we get out of control with eating.  The good thing is that you understanding what is happening and taking ownership of it.  You are going to have to find something to eat that replaces the foods you are eating.  Have it premade so when you feel the need to eat something, it will be something nutritious.  Maybe incorporate exercise when you feel that urge to eat.  Something other than what you are eating.  I know it's hard honey.  But you have to turn it around before it gets out of control.  A plan always works for me.  Best wishes. Janna B.


on 1/31/07 6:58 pm - Gaithersburg, MD
Thank you so muich for the encouragement, I truly appreciate're  right I see that I am heading down the wrong path. I appreciate it again, Vi

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Kim A.
on 2/1/07 5:23 am - ypsilanti, MI
Maybe I am wrong, but I don't see what is so horrible about what you ate!  Granted, there could have been a few different choices, but it seems to me you were still aware.  Have you tried using a program like FITDAY to track what you eat!  I absolutely HATE tracking what I eat, but I find, at the end of the day, if I have time to sit down and journal it, I get an idea of where I stand for that day. Beleive me, I am only 2 months out and I have had the same types of eating experiences! when I have days like that, from stress, or hormones usually, I will look at the total calorie intake, as well as the fat, and protien.  If I messed up, I messed up, but if my calorie intake is still around where it should be, mentally,  I find it easier to let it go and get back on track the next day. I think if we are over rigid, and over critical of ourselves, it just makes it harder to focus on the goal. I think stress eating is the very hardest to conquer, then next, hormonal eating! I never realized what a stress eater I was until after I had this surgery.  I gained a lot of weight shortly after my daughter passed, and I still was in denial about the stress eating.  Now, I know I am a stress cooker!  I still do that.  It soothes me to cook, and my husband and other family members like it! But, I am getting off track, anyway, I have found that using fitday(what an absolutely wonderful program!) helps keep me sane, and in control, even when I go a bit off track. As we have all bee told, this is a lifestyle change.  An in one's life, there are going to be plenty ups and downs.  In my opinion, the keys is to handle the challenges as they come, and keep an eye on the big overall picture. Make sure a detour stays a detour, and not a permanent route in the opposite direction You are doing fine.  This is a difficult time for you.  The fact that you are aware of it is your strength.  My sincere, heartfelt condolences to you in your difficult time God Bless, Kim Adams

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on 2/1/07 11:59 am
What to do? You have been so successful losing the first 100.  You know what to do. Stop eating the junk. You know very well that weight comes back on a lot faster than it came off.  What to do, dearie? Refresh yourself. Reacquaint yourself with your signature tag. You can do anything you set your mind to. Don't let life get you by the scruff of the neck and help you make excuses for doing harm to yourself because of it. Be strong. We already know you've "got the stuff." Joyce
Ann Shaffer
on 1/31/07 6:28 pm - Caledonia, NY
Vi - I am not here to beat up on you - you seem to be doing a good enough job of that yourself!  You have done a great job until your stall 2 months ago.  I don't know what you were doing up until then but you might try mixing it up now.  You might want to focus on protein, protein, protein and fluid for a little bit.  Good luck and take it easy on yourself the more stress you put on yourself the less likely you are to do the things you know to do.  Keep us updated                Ann

Hang in there 'cause the option might hurt     Ann

Jessica S.
on 1/31/07 6:34 pm - Las Cruces, NM
I agree...stop beating yourself up...Accept the things you cannot change...focus on limiting caloric intake and maximizing protein intake...back to protein shakes...that should satiate...One thing that has helped me is lean cuisine, south beach and weigh****cher frozen dinners...I get the ones that only have a meat and vegetable, they are easy, and pretty tasty.  Another thing is that I know I am an emotional eater....I eat because it comforts me.  Sounds like you are pretty, consider seeking counseling or therapy...Our society gives it a negative stigma but I think it's very positive and you may need some medication, like antidepressants....if you are eating because there is an underlying problem (like stress....), then you can fix that problem and hopefully get back on track...I know you can do it!!!!! I have faith in you and will be saying prayers...Feel free to contact me if you need to chat...Jess
on 1/31/07 7:00 pm - Gaithersburg, MD
I appreciate it so much... I will look into therapy I think I may need it. I will try to pull myself upm I work out alot and worked out today though not enough to stop what I did....thank you again I appreciate it.

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Julie A.
on 1/31/07 6:31 pm - OK
The steak does seem like a lot, many oz's? Did you eat anything else with it? My question to you is....the you have it for b'fast?  The reason I ask is bcuz if I start the day with carbs, it's WATCH OUT NELLIE!!!  I have PCOS and insulin-resistance, so I'm real sensitive to carbs.  If I do eat carbs early in the day and they aren't the vegetable variety, I can't seem to eat enough all day long.  Maybe if you HAVE to have the croissant, eat it later in the day, maybe a smaller portion, add some deli meat on the side, anything to up the protein in your meal time.   Oh, and call that NUT back!!!  Good luck, Julie
on 1/31/07 7:02 pm - Gaithersburg, MD
Thank you Julie, I appreciate it. I did have the croissant for breakfast...I will go bak to protein shakes for breakfast. I feel sick right now because of all the food.

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on 1/31/07 6:35 pm - El Cajon, CA

You definitely have a lot of stress with the serious family illnesses in your family. I can understand how stress plays a part, I have always been a stress eater.

