DIVORCE

MandaTee
on 5/6/11 2:58 pm
My husband just told me he wants a divorce.
That we've been drifting apart, and he doesn't love me anymore.
We've been married 8 years, no kids.
I IN NO WAY saw this coming.

    

My Story: http://mandaswljourney.blogspot.com/
VSG Surgery Date: Jan 20, 2011
Renee B.
on 5/6/11 3:02 pm
Renee B.
on 5/6/11 3:03 pm
  I am so sorry to hear that.  It  has to hurt.  Do you think it is just stress and he will change his mind or do you believe this is the "real deal"? I am sending you a hug over the net. 
Renee
HW282 SW272 CW170 GW150 "I am allergic to carbs. They make me break out in fat.    
           
    
Mr Mom
on 5/6/11 3:12 pm
VSG on 02/10/11 with
Very sorry for the stress you must be feeling right now. We were warned in my pre-op classes that going through a major life change like WLS sometimes freaks people out (both the patient and their friends and family).
I hope it all works out well for you... Craig

Heaviest:406 | Surgical Weight:366 | Current Weight:290 | Goal Weight:250

VictoriousSecret
on 5/6/11 3:14 pm
Is he willing to see a counselor and try to work it out? I'm sorry you're going through this!

     

Temporarily holding on losing more because I'm gaining!  Pregnant with my first baby (a boy!) due June 2013, after two rounds of IVF.  SO GRATEFUL!

ANNI D.
on 5/6/11 3:16 pm
Oh wow, I remember the tattoo thing and your therapist saying something to you that wasn't right. So, I kinda know you from here. That's horrible, I'm so sorry. Didn't you say you talked to him over the phone about the tatto? Was he home, or did he tell you over a phone call? If so, that's one of the crappiest things to do, especially in a marriage! My ex husbands, ex wife(yeah, I know) did that to him during the Gulf War...On his birthday no less. So, I kinda know how the person on your end feels. If you ever want to talk or just vent, PM me. Again, I know this sucks and I'm sorry...
I only strive to be, the kind of person my dogs think I am!                               

Of the choices we are given, it's no choice at all....
                                             -Patty Griffin
 
MandaTee
on 5/6/11 3:20 pm
he is deployed, and won't be home for a year.
he told me over Yahoo instant message.

    

My Story: http://mandaswljourney.blogspot.com/
VSG Surgery Date: Jan 20, 2011
susan24
on 5/6/11 11:42 pm - Stuck in traffic or an airport near you, TX
On May 6, 2011 at 10:20 PM Pacific Time, MandaTee wrote:
he is deployed, and won't be home for a year.
he told me over Yahoo instant message.
over instant message?  jerk.

I'm sorry you are going through this.  I hope he realizes he is being rash....being deployed has to be incredibly stressful and not a good time to make major life decisions.

Whatever happens...lean on your friends.  Life goes on and if things don't work out with your husband,  there IS life after...that just might be sweeter.

Take care... (((((((())))))))))



“Saying ‘I’m sorry’ is the same as saying ‘I apologize.’ Except at a funeral.?
-- Demetri Martin

Mary Catherine
on 5/6/11 3:21 pm
First let me say that I am so sorry that this is happening to you.  No matter how long you have been married, whether or not there are children, and whether or not there seems to be drifting apart the request for a divorce is a shock to the person who is being told that the marriage is over.

We all change.  Neither of you are the same person that you were when you were married.  Every seven years, life changes.  Think about the difference between a new born and a seven year old.  A 14 year old and a 21 year old.  There are also dramatic differences between 28, 35, 42, 49, 56, 63, 70, 77, 84, 91, 98, 105.

One of the good things is that you are young, healthy, and becoming slimmer every day.  You can easily look forward to another 70 or 80 years of life.  A lawyer told me that many people fall in love at 18 and by age 27 would have picked a totally different partner.  That is the age when many of his clients came to him to start divorce proceedings.  He said most were in happy second marriages by about 32 years of age.  

As we mature, we are capable of making wiser choices. For now, get some rest, get some counselling, and take care of you.  I know that this is not easy.  If would be very helpful for you to look up the stages of grief.  Divorce and death have the same effects on us.  Here is a good site to start with http://www.livestrong.com/article/129455-seven-stages-grief-divorce/






MandaTee
on 5/6/11 3:34 pm
thanks

    

My Story: http://mandaswljourney.blogspot.com/
VSG Surgery Date: Jan 20, 2011
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