changed my mind about gastric bypass

debbie moyer
on 1/6/12 12:19 pm - tamaqua, PA
hello everyone i have changed my mind about getting gastric bypass surgery but i have one big problem. i cant drive my self after surgery. and i have no one in my life to do soo. so i am stuck with one big problem. i have no friends that i bother with and i am the only one in my faimly that drives other them my mother but she passed away in 2008 from medical complacations from being over weight  
A H.
on 1/6/12 12:23 pm
Revision on 02/09/12 with
Taxi is always an option? Or don't they have some health transport assistance they can give you? That seems like not a very good reason to have to cancel.  I'm sorry but there has to be another option... if you want it bad enough you'll find a way.

Really though, why can't you take a taxi home?


Band (09/07) removed, revised to sleeve 2/9/12.
    

Lorrainecma
on 1/6/12 12:30 pm
RNY on 03/22/11 with
 A cab is a good option. By the way which surgery did you decide on?
    
AnneGG
on 1/6/12 12:34 pm
Do see if you can find some support. You shouldn't do this alone, including the piece of time after surgery. Have someone go with you in the cab.

It is major surgery, and you're going to need help. Be creative.

"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls the butterfly." Richard Bach

"Support fosters your growth. If you are getting enough of the right support, you will experience a major transformation in yourself. You will discover a sense of empowerment and peace you have never before experienced. You will come to believe you can overcome your challenges and find some joy in this world." Katie Jay

WhoIWantToBe *.
on 1/6/12 12:34 pm
RNY on 01/10/12 with
How far off is your surgery?  Do you have a bariatric support group in your area?  Maybe you could make friends with someone from the group.
debbie moyer
on 1/6/12 12:42 pm - tamaqua, PA
i was approved for gastric bypass in sept 28 i was soppost to have it done. i live in a small town called tamaqua pa that doesnt have taxies. i was soppost to have the surgery in   Allentown at Sacred Heart Hospital so in order to have a taxi drive me there and back i would be spending alot of money on it they have free pick up service at that hospital but they dont go as far as i am out
chris_ruff
on 1/6/12 12:49 pm - Staten Island, NY
RNY on 04/07/09 with
maybe you can postpone your surgery until you can save enough money for cab fare and home health care while you're recovering? i wouldn't want to do it alone. i needed support. i also developed a complication at which point i couldn't physically care for myself, so support was vital.
--Christina
Nicolle
on 1/6/12 12:56 pm
I am going to be harsh, but not unkind, here. As much as I hate the gastric bypass, if it is what you want and you think it will save your life (let's get real: your mom died of being overweight, so it's probably where you're heading, too), then nothing should stop you from doing it.

And before you think I had it easy, I traveled from Chicago to San Francisco to get MY life-saving DS surgery. That's a HELL of a lot more expensive and inconvenient than arranmging and paying for a taxi ride! I wanted to live and to live well. NOTHING was going to stop me.

If something as minor as paying for a taxi ride is keeping you from having surgery then you should not get surgery--you are not emotionally ready or mature for it.

Nicolle
HW: 344 lbs      CW: 150 lbs

Type 2 diabetes and sleep apnea GONE!

To learn more about the kick-butt DS, visit www.dsfacts.com
(deactivated member)
on 1/6/12 1:22 pm - Newark, DE
DS on 02/16/10 with
Debbie,
I am with the majority in this one.  What about staying one or two nights in a hotel?  In most cases hospitals can refer you to a hotel with special lower fares near the hospital.  After two days you will be already feeling much better,  Bring a pillow to hold in your lap in the way back, and get some money for a taxi ride.  Save, get a small loan, sell something... whatever you need to do as long as is legal. 
It would be good to have somebody with you for the first few days, but lots of people have been by themselves and do well.  If you know that danger runs in your famly don't let yourself downl Find a solution.  I can't think in a solution for you, but you had been given some sound and good advise. The rest is up to you. 
I wish you well.
Merk
on 1/6/12 1:28 pm
I am not suggesting you do this, but what I would do in your situation is this.

Drive to the hospital. 

Have a cab pick me up so they let me go.

Have the cab drive around the block and take me to my car.

Drive home.


I would not take any pain meds the day I was being discharged.


Again....thats just me.
(deactivated member)
on 1/6/12 1:36 pm
On January 6, 2012 at 1:28 PM Pacific Time, Merk wrote:
I am not suggesting you do this, but what I would do in your situation is this.

Drive to the hospital. 

Have a cab pick me up so they let me go.