Here's my suggestion: Try to make good food choices. Instead of the croissant pick something healthy. Instead of the rice, some steamed veggies. I know it's hard to find nutritious food when you are in unfamiliar territory sometimes, but hospital cafeterias usually have a variety of veggies and sometimes a salad bar too, along with a baked meat entree. My prayers are with your family and I am so sorry you're all having so much to bear right now. Take it a day at a time and keep your faith strong. God Bless

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Anita Jo
on 1/31/07 6:37 pm - Elmira, NY

Hi there, i am 3 years out and i can eat alot also. i now use a Correll salad plate. it sure does help. Well i would say the steak is good since its protein. how big was the steak? i usually have 3 ozs of meat like steak or chicken when i cut it up it sure does look like alot. 3 ozs is like a deck of playing cards. i would say if you dont eat this stuff everyday then you are fine. we all have our bad days. when i was in the hospital i had pasta and breads and that was on the gastric diet (i had an adominalplasty) i was suprised to get pasta, breads. but it was in small portoins also. 80 ozs of water is wonderful too. i try to get in6-7 20 oz bottles of water a day. water is very good for you. i do eat cashews also but not all the time. i love nuts! i also drink decaf coffee. try to get protein and water in and walk too that will help. other will say go back to the basics. hope this helps. Anita


RNY~Aug.28,2003  Adominalplasty~Jan.19,2007 270/168/150 Surgery/Today/Goal



on 1/31/07 7:03 pm - Gaithersburg, MD
it really does help...thank you for being kind.

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on 1/31/07 7:16 pm, edited 1/31/07 7:25 pm - Kendall Park, NJ

I highly recommend trying a few overeaters anonymous meetings.

no one will judge you there and you will feel better from the very first meeting.

It is free.

For more info on OA, go to

Here are the meetings in your area--

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Let me know if you need more help with this or have any questions about OA.

, Jill

on 2/1/07 6:55 am - Gaithersburg, MD
Thank you so much...I truly appreciate it and I think I will go to one of those meetings. I appreciate it again. Vi

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on 1/31/07 7:21 pm - Colorado Springs, CO
Hey Vi, no beatings here, you're doing ok with that your own self!  Sounds like a LOT of stress in your life.  No doubt that's getting the best of you. Just take your time, remember the basics, slow eating, small bites, etc.  Check your own surgeon's protocol on this but fwiw, mine's is 1 C of food total per meal at your stage and for life.

on 1/31/07 7:32 pm - Losinsum, MD
RNY on 07/28/05 with
Hi Vi, No beatings here, but in looking what you listed it looks like you're a little heavy on the carbs.  The steak was good, but how much?  Don't mean to repeat what others have said above.   I was in a six month stall and I've been ping-ponging between 201 and 207 since mid-July.  In fact, the past 4 months it's been between 203 and 207.  Right after New Years I was 207lbs.  I weighed myself this morning and I weighed 200lbs! I haven't weighed that in over 27 years!  I've been eating practically zero carbs (well no starchy carbs such as rice, potatoes or flour type stuff) and I've been focusing on basics (like yogurt with fruit mixed in, cottage cheese, meat and veggies).  I know, sounds pretty bland, but I feel great and the weight has started coming off again.  I'm not sharing all this to toot my own horn, just to give you a sense of hope.  If this is still working for me, it can work for you.  You know what you need to do :-)  I would say go back to basics and stop eating the stuf that's not good for you :-)  I know you're going through some stressful times with your family, but you can do it!   HTH

Take Care,

on 1/31/07 7:44 pm - Eugene, OR
Vi - sounds like you are under a lot of stress.  Do talk to the nutritionist.  If you find you can eat so much, you at least need to make some healthier choices.  Protein first, then complex carbs like whole grains and fruit.  Those croissants can get stuck on your hips really fast!  Hang in there and I hope you get the eating under control. Linda
on 1/31/07 8:42 pm
Vi, I totally feel your pain.  I'm 10 months out, and I went through the same thing about a month ago.  I had really gotten off track with the holidays and a business trip.  The more carbs I ate, it seemed like the more I could eat.  I was hungry all the time, too.  Of course, I had also been on a plateau for a couple of months.  My nut was totally unhelpful...told me to drink milk and I'm lactose intolerant!  I got through it by going back to basics.  I had stopped drinking my protein shake and taking my vitamins, so I started those again.  For my eating, I got back to the basics.  When I started back eating dense proteins first, it was amazing how little I could eat and be full.  I hadn't stopped exercising completely, but I had slowed way down, so I increased the exercise.  And finally the plateau broke and I started losing again! I'm sorry you're under so much stress and your dad and brother are not well.  Sometimes you just have to do the best you can under the cir****tances, and forgive yourself.  Some things to try...  Like some of the other posters have said, try to have some protein for breakfast.  If I eat carbs for breakfast, even oatmeal, I am ravenous until lunchtime.  When I am hungry, I am more likely to make bad choices.  Try to plan healthy snacks, so you're not tempted to grab a bag of candy or whatever else looks good.  I like Power Crunch protein bars.  They've saved me from the vending machine many times.  I also try to avoid caffeine, because it seems to make me hungry.  Half a cup of coffee isn't much, but you might want to try eliminating it and see if it makes a difference.  There is a plateau-buster diet that is frequently posted on the boards.  You might try that for a few days.  It really makes you focus on getting in your protein and eliminating the other junk.  I know exercise is difficult when you've got all the other stressful things going on, but maybe try to get in a walk or something.  A little exercise may help you feel less stressed.   Take care.  100 lbs in 9 months is great! Cathe
on 2/1/07 7:01 am - Gaithersburg, MD
Thank you all so much for your help. I truly appreciate it...This orning I am eating a yogurt and for luch it will be a salad with chicken on it and I am having a shake for dinner.. I am going down to the gym for 30-40 Mins of straight aerobics...I am really pumped about that. Thank you guys again...I don't need all that food. I appreaciate you all so much!!!  Vi

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