I went ahead and shared my decision for WLS and I got a ton of support but this morning I recieved this 

"No **** it I'll say it, why not pray to your god for some willpower. You're not some special snowflake that breaks the second law of thermodynamics. You once told me you don't believe in the religion of science yet you are alive now because of it, and you are running right back to it when the going gets tough. What kind of message are you showing your family? That you can just eat what ever you want and not get adequate exercise because all you have to do is get your stomach banded and everything will be okay. I find it to be aggravatingly funny, you believe that life is a gift from god yet you treat the vessel, your body, he gave you like **** The one thing and only thing in this whole world which is truly yours and you **** it away, but hey I bet your car is nice and shiny and house is immaculate. "

Junk it! delete it! throw it in the trash and empty the can!!!  DO NOT GIVE THE JOKER WHO WROTE IT AN AUDIENCE .... and do not let this sort of ignorance rent space in your head not even for a minute ... its garbage ... basura ... 

Whatever they are pissed off about, is NOT YOU!!!!  I say, ignore them and move on.  You had a decision to make, and with God's help, I'm sure you used your best judgement.  This is the most personal decision you can make for yourself, and people should be respectful of that.  I support your decision 100%!!!  Kel

Wow. Shockingly unsupportive. You deserve better. Do not acknowledge. Do not respond. Do not share. Do not keep. You have identified somone who will not help you on your journey to better health. It's good to know now. I'm glad that the rest of your family and friends are so encouraging!

There are many ways to find out who is a friend and who isn't.  This is one of the most mean spirited ways I've seen.  This person has made it very easy for you to know that s/he isn't a friend.  No great loss as I see it.  It gives you more time to spend with those *****ally do care.

I agree, now you know who your friends are. This one is just jealous that they aren't able to find a solution to their own problems and because you have the courage to take an important and necessary step to achieve and maintain health, they are taking out on you!

Willpower is not all it is cracked up to be and neither is the individual who sent you this rant!  Trash this message and if you know the person, lose them like yesterday's news, because they will only try to bring you down.

You have started out on a very hard journey and you will get through it!

What?!?  Really?!?! The enemy (seen and unseen) throws these barbs/arrows in hopes to crush the hopes of the hopeful, the dreams of the dreamers, and the desires of the seekers.

Whoever sent this message clearly is dealing with a ton of their own internal demons.  THAT is NOT your problem to resolve.  And God bless 'em as they try to dig out of the pit of despair their heart currently calls home!

Whether they are family, a friend, a coworker, or someone random that just happened to make it on your "send" list... it is now imperative that you set up appropriate (healthy) boundaries and guard yourself and your heart from the destruction they seek.  You have come too far and have too much at stake to spend 15 seconds in the presence of that individual right now - you've got a new and amazing life to carve out for yourself and your family and THAT will take every drop of energy and enthusiasm you've got!

I'm only six weeks post-op and by no stretch is this the "easy way out".  Nothin' easy about it babe.  But beyond a shadow of a doubt it is the BEST solution for me - and so many, many others.  (If only we could "eat whatever we wanted"... Silly boy/girl...)

I don't know your situation, your background or how you got where you are today.  And none-of-that-matters.  I'm thrilled for the support you have gotten and super excited for this stage of your adventure!  I haven't told many people at all but I've found so much support here on OH!  I hope you do too!

Best of luck!

OK - just read "My Story" on your profile... without a shadow of a doubt you ARE an amazing woman!!  So very impressive what you've come through and your determination to get where you're going.  Kuddos to you!  Kuddos indeed!!!

I can't imagine someone sending such a hate filled email to you about something that affects them not at all! Jeez, you'd think you had decided to burn his puppy or something.

Do not give them the satisfaction of a response. Ignore this and any future correspondences. You need support. Genuine concern is one thing but that's not what this email is **** that! Right in the eye! Stay far, far away from this person.

Best of luck to you! You already know that you're making the best decision you can for yourself. Don't listen to fools who don't know anything!

And....uh...sorry for the f bomb.

(Got me riled!)

That is one classy person who sent you that.  I bet it took them hours with dictionaries trying to find the right words and spell them.  You knew by sharing your WLS you were going to get some crap from someone.  We all have haters and hypocrates in our lives.  With that one persons reply how many happy ones did you get?  I'll be a supporter of your surgery. 

 Oh, Katie!  Just read your profile page...whoever sent you that email is cruel, unkind, and evil.  You have been through hell and for this person to say these things to you is unconscionable.  You are highly motivated to lose and WLS is probably the way to go.
 Do your research and consider other options besides the band, since many of us who are banded have developed issues after a couple of years, resulting in band removal, revision, etc.  Most of the people who have had to revise, have chosen VSG.  If you go forward with banding, be very compliant and aware of the signs of trouble.
I have been banded a bit over two years, lost 75+ lb and would do it again, under the same cir****tances, though today, I would choose VSG, because of less follow up.  
Whatever you decide, you've been given the gift of life after a near-death experience, your kids and wonderfully devoted husband need you....do what you need to do and tell whomever sent you that piece of hate mail to go jump in the lake!
Best of luck(((())))!

Sounds like somebody peed in her Cheerios. (*grin*)

But please, PLEASE---do look at other options than Banding. It just does NOT have a good track record.

As a Christian I fully believe it was God Himself who gave doctors the knowledge and skill to perform bariatric surgery because He knows will power doesn't work for many of us. For many people this is a disease, an addiction of a sort and will power doesn't work with that. Often it takes surgical intervention and counceling. So blow off this fool and carry on. Altho I have to say if you are considering the lap band please research other surgeries because the band is the least effective of all the surgeries and has been useless for many of us and for others has caused life long damage to our stomachs.

Amen!

 Unbelievable.  People's ignorance and hatefulness towards others these days never ceases to amaze me and not in a good way.  I know its hard to do because if youre like me you take things so personally, but just delete the mail and try to forget it.  Youre doing whats right for you, not for them.  Hold your head high.  Hugs

HIT THE BLOCK BUTTON to prevent this jerk from sending again.  There have been a few select jerks on OH, sending crap like that.  They usually come from deactivated members or members with strange names like "AmishJihad" or something similar a year or so ago who sent these. I've blocked about 20 people over 6 years, some for spam emai, but some for either continual ugly comments.  It's your decision. DAVE

 Meh.  I'd have to see what you wrote first.  I can't read this out of context.

J.

 "willpower" - this is nonesense and we all know it. you can safely ignore this person, in fact you should.

but please re-think getting a band. there are many reasons not to - if you don't know them, go over to the VSG forum and ask them why they decided on their surgery. 

and good luck!