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A card to order smaller portions at a restaurant

morkie31
on 4/5/12 3:04 pm - TX
How to get a card to order smaller portions at a restaurant
mirlyn2012
on 4/5/12 4:27 pm - FL
RNY on 02/20/12
They do.t always work but the weightloss center's coordinator gave us cards (on one side they request reduced portions other side says NO NG TUBE!) She gave them to us at a group education session.
      .oOo.oOo.oOo.oOo.Miranda.oOo.oOo.oOo.oOo.      
GreenGardener
on 4/5/12 4:46 pm
VSG on 06/02/09 with
 Just MHO, but -- don't be a cheapie.  Order a regular portion and pay for it and take the rest home.  
 SD:  6/09; HW:  263;  LW:  143; CW:  155; 5'5"; 62 yo
(deactivated member)
on 4/5/12 5:38 pm - Mexico
On April 5, 2012 at 4:46 PM Pacific Time, GreenGardener wrote:
 Just MHO, but -- don't be a cheapie.  Order a regular portion and pay for it and take the rest home.  
 
LIKE!!!
(deactivated member)
on 4/5/12 5:35 pm, edited 4/5/12 5:35 pm - Mexico

    Way_Out_There
Member Since: 10/11/09
[Latest Posts]Post Date: 10/13/09 1:03 pm

 A “Restaurant Card” is a business cards sized card, often laminated, usually given by surgeons reading something to the effect of: The holder of this card has had a surgical procedure which has permanently reduced their stomach capacity. Therefore… It is greatly appreciated if you would allow them to order from the children’s menu or to purchase half-sized adult entrees. Thank you for your consideration.  

1. WLS Restaurant Cards differ from REAL Discount Cards such as AAA, Entertainment Book, etc. in one very important aspect: The REAL discounts are negotiated and agreed to by all parties in advance. The restaurant staff is briefed on how to handle the card. It is PRESUMPTUOUS to create and distribute a card asking/demanding a discount.

2. Restaurants are put into a losing position to start. If they say “no” to the card, which they had no part in creating or marketting, they are already making the customer unhappy. How is this fair even putting them in that position? Were I a restaurant owner, I would resent this card about as much as someone demanding a discount because they are a VIP (Very Important Person).  

3. I had surgery. It was my choice to have my stomach modified so that I could only eat 3-5 ounces of food at a sitting. There are many people that have not had surgery that CHOOSE to eat 3-5 ounces of food at a sitting (imagine that!). I do not deserve a discount, or a special menu, any more than they do.  

4. “I eat less than most children; I should pay what they pay”. Children’s prices are a marketing tactic to get parents to bring their kids (and themselves) to a restaurant. Children’s menu’s are not because children eat so little. Children’s menus are designed for children’s tastes. Bland and greasy.   

5. Seniors Menus are also a marketing tactic to get seniors to come to the restaurant. If you’re not a senior, you don’t DESERVE a discount because you eat less than a senior. Many restaurants offer a ‘For Smaller Appetites’ Menu, this you may qualify for.  

6. I don’t want the hostess, waitress, people behind me or near by, the busboy, or anyone else to know my medical history. It is none of their business, and I should not be making it their business simply to get a discount.  

7. Buffets are “All you can eat for…” If all you can eat is 3-5 ounces, the price is the same as when you ate 30-50 ounces or 300-500 ounces. When you could eat 2, 3, or 4 times what the average person could eat, did you ask to pay more? Of course not. To remain morally consistent, you cannot ask to pay less now.  

8. “I didn’t choose the buffet, my family did… Why should I pay when I only eat 3-5 ounces.” See #7. Further, you are there to be with your family or friends. Eating out now is even more about the company you keep rather that getting the most food for the least price. Actually, it should always have been about the company.  

9. “I didn’t choose the buffet, my family did…” So, before WLS, did you pay less when you wanted Mexican food, but your family outvoted you and you ended up with Chinese? No, you went along to keep peace, to enjoy the company. Whatever your reasons were then, they’re the same now.  

