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Weight gain 2 years after lap band surgery

maris715
on 11/9/09 6:15 am - philadel, PA
Hi.  I underwent lapband surgery in April 2007.  I lost 60 pounds, but since April of this year, the weight is coming back.  I've gained 30 of those pounds back (I was married in April).  In case this bit of info helps.

Many of my clothes are tight and I can't fit into a lot of my newly purchased post-weight loss clothes.  I have a vicious sweet/junk food tooth, and use food as comfort when I'm bored, stressed and lonely.   I love my husband very much, but without giving any details, being with him is challenging.  (Please no advice on leaving him - thank you.)  He is not abusive.  He has some long instilled habits that are hard to break and hard to live with.

Anyway, I hate to work out, I eat what's fast and therefore fattening, and eat what I cook for my husband and his son.  They both are very thin (around 140-150 pounds).  I am 263.

WHAT CAN I DO???  I am afraid I'm heading to 295 pounds again, and I can't!  I'll feel like a total failure.  I feel that way now.  I've thought about Jenny Craig, Nutisystem, the 10 lbs in 10 days diet...

Would someone out there be able to give me some advice?  And if anyone has been in a similar situation (gaining a lot of weight post-surgery), and was able to turn themselves around, that would be even better.

Thanks for listening.


Maris
germanswife
on 11/9/09 6:18 am
I am only 8 months out....but I feel your pain.  I fear this as well.

Are you able to get psych help?  I would suggest you start with this...you do still have the tool, just needs some work.

Good Luck to you!

Erika
 
    
theresa R.
on 11/9/09 6:20 am - Van Wert, OH
 Your not gaining because the band is failing you...you are gaining because you are failing the band...simply put...you must change your eating habits....just as you would of had to change them with any other WLS....Call your surgeon today...meet with him and your dietician/nutritionist...throw out the sweets...and if its your new husband hindering your weight loss, then you need to really sit down and talk over with him the problems and let him know that you cant do this without his support

Theresa R. =)
LapBand Surgery $13,950-2 Year Gym Membership $795.-TummyTuck&Lip0 $9950.00
Seeing those skinny bitches from High School and never
looking better---$PRICELESS

maris715
on 11/9/09 7:29 am - philadel, PA
BTW, your priceless is funny.

I called my surgeon's office and made the next available appt to see the nurse and get on the right track.  And I need to do some serious self examination.  I admit, I'm lazy, but I need to fight this feeling and get myself together before I'm a size 24/26 again!!!!

Thanks for your reply and support.
mittenfarm
on 11/9/09 6:23 am - County Line, MI
DS on 10/19/07 with
Maybe you need to go in for a fill again, although it sound like you are just eating the wrong things. But maybe some more restriction would help get it under control. Without any sort of bypass, you have no malabsorption, so you are solely dependent on a tighter band to help with weight loss. You need to get control of what you are eating, and sadly, that is entirely up to you. Cook healthy for your family-just because they are thin doesn't mean they need to eat unhealthy foods. Stay away from fast foods. Eat high protein, low carb.
-Wanda

Highest -380  Surgery- 345     Goal- 150   Current-150     5 ft. 8 in.

Lynn B
on 11/9/09 6:40 am
OK - so you know what the problem is - bad food choices, no exercise - the question is "what are you going to do about it?". No surgery does all the work for you, you must be an active participant!  When was the last time you saw your surgeon? Your first step should be to check in with the surgeon, nut and possibly a counselor who works with food issues.

There is no reason why you cant get back on the wagon but you need to want to and you need to do the work. Good luck!
Lynn B
Banded 9/12/2005 ~ Revision to VSG on 9/7/2010

Looking for a support group - near Bridgewater MA - we've got a great one! We meet the last Monday of the month @ 6:30.



(deactivated member)
on 11/9/09 6:41 am - AZ
Revision on 12/06/06 with
On November 9, 2009 at 6:15 AM Pacific Time, maris715 wrote:
Hi.  I underwent lapband surgery in April 2007.  I lost 60 pounds, but since April of this year, the weight is coming back.  I've gained 30 of those pounds back (I was married in April).  In case this bit of info helps.

Many of my clothes are tight and I can't fit into a lot of my newly purchased post-weight loss clothes.  I have a vicious sweet/junk food tooth, and use food as comfort when I'm bored, stressed and lonely.   I love my husband very much, but without giving any details, being with him is challenging.  (Please no advice on leaving him - thank you.)  He is not abusive.  He has some long instilled habits that are hard to break and hard to live with.

