Talking you out of surgery?

(deactivated member)
on 10/1/14 4:10 am - RIVERDALE, NJ

I get people all the time telling me you lost a 100lbs on your own why you going to get this surgery??? Well because I feel its a tool that can help me get off the last 120lbs. How do you guys feel about people asking you? Kind of annoying

iloveravens
on 10/1/14 4:17 am

RNY on 08/13/14

Yes, I got a few comments like, "You're not THAT big..." (Gee thanks) and "Isn't that a little drastic?" But I knew it was what I wanted for my 40th birthday and my mind was made up. I didn't tell many people just because of the negativity.

Lanie; Age: 43; Surgery Date (VSG): 8/12/14 w/complications resulting in RNY next day;

Height: 5' 6" SW: 249 Comfort Zone: 135-140 CW: 138 (10/13/17)

M1: -25 lbs M2: -12 M3: -13 M4: -7 M5: -11 M6: -10 M7: -7 M8: -7 M9: -3 M10: -8 M11: -4 M12: -4

5K PR - 24:15 (4/23/16) First 10K - 53:30 (10/18/15)

Tracy D.
on 10/1/14 4:19 am - Papillion, NE

VSG on 05/24/13

Tell them that the surgery isn't really a tool for losing the weight - you've proven you can do that without it. WLS is a tool for KEEPING THE WEIGHT OFF! Most morbidly obese people have had some success with losing...we just haven't ever been able to keep it off. That's what this tool does for you. Maybe if you explain it to them that way it will help. Or maybe not...because people who haven't walked in your shoes just don't get it.

Tracy 5'3" HW: 235 SW: 218 CW: 132 M1: -22 M2: -13 M3: -12 M4: -9 M5: -8 M6: -10 M7: -4

Goal reached in 7 months and 1 week!

Lower Body Lift w/Dr. Barnthouse 7-8-15

Laura in Texas
on 10/1/14 11:43 pm

RNY on 09/17/08

Well said!!

Laura in Texas

53 years old; 5'7" tall; HW: 339 (BMI=53); GW: 140 CW: 170 (BMI=27)

RNY: 09-17-08 Dr. Garth Davis

brachioplasty: 12-18-09 Dr. Wainwright; lbl/bl: 06-28-11 Dr. LoMonaco

"May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears."

Cicerogirl, The PhD
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on 10/1/14 4:22 am - OH

RNY on 08/27/07

I never had anyone try to talk me out of it. I didn't tell anyone about it until after I had already made the decision to do it (and was completing the insurance company requirements), and when I did tell people, it was in a way that made it clear that the decision was made and it wasn't open for debate.

Of course, I had also not lost 100 pounds on my own, either.

Lora

14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained

You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.

Oxford Comma Hag
on 10/1/14 4:34 am

RNY on 09/12/11

I didn't have that happen. Probably because I clearly needed to do something, since I was carrying 300+ pounds on my 5'4" frame AND because I just don't tend to get to much uninvited commentary from folks.

You could always point out that surgery makes keeping the weight off easier.

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(deactivated member)
on 10/1/14 4:38 am - RIVERDALE, NJ

Thanks guys! Im just so excited I cant wait!

Bubbles314
on 10/1/14 5:37 am - Kalamazoo, MI

RNY on 10/06/14

I was disappointed in a few people I told about WLS. They said something close to "why would you do that to your body willingly" and the one I like best is "you do know that that is considered elective surgery, will you insurance even pay for it?". I answered "do you think that I didn't research about what I am doing? and you don't make this decision today and have surgery tomorrow I had several months to change my mind".

I have noticed I have only 4 days left before surgery and the buzz on my family and friends is they are all trying to get back to eating healthy and starting to exercise. I think the wls I'm having is motivating others around me.

Good luck