Share |
    Post Reply
    Author Message


    M M
    Member Since: 03/08/07
    [Latest Posts]

     
    Via Readers' Digest -


    We have some very, very unhappy people on this message board.   

    Unhappiness breeds like mold.  I understand that depression is often something that co-exists with morbid obesity, we truly do not need to force OUR
     unhappiness on others.  It's unfortunate that weight loss surgery does not fix our brains -- does not instantly create a new sense of well-being.  This is something each of us must do ourselves.  Weight loss does not solve your problems.  If anything -- it seems that weight loss brings our problems to the surface.  They seem -- RAW and unfiltered, no? 

    But,  what purpose does it serve for you to attack someone/anyone -- does it BRING YOU joy? 

    What brings you joy?  What can you do today to FIND your joy?

    Some simple methods of finding your happy -

    1. Practice mindfulness. Be in the moment. Instead of worrying about your checkup tomorrow while you have dinner with your family, focus on the here and now — the food, the company, the conversation.

    2. Laugh out loud. Just anticipating a happy, funny event can raise levels of endorphins and other pleasure-inducing hormones and lower production of stress hormones. Researchers at the University of California, Irvine, tested 16 men who all agreed they thought a certain videotape was funny. Half were told three days in advance they would watch it. They started experiencing biological changes right away. When they actually watched the video, their levels of stress hormones dropped significantly, while their endorphin levels rose 27 percent and their growth hormone levels (indicating benefit to the immune system) rose 87 percent.

    3. Go to sleep. We have become a nation of sleep-deprived citizens. Taking a daily nap or getting into bed at 8 p.m. one night with a good book — and turning the light out an hour later — can do more for your mood and outlook on life than any number of bubble baths or massages.

    4. Hum along. Music soothes more than the savage beast. Studies find music activates parts of the brain that produce happiness — the same parts activated by food or sex. It’s also relaxing. In one study older adults who listened to their choice of music during outpatient eye surgery had significantly lower heart rates, blood pressure, and cardiac workload (that is, their heart didn’t have to work as hard) as those who had silent surgery.

    5. Declutter. It’s nearly impossible to meditate, breathe deeply, or simply relax when every surface is covered with papers and bills and magazines, your cabinets bulge, and you haven’t balanced your checkbook in six months. Plus, the repetitive nature of certain cleaning tasks — such as sweeping, wiping, and scrubbing — can be meditative in and of itself if you focus on what you’re doing.

    6. Just say no. Eliminate activities that aren’t necessary and that you don’t enjoy. If there are enough people already to handle the church bazaar and you’re feeling stressed by the thought of running the committee for yet another year, step down and let someone else handle things.

    7. Make a list. There’s nothing like writing down your tasks to help you organize your thoughts and calm your anxiety. Checking off each item provides a great sense of fulfillment.

    8. Do one thing at a time. Edward Suarez, Ph.D., associate professor of medical psychology at Duke, found that people who multitask are more likely to have high blood pressure. Take that finding to heart. Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e-mail function until you finish the report you’re writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.

    9. Garden. Not only will the fresh air and exercise provide their own stress reduction and feeling of well-being, but the sense of accomplishment that comes from clearing a weedy patch, watching seeds turn into flowers, or pruning out dead wood will last for hours, if not days.

    10. Tune out the news. For one week go without reading the newspaper, watching the news, or scanning the headlines online. Instead, take a vacation from the misery we’re exposed to every day via the media and use that time for a walk, a meditation session, or to write in your journal.

    melting mama
    Reply to This Post Quote Post


    Plum1967
    Hawthorne, NJ
    Member Since: 01/06/07
    [Latest Posts]

    AMEN... now, take your own advice :)

    ~wendy

    I've partnered with Team In Training to raise funds for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.

    If you want to help fight blood cancers, please consider donating at http://pages.teamintraining.org/nj/rnr12/wnystrom.

    Thank you for your support!


     

    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    M M
    Member Since: 03/08/07
    [Latest Posts]

    I is.  Hence this post.  It brings me joy to write things when I MEAN IT.

    Thank you for being a friend. 

    I'm off to get some things done.  


    melting mama
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    Plum1967
    Hawthorne, NJ
    Member Since: 01/06/07
    [Latest Posts]

    GREAT... now I have the Golden Girls theme song running around in my head....

    ~wendy

    I've partnered with Team In Training to raise funds for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.

    If you want to help fight blood cancers, please consider donating at http://pages.teamintraining.org/nj/rnr12/wnystrom.

    Thank you for your support!


     

    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    M M
    Member Since: 03/08/07
    [Latest Posts]

    Somehow I knew that would happen.
    melting mama
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    Plum1967
    Hawthorne, NJ
    Member Since: 01/06/07
    [Latest Posts]

    okay... next time I see you, I'm doing my rendition of "Sunshine on My Shoulders" for you :)

    ~wendy

    I've partnered with Team In Training to raise funds for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.

    If you want to help fight blood cancers, please consider donating at http://pages.teamintraining.org/nj/rnr12/wnystrom.

    Thank you for your support!


