Mentally that is...   :)  ..in a good way..

Couple of days ago i took some empty beer cans from my sons house to the recycle center the man working there wa****ting on me big time. Last night was the first day of the Super Fair here in town, i was dancing on stage with the live band singing and a man approached me asked me to dance.When i got back to my sons place to return my grandson after the fair night with him, my son asked me to dance and told me i look beautiful.. Surprised to hear that from my  son..First time he's asked me to dance..

Today I'm on FIRE with all this in my head..Lots of attention..I'm so on Fire that today got me motivated again to get back exercising, I havent been exercising in over 1 month.i am going walking inside the Mall for 1 hour.I haven't been exercising or riding horse , its been 100+ degrees for over 5 weeks here in NE. and expecting more of this heat wave..it has been taking a toll on me with my heart condition I've got heat exaustion. I know i could have been walking in the mall sooner but had other things needed attending to.

 WHY does it take women the attention of a Man to get us motivated. I'm sure im not alone on this one.. Gotta find what keeps me motivated now a days P O...This heat wave is definately playing a part of me hybernating inside..my home is too small for exercise equipment...Well gotta run, busy day for me..Hugs and Peace\/ Wendy

I BEG TO BE EXCLUDED FROM THE THOUGHT OF NEEDED THE ATTENTION OF A MAN TO GET MOTIVATED .... SHUDDERS....

I am glad you enjoyed the dance and compliment given by your son ... it is an awesome feeling indeed to have a close relationship with ones son ... mine invites me all over the place with him and his friends and I love going along when I can .... they are all funny and respectful and treat me wonderfully both fat or slim.

While male compliments and attention are appreciated in the spirit in which it is given as long as it is kept respectfully, I totally EXCLUDE myself from this thought process of :  "WHY does it take women the attention of a Man to get us motivated".. I MOST DEFINITELY EXCLUDE MYSELF AND CRINGE AT THE THOUGHT OR THE IDEA OF EVER HAVING THAT MINDSET....

I encourage ANY 'women who need the attention of a Man to get motivated' or the attention of anyone else for that matter to get motivated to IMMEDIATELY start working on their issues ... be it that of self esteem or whatever... it is really sorry to think that unless thusly motivated one would have a less than glorious day ... I REBUKE THAT THOUGHT...

I need NO MAN to get motivated ... when I look in the mirror I can see me with all my accomplishments as well as my mistakes ... for there were many .... I STAND PROUD because I am my OWN woman and my OWN denominator .... I do NOT need at man to TELL ME that I am beautiful or that I am lovely to feel good about myself ... I am blessed to have a wonderful man who 20+ years after calls me beautiful and calls me his bride ... and I had the previous one before him that told me I would make a wet dream go bad ...  it did not break me... I picked up the pieces and made a better life for myself....

Women are BEAUTIFULLY MADE ... and are self sufficient and STRONG ... it is high time we embrace our OWN beauty and ROLL ... motivating ourselves to be the best we can ever be ...for OURSELVES and our loved ones ... 

I encourage you to embrace yourself and the beauty that is within you and motivate yourself each day ... because each day is a miracle given to us to make the best of it with or without the compliment or attention of others .... some are not that fortunate ... I just read in the paper about the passing of this awesome woman ... a lawyer here in the city ... vibrant ... full of life and accomplishments ...we did not even know that she was sick ... and I think about my awesome sister ... a physician ... battling with a grave illness and motivated each day to wake up to her treatments and has returned to work .... and I consider how blessed I am ... to have this day ...in which I MYSELF with motivate myself to be a better me....

Sorry for my spiel ...only YOU can embrace Joy and make it happen to YOU .... only I can embrace Joy and make it happen to me ... despite all external distractions or all hell breaking loose around me ... because I am me ... self made ... imperfectly me ... but ME ... and that makes me happy!!!

Congratz on the compliments, its good for the soul!  I do however completely agree with Marty!

You are 100% correct feeling good about yourself has to come from within.

 Sorry but I too agree with Marty.  While attention from the opposite sex is nice (especially when you've never had it before like me) it can be very dangerous, even addicting.  There was a period of time when I was in communications and/or dating a lot of men (got to the point where I didn't know who was calling me on the phone) and I liked it a lot, probably because I never had it before.  But you have to love yourself enough and have enough self-esteem to do it for YOU!  

Don't take this the wrong way, but have you considered counseling?  I know for me, I need it (even now) and think everyone should have a counselor/therapist.  Someone to talk to that isn't going to judge you and will give you honest, and usually good feedback that is unbiased.  

I'm so happy for you about you son asking you to dance that's so adorable!  How old is he?

Have a wonderful day no matter what you do make it a great one!!!

Mallisa

My son is 35

It doesnt take the attention of a man to motivate me EVER. I have achieved so much in my life that had nothing to do with male attention, in fact it was despite asshole men in my life.

I motivate myself, My kids motivate me, and now that I have found my true love he motivates me, but it is a two way street, I motivate him and we are great together.

Compliments are fun, I agree, I love to hear them, but you can go weeks without hearing them, so some self evaluation of thinks you do well and compliment yourself.

One of the best pieces of advice (I think) I ever give on the Singles Boards is that it is important to love yourself before you can ever expect anyone to love you ...

Users and losers can sniff a low self esteem a mile away - so someone who thinks that they NEED attention to get motivated may well end up in an abusive relationship (BTDT)!

Male attention can be fun, but it really shouldn't matter a jot as to how you feel about yourself!!!   I found therapy to be enormously helpful after my marriage ended and you should seriously consider it to help you with these thoughts!

Whatever motivates you and makes you happy is good, but as everyone pointed out you need to be happy with yourself first then the compliments just enhance you having a nice day.  Nothing motivates me to exercise, I wish something did.

I still think a compliment from the opposite sex (or whatever) is very warming ! Congratulations!!!

Personally, you can take your "health concerns" as a motivator - that and a dollar will buy you a donut.

What really motivates me is getting into skinnier jeans and getting some lovin' attention !

 Because it makes us feel good to be noticed by the opposite sex.

 ..and now I think I'm ready to bust and move. 
Now motion city sound track is in my head! 

What a great day to be you.,