ObesityHelp

well i am in the same boat as you are, i only told my husband and my mom, and one bestfriend, nobody else knows. and i plan to keep it that way. i dont want to share my surgery for personal reasons, anyways the good news is i have noticed that people didnt really start to notice my weight loss till now, 50lbs down. so when they ask you if you been loosing weight you can just say yea. i am more of a slow looser so i am actually happy about that for the fact it doesnt seem like overnight i lost weight. now we are military and last time we had a visit home was a year ago, and of course at my heaviest..so they will be pretty surprised, however i do talk to a few cousins and i will tell them i am loosing weight.

I purposly didnt tell many people as well.  When I returned to work I got so many questions and they continue daily.  There are many that don't ask and there are others that have come straight out and say "Are you doing a no eating diet?  How are you losing al this weight?"  Depending on the question, I either answer that I'm watching what I'm eating and exercising, or like with the no eating diet question I answered "Well yes actualy, when I went out on leave I caught anorexia".  Then I smiled prettily and walked away... My point is, you will hve to adjust your answers to the manner of question.  You will definately be annoyed, but you may be less so if you decide that you will answer outright,/normal/direct questions honestly and be sarcastic/evasive to the rest...  One of my thoughts is that I will answer the questions honestly when I sense the motivation for the question is because they care, not because they're nosy. Good luck!

Tickers:
I don't know if you have gotten to your ticker production yet.
If you haven't
find someone’s ticker and you will see above it “ticker factory”.
Click on that. If it doesn't work on one find another.
You can actually click on the actual ticker
if you are just trying to change your ticket by updating it.
This will take you to the site.
Click “create your own ticker.”
Scroll down and click on “Weight loss”.
It shows different tickers.
Click on one that you like.
Click next at the bottom of the page.
To get the clicker slider, choose one and click on the circle.
Click at the bottom of the page where it says “next”.
Choose a password.
Fill out the chart.
Click again on “next” at the bottom of the page.
Fill out the chart.
Click again on “next”.
Right click on the copy of your ticker.
Click copy.
Come back to this posting site. This may be difficult.
Do it like you got to the site the first time. That works for me.
There is a blue box at the left.
Click on “User Settings”.
You will see a box for signature.
At bottom of the page make sure you change the default editor to “plain text”.
Right click on box for signature.
If this is the first time it will be blank.
If it is the second time and you are updating your ticker click on the actual ticker in the box and paste your ticker.
Go to bottom of page and click on “enable signature”.
Click on “save”.
That should do it. Let me know if it works for you, Jo Ann

Ok....although I don't have a good answer.....besides maybe order cream of something soup....I have something to add about not telling people.  I told all my friends and family...no big deal.....so, I come back to work...I am a store manager...and almost every dang customer is aksing how I am doing and questions about my surgery!  My boss told all our customers!!! Is that crazy?  I am so IRRITATED!!!  HOW RUDE!

I understand what your going thru. I haven't told anyone in my "work" life. I don't know how I'm gonna handle it when I lose more weight. So far I have lost 45lbs and people are like wow you look great and are asking questions and I'm answering them to the best of my ability w/o telling them about surgery. Poeple are beginning to make comments like" is that all your eating" and so forth. I just smile and dodge their questions about food quantity. I assume that when I lose more they will be talking about me behind my back saying that I have an eating disorder or something to that affect but whatever. I still don't know if I'm ever gonna tell. I just think that it's my business and if I never tell it will be OK. I guess to each their own. Some people say that they told everyone from the beginning and other never told so you just have to feel it out for yourself. Someone once told me that the people who were calling you fat behind your back before will be the ones trying to feed you now so I guess you can never win. I'm sure you will make the right decision for you. P&PT's.