     

    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    M M
    Member Since: 03/08/07
    [Latest Posts]

     Bring your guitar.    
    melting mama
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    Plum1967
    Hawthorne, NJ
    Member Since: 01/06/07
    [Latest Posts]

    Wow... you really ARE a glutton for punishment, aren't you?  LOL

    Unless you wanna buy one? :)  I give you good deal!

    ~wendy

    I've partnered with Team In Training to raise funds for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.

    If you want to help fight blood cancers, please consider donating at http://pages.teamintraining.org/nj/rnr12/wnystrom.

    Thank you for your support!


     

    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    M M
    Member Since: 03/08/07
    [Latest Posts]

     I thought you were self-teaching?
    melting mama
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    Plum1967
    Hawthorne, NJ
    Member Since: 01/06/07
    [Latest Posts]

    It's a veeeery slow process!  LOL  I took about a year off  

    ~wendy

    I've partnered with Team In Training to raise funds for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.

    If you want to help fight blood cancers, please consider donating at http://pages.teamintraining.org/nj/rnr12/wnystrom.

    Thank you for your support!


     

    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    That_816_Princess
    MO
    Member Since: 06/17/10
    [Latest Posts]

     I love this....and i bring my own joy....and were this size med. hanes t-shirt
        
    I will take back my body and take back my health! 
    Facebook:  http://www.facebook.com/pages/Leeshas-WLS-Journey-with-Gizmo-her-pouch/237635902947481 
    My YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/TheLovelyRANDOMNESS
    My Twitter: http://twitter.com/locdagoddess


        
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    M M
    Member Since: 03/08/07
    [Latest Posts]

     Lee - You bring it everywhere you go.  
    melting mama
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    deactivated member

     LIKE   

    VERY interesting and useful suggestions MM! Ive stumbled onto a few of them by trial and error and can't wait to try out the rest  ..

    Thank You ! 
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    penneynurse
    MI
    Member Since: 10/15/07
    [Latest Posts]

    Bravo, Beth! Way to make lemonade (SF, of course) from the lemons thrown at you!

    Things that bring me joy:

    My husband
    My kids
    My dog

    Baby laughs
    Fat puppy bellies

    Good coffee
    Most LOL cats :D
    Honey badger

    I would much rather enjoy the treasure of a few TRUE friends than a whole busload of fair weather friends.

    Love you Beffie :)

    "It's not what you are, but what you don't become that hurts."

    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    M M
    Member Since: 03/08/07
    [Latest Posts]

    Thank you......
    melting mama
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    MyLady Heidi
    Member Since: 07/30/04
    [Latest Posts]

    It might be easy for some to turn off the news and pretend the world is all happiness and light but I work for a news media company and the bad news is in my face everyday.  I have had to complete several projects which resulted in mass layoffs and outsourcing of my co-workers.  The last one being this week.  My heart is heavy and I feel sick all the time.  My bf was contracted by the state and the program he worked with is being unfunded, he can find another job, but the patients he works with who have lost their services are the real victims.  Nothing feels good, even my sleep is tortured.  I don't have the heart for this stuff, I don't have a way to turn it off, the stress is impossible and the anxiety never ending.  It's like watching a sharp shooter standing on the roof picking off people one by one and you are just waiting for your turn.

    My only happiness is my family of swans on their 8 month birthday.





    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    AnneGG
    Member Since: 05/31/10
    [Latest Posts]

    Thank you, Beth, for a lovely and useful and healing post. Much needed and much appreciated.

    I would write more and will write more later, but am pecking away on my iPhone in the LA airport.
    Anne
    "What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls the butterfly."

    "Support fosters your growth. If you are getting enough of the right support, you will experience a major transformation in yourself. You will discover a sense of empowerment and peace you have  never before experienced. You will come to believe you can overcome your challenges and find some joy in this world." Katie Jay

    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    spaznfrog
    Member Since: 11/08/09
    [Latest Posts]

    You have no idea how MUCH I needed this today! Gonna try as many of these suggestions as I can...
    Thank you!
            
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    glzgowlass
    VA
    Member Since: 05/16/11
    [Latest Posts]

    re: #3.

    I know this isn't realistic generally, but when we lost power for a couple of days last year I got the best sleep ever!  It occured to me if we shut it all down in the evening we'd be better off.  I imagine this is what people lived like a hundred years ago.

    We had an oil lamp and played some board games and went to bed early (around 8:30pm=9pm.)  I really thought I would have trouble going to sleep or staying asleep especially as it was like this for two nights. 

    I fell asleep with no problem and slept soundly.  I felt so different in the morning -so refreshed.  Part of me was kind of sorry when the power came back.  It just shows you how electric light has a huge disruption  and upset on our natural rythms.

        
    HW: 218, SW: 204, CW: 150 GW: 112  
     
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post


    macortiz
    MI
    Member Since: 12/08/10
    [Latest Posts]

    This was awesome!

    What brings me joy: 

    Reconnecting with my cousins after a 20 year lapse.
    Seeing my toes with an unobstructed view.
    My best friend in the world.
    Word studies (I know, I'm a geek).
    Catch me on FB 
    Follow me on twitter @macsjourney
    Follow my journey www.journeywithme.org


                    
    Back to the top Reply to This Post Quote Post
    Share |
    Post Reply