Have the cab drive around the block and take me to my car.

Drive home.


I would not take any pain meds the day I was being discharged.


Again....thats just me.
Clever.  A non-sugestion, suggestion.  At least be honest to say, "Here is my stupid suggestion."  There is no freaking way you can anticipate what kind of condition anyone will be post-op.  Hell, they may be on meds to the point they can't realize how bad off they are. 
Aasect .org
on 1/6/12 1:39 pm
I can't imagine driving right after surgery. It might be what you would do, but so against medical advice as to be deliberately harmful. Yeesh. Some support.
terilynn112
on 1/7/12 3:54 pm - maryland, NY
I drove 4 days post my RNY gastric bypass

Teri
Lapbanded 9-16-08 revision from Lapband to RNY on January 11, 2011
HW 273/ 1st surgery 243/Lapband removed 260/ Current 172/ Goal weight 169

                           

(deactivated member)
on 1/6/12 1:32 pm, edited 1/6/12 1:37 pm
You have all the reasons to get this done.  Do you have the will to do it?  I am hearing excuses and a defeated attitude and that doesn't bode well for compliance.  If you can't figure out a way to get enthused and find answers instead of road blocks on simply getting to and from the hospital, how will you do with following a new life style?

I'm sorry because I know I am sounding like a jerk.  Never the less, the question is still whether you have the absolute and total desire to do what is best for you and not let minor problems knock you off the path to success?  If that means asking for help from anyone that can, do it.  


Kathleen W.
on 1/6/12 2:31 pm - Lancaster, PA
Another idea would be go to forms, state, and then go PA.  Post the same problem there that you posted in this form.  There should be people that live either near your home or where you are having surgery that can help.
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rhidunn
on 1/6/12 2:35 pm - Annapolis, MD
Have you tried contacting CareNet?  

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It seems that they may be able to help you locate the resources you need.  

That said - surgery isn't going to change you - you are going to have to change you.

Good luck to you

 
(deactivated member)
on 1/6/12 2:49 pm - Canada
Ok my dear - one thing I feel I have to say here. You really need support system in your life -I am glad you are here at OH and this may be the only place you can find support being from a small town. You need friends though and I know how easily it is to isolate as an obese person. I was so depressed that I did not socialise. It worries me that you are considering surgery with no one to help you. I developed life threatening complications and I would hate to have you at home with no one to help you. This surgery is a hard recovery both physically and emotionally. You will struggle if you are completely alone ! Walking will be difficult, going to the rest room will be difficult. You will be weak and dizzy.....you may be sad as well.

So use the time between now and your surgery - get involved somehow in your community and meet people - go to a church - or something. Have your surgeon maybe refer you to some post ops in the area that may be willing to come by and visit you. The post op diet is not financially cheap  -protein shakes are expensive, but you will save loads of money not needing groceries.

A cab ride is not what is coming between you and the surgery.... take some time while you wait for your surgery date - and make friends with others, and try to prepare yourself for what life as a post op will look like for the first 6 months. It is not a walk in the park or a easy thing to deal with. If you are still completely alone come your surgery date - I would say you are not ready for surgery. Just my 2 cents.

Best of luck to you and please let us know how you are. This is a great place to make friends.
lizzianne_2000
on 1/6/12 4:04 pm
the focus here is  - what is your life worth to you? and what do you want to change in your life? and then make it happen.... and don't anyone or anything get into your way.

I thought that the last post was very good with suggestions about support groups, churches, community groups, etc.  You NEED  support - get a councilor, etc.  You have to have someone - you can even talk to your surgeons office, nutritionist - just get SOMEONE!  I find it hard to believe that you don't have ONE friend?? Obviously we are going to support you on here, but you need people. Not just for physical changes but for emotional growth.

I am in counseling and I have an amazing husband.  I am having to build a new relationship with food, and I am still not done. This is going to be a lifetime journey.

I will pray for you and I hope that everything works out for you.
lovelife39
on 1/6/12 4:19 pm
does your town offer a public transit ?   you could probably arrange for the free shuttle to take you as far as possible then the transit could take u the rest of way home.    also if your town or a few towns over have a support group then start going and see if anyone would be willing to be your support person and bring you home.  good luck im hoping for the best outcome for you !
Winnie_the_Pooh
on 1/6/12 4:27 pm
RNY on 06/08/11 with

go to a church near where you live if you don't have one of your own.  Tell the pastor your situation and if there is someone who can drive you.  The pastor or a retired person from the congregation would probably be happy to do it for you,  no strings attached.

 Winnie