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 There are thousands of good, supportive lurkers here.

Many are afraid to post.

We have to make this a safe place.

The whole Facebook thing kindof ruined our spirits:(  I am trying to build up that excitement again, because I too, miss what this site once was.

Gina.  Bravo. I am sending you a friend request today!

Melissa, what I am about to say is in no way directed as an insult to you.  I respect each individuals right to post whatever they want...whether I agree or not.  And believe me, after 3+ years on these boards, I've agreed and disagreed plenty.

I am very tired of the "be nice and play kindly" posts.  That cannot be accomplished with a post.  That is as easy for some as asking them to change their eye color.  For you see, what you find "not nice" is not "not nice" by their definition.

OH is not nor will it ever by a homogenized, one size fits all safe zone for all to exist in peace and harmony.  The world in general is not, and OH is just a tiny slice of "the world".  I do not want to agree with everyone, nor do I want to be told "what I want to hear".  I read many posts and take from them what I need or want.  And, the ones that I believe are just bat-**** crazy and no longer amuse me, I simply B L O C K.

There are many on these boards for whom I have great respect.  I know what I get when I interface with them.  We may not always agree, but we have respect for each others right to be here and say what we want to say.  What bothers me the most is not the petty "wars" and "disagreements" but the complete mis-information that is doled out by some that could truly harm someone if their advice is followed.  However, in most cases I do not intervene and if I do, I do it via PM.

There are many boards here that are (in my opinion) pretty drama free.  My state board (although most have left it), the Exercise forum and the RNY forum to name a few.

In the years I've been here it is for several purposes.  To gain information, to share my experience and to offer a shoulder or a guiding hand or some tough love to someone that might need it, AND THEY ASKED FOR IT BY POSTING ON A PUBLIC FORUM.

Coming to any Internet forum and offering a post with a list of "conditions" attached as to what you deem "acceptable" in responses is like going to the doctor when you are sick and telling him/her what you will and will not tolerate as a diagnosis.

I welcome you here, and will gratefully accept a friend request from you and will promise to always share exactly how I feel about something, but I do not promise to do so in a manner dictated to me as "this is how I will accept your response".

Have a wonderful day.

No offense whatsoever!  I love the concept and applaud your effort to be an example of what you want to see on the boards....and I try to do that to.  But asking the world of the Internet to "be nice and supportive" is useless.....because those are defined so differently by each person.

I hope you will continue to be active and speak your mind, filter or not!  I have seen many of your posts and value your input.  We can continue to read in amazement some of the things we see as hurtful and hateful and I guess feel some pity for those that have to stoop so low as to hurt someone else just to make themselves feel better.  THAT is a sad place to be in life.

Keep fighting the good fight and participating!  Your voice is important and valued.

Thanks, KIM-I have admired you for a long time (*gasp*..cyber stalker..). I happily accepted your friend request

MELISSA-thank you for taking the time to respond. I look forward to getting to know you.

but--I have to warn you....I suck at singing "Kum-ba-ya"...lol..so don't ask! 

See how easy it is to offend without meaning to?

As someone born without a filter, I'm sure you value plain speech. Just keep in mind that what's plain speech to you might be highly offensive or hurtful to someone else---and vice versa.

 
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That kind of KARMA?

BAHAHAHA.  

Recently I read an opinion post and the people replying were so hostile.  I don't know what happened.  I used to find this site so positive but now I am not sure it is safe to post anymore.  I think when someone posts an opinion that is simply what it is.  I was taught opinions are like a**H**** everyone has one.  It doesn't mean they should be the target of everyone who doesn't agree.  A simple I don't agree and why is enough.  Personal attacks need to stop.

 Agree, NO reason why  folks can't be civil , in life we will not always agree. Life would be BORING if we were all the same!  If we always agreed  there be  no  variety in life.   But if we don't agree or strongly disagree  the least we can do is be  Civil!  We can show respect , and agree to disagree as Adults!  We can chose to say nothing!  I have seen  some treated in a HOSTILE manner  needlessly. Whats even more crazy   some  enlist  others OH members to  join in the hostility?  This is a support Site!  In Life I believe In  trying to be kind . On a support site ... one would .. think ...