10. “I can’t eat all that, I can’t take leftovers home, I don’t want to waste it.” Waste it. Leaving leftovers is not the end of the world. In spite of what your mama said, leaving food on your plate is not a sin, and it will not help starving children in China for you to clean your plate now. You are not obliged to clean your plate. IN FACT, restaurants try to serve enough to satisfy large appetites and they expect people NOT to eat it all. They have trash cans out back for all the left over food.  

11. Do you demand a discount at convenience store on a bag of potato chips because you can’t eat the whole bag, and a lot will go to waste? Why not, it’s the SAME THING.  

12. Dinner at Chili’s cost $15 before WLS, and you left satisfied. Post-op, the same dinner costs $15 and you leave satisfied. The only difference is you leave food on the plate rather than nose marks. Often, rather than ordering a $15 dinner, you can order $10 appetizer, and you are ahead of the game.  

13. "Restaurants should be considerate of WLS Patients." Restaurants should be considerate of EVERYONE. There are many groups of adults that eat less than 'normal', yet they do not expect discounts.   Obviously, or perhaps not so obviously, these arguments presume that people have integrity and that they desire their actions and opinions to be rational, supportable, and consistent. There are those that will do whatever is necessary to get a discount, which these arguments will not dissuade from this course.

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jaded123
on 4/6/12 11:25 am - MD
*LOVE* this!



HW: 310 /  Lost 15 on pre-op diet  /  SW: 295  /  CW: 178 /  GW: 170-175

(deactivated member)
on 4/6/12 6:44 pm - Mexico
On April 6, 2012 at 11:25 AM Pacific Time, jaded123 wrote:
*LOVE* this!
 
Me too!

I stole it.  So I always post the credit at the top of the post.  ;o)  I emailed this 'unknown' poster and asked if I could steal it with credit, never received a response.  Soooo, I took it as a YES!  BY ALL MEANS!  HA


pinkpeonies
on 4/8/12 9:50 pm
VSG on 04/23/12 with
"The only difference is you leave food on the plate rather than nose marks."

Nose marks...totally hit my funny bone. ROFL!

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5/27/14 - Extended abdominoplasty with hernia and diastasis recti repair

 

(deactivated member)
on 4/9/12 6:22 am - Mexico
On April 8, 2012 at 9:50 PM Pacific Time, pinkpeonies wrote:
"The only difference is you leave food on the plate rather than nose marks."

Nose marks...totally hit my funny bone. ROFL!
 
You know, when I posted that the other day I was rereading it.  I laughed at the same thing.  Whoever wrote that had a great sense of humor and knows us well.  ;o)


sandyfeets
on 4/5/12 5:49 pm - Jacksonville, FL
RNY on 12/20/05 with
Don't ....just DO NOT get one.   Really.  You chose to have your guts cut up and rearranged. 
Do NOT ask a business to make you a "cheaper" portion.  

Order a regular meal.... dont' eat the carbs or get a to go box and talk it home for a 2nd and 3rd meal.

I had surgery 6 yrs ago and I've never had one, never will nor would I even use it.    Even early out I found plenty to eat on any menu in any restaurant.   Even international in Europe I found lots of great food to eat in every city/town.  

PS---it's not a crime to leave food on your plate and let it go in the trash.   Learn to throw away stuff, rather than stuffing in your mouth.


MarilynT
on 4/5/12 5:56 pm
RNY on 10/02/01 with
I agree with all who said don't waste your time...or the time and patience of the restaurant. Share an entree, choose something from the appetizer menu, or take leftovers home. I have also had GREAT success in simply asking if they can make me something not on menu; I don't explain WHY other than to say I do not have a great appetite and hate to waste food, having witnessed true poverty in my travels. They are usually more than happy to accomodate and I don't have to talk about my personal health history.

Marilyn (now in NM)
RNY 10/2/01
262(HW)/150-155(GW)/159(CW)
(updated March 2012)

mirlyn2012
on 4/5/12 7:13 pm - FL
RNY on 02/20/12
 Lol y'all they were asking how to get one, not SHOULD THEY get one. Jeez. Just because you have one doesn't mean you'll use it either. I haven't used mine but I keep it on me (my surgeon asks us to keep it on us for the NO NG TUBE on the back if we don't have medical alert bracelets yet.) 

