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I don't identify personally but I do have a transgender F2M 20-year-old (hence RAINBOMAMA username). We're actually saving for surgery for him in May or June to have top surgery (removal of breasts). I can't wait to be able to give the gift of surgery to him.

You are an awesome mom!

I had an interesting conversation last night with someone who was commenting at his surprise at the number of FTM and MTF people that identify as gay after surgery.  The ideaology was why don't they just stay the gender they were "whouldn't it be easier".   That's when a conversation about gender identity versus sexual orientation had to come into play.

I have to admit that I have a bit of a facination with FTM men because I love the transformation aspect.

Wow, you are an awesome Mom!! What a lucky son you have!

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Well, I am both FTM and post-op Gastric Bypass since 2004.  It's nice to see some words of support floating around on here for other FTM's.  There were some comments about FTM's identifying as gay post-transition.  I myself have had numerous friends fall into that category and would offer the following comment, simply that it's a little easier to date men and yet still identify as gay then it is to have to date men pre-op as a straight woman.  In other words, sometimes folks just don't quite feel like they fit in the world as someone straight, yet are attracted to men.  Thefore, once they transition, it's a little more accepting to fall in the gay community.  Good luck to all.  Max

Thank you for the compliments.

When someone compliments me about being a wonderful mother to him, it baffles me for a bit. LOL! I'm just loving my child because he's mine. I have 32 and 31-year-old children as well. I can't imagine not loving him because he was born transgender. I'd never turn my back on any of my children but especially because of a gender issue. I wouldn't be able to function without him anyway. He's my buddy.

At 18, one of my cousins had FTM surgery and is doing great. His mom was behind him 100% and paid for everything from hormone treatments and therapy to the actual surgery. His dad won't speak to him and one of two sisters won't speak to him, either - but his mom is still there without condemning other family members for their opinions.

Just thought you deserved some love for being a great mom, too  :)

I am so glad you both have each other. I love how you support him in this, I know you say it baffles you but other people go through this and can meet so much resistance from family, some are disowned, so its great to hear a good story and know your son will have a good transition bc of the support he receives.

Thank you both so much. I couldn't imagine our life any other way. I feel so sorry for those who do not have the support and love of their family members. What a sad world this is when a parent turns on their child because they're gay or trans. Sad indeed.

I too want to thank you for being such a great mom.  (I love your avatar).  My 24 yr old son came out on his FB page, shortly after moving out (the first time).  I was surprised but not surprised. I feel like I had been "prepared" in a sense, considering that I graduated from a performing arts school where being gay was accepted.  My dear uncle died at 44 from AIDS 20 years ago. He never told his mom, keeping it secret til she passed away.  so, I felt bad that my son couldn't tell me but when I called him about his FB page, he was relieved that it didn't change a thing!

From a spiritual viewpoint, I personally believe that we choose who our parents will be. I feel very blessed to be his mom.  Since moving out on his own again last month, he calls me almost every other day just to say hi & love ya.  He's worked his way through many jobs to finally arrive as a supervisor of a dept store. 

sorry for rambling.  Your post just touched me very much.  Blessings to you and your family.
Jo

I also just wanted to compliment you on your loving open heart.