Anyway, I hate to work out, I eat what's fast and therefore fattening, and eat what I cook for my husband and his son.  They both are very thin (around 140-150 pounds).  I am 263.

WHAT CAN I DO???  I am afraid I'm heading to 295 pounds again, and I can't!  I'll feel like a total failure.  I feel that way now.  I've thought about Jenny Craig, Nutisystem, the 10 lbs in 10 days diet...

Would someone out there be able to give me some advice?  And if anyone has been in a similar situation (gaining a lot of weight post-surgery), and was able to turn themselves around, that would be even better.

Thanks for listening.


Maris

You have outlined all the problems so you know what you need to do.

Dump ALL white carbs.  All of them.  You don't like to exercise?  So what, do it anyway.

www.obesityhelp.com/member/midwesterngirl/blog/2008/05/

Lynn B
on 11/9/09 7:10 am
LOL - You don't like to exercise? So what, do it anyway.

Could you PLEASE come to my house at 5am and pry my butt out of bed and when I whine "I don't like exercise" hit me with the "so what, do it anyway!" I need my own personal Jillian. Better yet I need someone with a cattle prod and the nerve to use it!
Lynn B
Banded 9/12/2005 ~ Revision to VSG on 9/7/2010

Looking for a support group - near Bridgewater MA - we've got a great one! We meet the last Monday of the month @ 6:30.



(deactivated member)
on 11/9/09 7:32 am - AZ
Revision on 12/06/06 with
On November 9, 2009 at 7:10 AM Pacific Time, Lynn B wrote:
LOL - You don't like to exercise? So what, do it anyway.

Could you PLEASE come to my house at 5am and pry my butt out of bed and when I whine "I don't like exercise" hit me with the "so what, do it anyway!" I need my own personal Jillian. Better yet I need someone with a cattle prod and the nerve to use it!

You don't know me, I would be the one with the nerve to use the cattle prod!  HA!

Weird people like exercise, not normal people. ;o)  It's just one of those things that is a responsibility to do for health reasons.

I was talking to Jeremy Gentles about weight training.  I told him I need to build some muscle but I absolutely hate weights.  Hate them with a passion.  Can't stand that part of exercise.  I have a Bowflex, I've had it for two years.  I never put it together. ;o)  He asked if I would stick to it if I started.  I thought about it and said nope, I probably wouldn't.  He said don't do it then, find something I do like (or don't hate quite as much) and stick to that.  I don't mind walking, power walking, and running.  I have a treadmill, so I use that.  When I first started I'd walk and read a book.  Same when I graduated to power walking.  When I started running I put my laptop in front of the treadmill and I'd watch movies while I ran.  It helps pass the time and you are focused on something other than how much you hate what you are doing.  Now I honestly don't mind running.  New habits take about three weeks to learn.

When I saw the pounds just melting off it gave me more incentive to keep doing it.

So find something you hate the least and do it every single day.  You don't need a day off from exercise, that just reinforces that you are doing something you hate.  We do things we enjoy so learn to enjoy it.

And yes, so what if you don't like exercise.  Do it anyway. ;o)

Lynn B
on 11/9/09 11:12 am

I agree totally - they other thing that I have noticed (actually DH pointed it out) no matter how much I complain about exercising I always feel better when I'm done - physically happier. Its a good thing!

Lynn B
Banded 9/12/2005 ~ Revision to VSG on 9/7/2010

Looking for a support group - near Bridgewater MA - we've got a great one! We meet the last Monday of the month @ 6:30.



kathkeb
on 11/9/09 6:54 am
Instead of JC, NS, and fad diets, why don't you try going back to your surgeon and having your band evaluated (to ensure you have not had a slip or done any damage to it) and see about getting a fill and going back to the beginning.

The band can be ADJUSTED --- but you need to do the work once it is.

Most people don't like to exercise --- they do it anyway because it is good for them, it helps them reach their goals ---

If you can't make these changes on your own, you need to talk to your doctor about getting a referral to a therapist.  You are clearly being non-compliant with your surgeon's program.  There is something behind that type of behavior.

You are starting to look (outside of yourself) for answers and quick fixes --- which I am quite sure you did before your surgery (just like the rest of us) -- and you have to know that those things don't work for the long term.
Kath

  
Sandy77
on 11/9/09 7:18 am, edited 11/9/09 7:18 am - Jax, , FL

It's obvious that you are not following the The Three C's  which are: Commitment, Consistency, and Compliance.  It's never to late to get back on track, but you must do the work , that includes exercise. Remember this is a Lifestyle Change.

maris715
on 11/9/09 7:27 am - philadel, PA
Thanks.  You're right.  I just gotta get myself motivated again to do the work!
(deactivated member)
on 11/9/09 7:34 am - AZ
Revision on 12/06/06 with
On November 9, 2009 at 7:27 AM Pacific Time, maris715 wrote:
Thanks.  You're right.  I just gotta get myself motivated again to do the work!