I don't see the card as being what the restaurantier would resent but maybe the THIS IS OWED TO ME attitude some card carriers may have. If I want a kids meal and they say no and I decide to show my card as a last ditch effort and they still say no? So be it. Honestly though I pick off other peoples plates as of right now and order a 2.00 a la carte item sooooooo they'd get more money out of me with the kids meal lol.
      .oOo.oOo.oOo.oOo.Miranda.oOo.oOo.oOo.oOo.      
rbb825
on 4/5/12 7:30 pm - Suffern, NY
first off, we can have an NG tube, we cant have a blind NG tube - there is a big difference.

Most people dont have both on the same card - I have never heard of them being on the same card.

 I personally love leftovers - I order extra so I have what to take home, I hate to cook

 

MacMadame
on 4/5/12 8:10 pm - Northern, CA
 My card has them both plus surgeon contact info, a picture of the surgery and a list of possible complications to look out for early pre-op. 

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(deactivated member)
on 4/5/12 8:24 pm - Mexico
On April 5, 2012 at 7:13 PM Pacific Time, mirlyn2012 wrote:
 Lol y'all they were asking how to get one, not SHOULD THEY get one. Jeez. Just because you have one doesn't mean you'll use it either. I haven't used mine but I keep it on me (my surgeon asks us to keep it on us for the NO NG TUBE on the back if we don't have medical alert bracelets yet.) 

I don't see the card as being what the restaurantier would resent but maybe the THIS IS OWED TO ME attitude some card carriers may have. If I want a kids meal and they say no and I decide to show my card as a last ditch effort and they still say no? So be it. Honestly though I pick off other peoples plates as of right now and order a 2.00 a la carte item sooooooo they'd get more money out of me with the kids meal lol.
 
That's the cool thing about posting on message boards, we all get to post as we want and nobody gets to tell us we can't post our opinions.

This is a hot topic, people really hate those cards.  They embarrass us as a whole and people are going to post their opinions.

MrsLitch
on 4/5/12 9:39 pm - Morris, IL
RNY on 06/04/12
" They embarrass us as a whole" that is a pretty broad statement.. they don't embarrass me at all. In fact why would what someone else uses bother me or anyone else.
I am still pre-op have never head of them before this thread and don't think I'd bother as my kids eat off the adult menu so if I want a kids meal I can still order one without "cheating".
For some who may be living on a strict budget this may mean they can eat out once a month.. who am I (or anyone else) to stop them?


(deactivated member)
on 4/5/12 9:49 pm - Mexico
On April 5, 2012 at 9:39 PM Pacific Time, MrsLitch wrote:
" They embarrass us as a whole" that is a pretty broad statement.. they don't embarrass me at all. In fact why would what someone else uses bother me or anyone else.
I am still pre-op have never head of them before this thread and don't think I'd bother as my kids eat off the adult menu so if I want a kids meal I can still order one without "cheating".
For some who may be living on a strict budget this may mean they can eat out once a month.. who am I (or anyone else) to stop them?


 
As you say, you haven't even had surgery.  Stick around and see the stories of how people scream, yell, and demand their discount.  It's embarrassing.

But if you don't care, so be it.  No skin off my nose.

And if someone is living on a strict budget, that is not the fault of the restaurant owner and he doesn't owe the WLS person anything.  The restaurant owner is probably on a very tight budget as well.

The restaurant owner is the one to stop them and rightfully so, that's who.
rbb825
on 4/5/12 9:55 pm - Suffern, NY
I am on   a very strict budget and that is why when I go out, I get enough for several meals but if I cant afford it, I dont go.  I would never ask for a childs portion or for half price meal.

 

kardon
on 4/7/12 12:10 pm
People on strict budgets should make healthful meals at home.
    
MacMadame
on 4/5/12 8:11 pm - Northern, CA
Btw, you don't need a card to order of the kid's menu or ask for a half serving. Just ask!

I do these sort of things all the time and they always say yes and I don't have to explain my medical history or go into information that  is none of their business.

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