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I'm no expert and unfortunately some of those that would know more aren't posting on OH any longer.  You should probably immediately begin drinking protein shakes in addition to focusing on protein rich foods. 

TPN would be your best bet if your surgeon/doctor believes the nutrition status is critical.  Please do NOT play around with malnutrition, this is serious business.

Be sure to get copies of all your test and labs and look at the numbers yourself,   Ask questions here if needed.

Sorry you are going through all the stress, I went through a divorce last year after 16 years of marriage so I understand how stressful this is for you.  If you care to talk, PM me please.

Poet Kelly might be able to give you some pointers.

 It is normal to look too skinny at this phase in your journey.  Check the labs and see what you need to work on to get your protein and vitamin intake.  Does the husband have drug or alcohol issues?  

You are going through an ordeal.  The nurse should have been either very specific with you or just scheduled a doctor visit and let the doctor explain issues to you.  I think you should tell the doctor about her communication skills or lack thereof.

That normal BMI will look a whole lot better after your body gets adjusted to it.  There is almost always a 20 or so pound regain period after your surgery honeymoon ends.  The extra weight is hard to lose and it is better to be too thin so as to have that cushion for regain.  This is NOT the time to start regaining.

Getting that soon to be ex out your life might be a wonderful thing.  You deserve and will find a man who never says mean things to you, who will cherish you and treat you like a queen.  You just need to go through the process of detaching from this one.  

Please don't sign anything until you talk to an attorney.  I know they are expensive but they may be able to make him pay.  Don't give up your rights.  I know, I have been there.  I gave up everything to be rid of my idiot ex husband and gladly did because I wanted out.  I gave him the house, everything.  I just took the clothes off of my back.  I felt it was my fault I wanted out so I gave up all my rights.  In hindsight I realize it takes two to end a marriage and I shouldn't have assumed all the blame.  
At the very least have a consult.  Don't let him take advantage of you.  It is his responsibility to support his kids, not to threaten you with taking them away to avoid paying support.  He sounds like a grade A jerk who is pushing you around.  Please get legal advice.  It may save you far more then it costs.

Heidi, I think is the most becoming avatar you've ever posted. Did you take it yourself? My brother's really into photography and does a lot of art shots using a tripod and remote.

 My heart truly goes out to you, and I know a lot of people here have been through similar situations with both financial difficulties, and relationships, so you'll get lots of good advise about that. I can only imagine the stress you are under is tremendous, and yes, you may forget/not feel able to care for yourself, but please try, because you WILL get through it, and you will need your health for your strength. 

Did they tell you in what way you are malnourished? I think that is the first thing to look at. Is is everything? Are you low in certain areas like protein where you can start taking supplemental shakes, or bars? Would those drinks like Boost and Ensure (they also have puddings) help, because they are full of complete nutrition, and that is what the doctor had both my grandparents take when they became malnourished due to age and not eating. See if they can recommend anything for you to take to turn the tide as quickly as you can. (watch the sugars in those things though if you do dump)

Looking older can come from stress and also from dehydration. It shows on our skin a LOT! Make sure you're getting in at LEAST 64 fl. oz. a day.  I know this is going to sound so silly, but if you can, take a little time each day to take a bath, or read a book, or close your eyes and listen to music you enjoy. Take care of yourself! I really wish you well.  ((((you))))

First of all if you are having trouble affording food for yourself and the kid**** a local food pantry and look into getting food stamps. They can give you emergency food stamps almost immediately.

Second I am sorry you are going thru so much all at once. I've been thru similar cir****tances. You have to do your best to eat tho. You need to be there for your kids and you can't be there if you are sick.

Third, get your vitamins situated. Find out what your labs were and ask questions here for some great advice.

Fourth, you will look older, sick etc. This is temporary. Give your body time to recover and let everything settle. You will be amazed in the end.

Good luck with everything. You can do this!!!!

 Oh girl.

Stress eats you whole.  BTDT.

Vitamins + protein.  You don't have to spend a lot of money.  Bariatric Advantage offers a plan for those who cannot afford their vitamins through the Obesity Action Coaltion -- you may be approved in your situation.

Protein doesn't have to be expensive -- and if you're flat broke -- Food Stamps.  The limits are much higher for income that one might anticipate...

WIC - how old is your child/children?

Thank you everyone u truly are amazing! I dont like to ask for help but guess this time I have too. I did not get malnutrition in 2 mos. I meant I have had a very bad 2 mos. all the other times I have had labs they were always good except iron and b12 so have extra for that. I will for sure look into that program for affordable vitamins as they can sure add up. I think I would make too much for food stamps but will look into it. I just went 2 weeks with not a cent and yes I moved....dumb i guess. Also I am in therapy. Thanks for all the advice and pray the breast cancer is negative!