Motivation is over rated.  Just do it. ;o)

charleston-mom
on 11/9/09 7:57 am
On November 9, 2009 at 7:34 AM Pacific Time, MidwesternGirl wrote:
On November 9, 2009 at 7:27 AM Pacific Time, maris715 wrote:
Thanks.  You're right.  I just gotta get myself motivated again to do the work!

Motivation is over rated.  Just do it. ;o)

Bravo - well said.

I think it's just so important to realize that 10% of success is attributable to the surgery -

The rest is what we decide to do ourselves. Those daily decisions. It's not easy.

I agree - just do it.

Or don't, and go back to 24/26. Everything that we do is a decision.
(deactivated member)
on 11/9/09 8:19 am - AZ
Revision on 12/06/06 with
On November 9, 2009 at 7:57 AM Pacific Time, charleston-mom wrote:
On November 9, 2009 at 7:34 AM Pacific Time, MidwesternGirl wrote:
On November 9, 2009 at 7:27 AM Pacific Time, maris715 wrote:
Thanks.  You're right.  I just gotta get myself motivated again to do the work!

Motivation is over rated.  Just do it. ;o)

Bravo - well said.

I think it's just so important to realize that 10% of success is attributable to the surgery -

The rest is what we decide to do ourselves. Those daily decisions. It's not easy.

I agree - just do it.

Or don't, and go back to 24/26. Everything that we do is a decision.

Some people spend so much time "finding" motivation that they never make the time to get out there and do it.

I'm not suggesting the OP is like this, I do not know.  I'm not referring to anyone specific here.

I remember one person that had a functioning band, no band problems and she didn't need an adjustment to her band she needed an adjustment to her head.  She was trying to decide what exercise equipment to buy.  She was hunting and shopping and finally decided on a treadmill.  Then she couldn't decide which one to buy.  She was scouring newspapers for sales, researching Consumer Reports, trying to decide which one was for her.  After months of this my suggestion was to go to the nearest store that sells them, walk up to any treadmill, any one of them, put her hand on it and say, "I'll take it!"

Then she got the treadmill home and complained that she didn't have the motivation to use it.  I told her she didn't need motivation, she needed to get her butt on the darn thing and use it.  Then she decided she would seek therapy to see why she didn't have motivation.

She was so busy planning her exercise she never had time to DO the exercise.


dwpersel
on 11/9/09 8:37 am - Fredericksburg, VA
Hi Maris,

I too can feel your pain and stress and feeling like a "failure". The biggest thing I had to admit is that I'm like an alcoholic and will ALWAYS be in a recovery mode. I do like to exercise, but sometimes I slide back into old habits, and veg.

Also you are a newly wed, and it's normal for newlyweds to pack on about 30 pounds at first. Unfortunately your husband and stepson can probably eat anything with no problems and remain reed thin, which makes it doubly hard for you.

The important thing is that you realize you are sliding and you have the tools to lose and maintain your weight. Get yourself back to your WLS doctor and Nut, you can DO IT!

Diana

Ceithlenn
on 11/9/09 10:55 am - WI
RNY on 08/28/13

I am in my pre-op exercise weight loss program but I love exercising I always have but love eating more hence being overweight. But I digress,  I agree finding something that is fun and enjoyable is key. Have you ever tried strip aerobics, or a dance intensive type class. I love to dance and move around so these types of classes feel like your hanging with friends rather than working out.

Lynn B
on 11/9/09 11:21 am
OK you have my attention - Strip Aerobics??? Where and do you actually strip? How does it differ from "regular" aerobics?
Lynn B
Banded 9/12/2005 ~ Revision to VSG on 9/7/2010

Looking for a support group - near Bridgewater MA - we've got a great one! We meet the last Monday of the month @ 6:30.



Ceithlenn
on 11/9/09 11:52 am, edited 11/9/09 11:52 am - WI
RNY on 08/28/13
No you don't but the motions are more fuild and a little "sexy". They even have poles but I need to lose more weight before I can play on those. It is like a mix of pilates and dance but "sexy" and you feel SOOO good after. You can even use some of the moves at home

Oh and you dress kinda cute and even wear heels in some of the classes "if you can". I take them in Lake Mary Florida at a place called Bods Dance studio.