At my support group last month, someone came looking for help. She wanted to lose weight so badly but she knew she was an emotional eater and had no idea how to get help for that BEFORE she had surgery. She didn't want to go through surgery and then regain the weight - or find another addictive avenue. She wanted help resolving her emotional issues first.
I was so mad at the group because 1) the conversation was dominated by a handful of folks that acted like they'd never even heard of the emotional connection to obesity, let alone been effected by it and 2) the skinny ninny moderator never stepped in and answered her real question.
She was clearly PLEADING for help - to a group that should have embraced her passionately - but her cries fell on deaf ears. I kept trying to get a word in because I'm very, very cognizant of my emotional connections to food. I gave up and decided to talk to her privately at the break - but she snuck out before the break.
I pray she comes tonight. I have prayed she continues to search for answers and doesn't give up. And I pray that more WLS folks wake up and realize surgery will NOT make the issues just go away. If you don't deal with how you got there in the first place... then history is bound to repeat itself in one form or another.
Whether it's emotional eating, depression, anger management... we a society we must encourage seeking out professional help from a counselor, psychologist, psychiatrist.
For years when I had a sinus infection or the flu, I would just suck it up and wait for it to go away. Guess what... if you go to the doctor... they fix you in a fraction of the time! So if we go to the doctor for the flu, why in the WORLD would we not encourage each other to go to the doctor when our brain was under the weather?!?
OK... so now I'm all FIRED UP for tonight's support group meeting!! Wonder if that's a good thing?!?!
That poor girl from last month... sure hope I recognize her tonight and can share some of my struggles with her!