Survey: How do you respond to THAT question

Lisa F.
on 5/2/16 7:15 am
VSG on 06/06/16

Hi WLS peeps -

Received my surgery date: June 6th, and am worrying about how to respond to the question: "how did you lose the weight?" I haven't told my coworkers, although my close friends and family know. I know my coworkers will likely figure it out but I'm worried. I want to reply with a message that says in a polite way and retains my privacy.

Those of you who are post-op: how have you handled this question?

Thanks to all!

VSG DATE 6/6/16 | SW 280 | CW 198 | GW 175 | HEIGHT 5'8 | AGE 55

ORIGINAL GOAL WEIGHT OF 175 MET: 12/6/17 (18 MONTHS POST OP)

NEW GOAL: LOSE 20 LB RE-GAIN

lking
on 5/2/16 7:20 am - Indianapolis, IN
RNY on 12/04/15

Anyone that asked, I told them.

67 yrs old, 4'10", BMI 31.8 (51.8 at start), HW 256.4 (8/4/15), SW 217.4, CW 152.8 (4/30/18), GW 125.0, RNY 12/4/15 Dr. RoseMarie Jones, Breast Cancer DX 2/16, Bi-lateral mastectomy 8/9/16.

Sparklekitty, Science-Loving Derby Hag
on 5/2/16 7:40 am
RNY on 08/05/19

Depends who's asking. For people I don't feel like giving the whole story to, it's usually along the lines of "I've been working really hard and getting help from my doctor." That's usually plenty of info.

Sparklekitty / Julie / Nerdy Little Secret (#42)
Roller derby - cycling - triathlon
VSG 2013, RNY conversion 2019 due to GERD. Trendweight here!

Oxford Comma Hag
on 5/2/16 7:45 am

Audrey, who is on the RNY board, has a great answer: diet, surgery, exercise. It covers all the bases. However, since you do not want to be public, there are a number of ways you could go:

My, what a personal question.

I'm on the Purina Puppy Chow diet.

I don't eat anything that tastes good.

Hey, while we are discussing personal details, how much did you make last year? 

I'm following my doctor's plan.

Whatever you do, don't lie; it will backfire and people will find out.

I was straightforward, but really I didn't get many questions. I don't invite them, and no one really cared anyway. 

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Lisa F.
on 5/2/16 8:05 am
VSG on 06/06/16

"I'm on the Purina Puppy Chow diet".

 

Love this! 

supershopper
on 5/2/16 12:04 pm

your funny- lol

When I think of puppy chow, I think of the chex snack with peanuts with chocolate and powered sugar on it.

HW 305 SW 278 Surgery weight 225 GW 160 LW: 118.8

RNY 12/15/2015,

GB removal 09/2016,

Twisted bowel/hernia repair 08/2017

M1 Dec 2015-13.0, M2-7.0, M3-14.5, M4-9.4, M5-7.1, M6 9.8, M7-7.6 ,M8- 7.6, M-9 5.5, M10-6.4, M11- 2.2, M12 Dec 2016- 5.8

dog_hair_dinner
on 5/2/16 12:09 pm
RNY on 03/01/16

> Hey, while we are discussing personal details, how much did you make last year? 

omg I love this

Daisydoo02
on 5/2/16 7:12 pm - GTA, Ontario, Canada
RNY on 11/15/13

Your answers are brilliant!  Wish I had of had these in my back pocket 2.5 years ago!

I love them all, especially "Hey, while we are discussing personal details, how much did you make last year"?  BRILLIANT I am so using that one for future!! LOL LOL

Daisy 5'5" HW: 290 SW: 254 CW: 120

Nov 15, 2013: RNY - Toronto Western Hospital, Nov 2, 2017: Gallbladder removal & hernia repair

Sept 7, 2023: three +1 hernia's repaired in bowel

10+ years post op, living & loving life!

(deactivated member)
on 5/2/16 7:47 am
Deanna798
on 5/2/16 9:35 am
RNY on 08/04/15

Gary, I love ya bud, but I think you might have it wrong here.  I don't see that trying to prepare for awkward situations to be a "red flag".  If anything it's trying to prepare for that uncomfortable place down the road.  I was prepared to lose all my weight when I went in to have surgery, and I don't think it's out of bounds to look to the future for that.  Your comment struck me as a sort of shaming, because she's not "focusing on the proper execution of the lifestyle".  Each of us have our own path to walk and it seems somewhat cruel to imply that the OPs questions are a red flag for something wrong with her.

I have had many people ask me how I'm losing the weight before I "came out" and each time I would have to privately answer their questions.  It got to the point where I felt like I was being dishonest talking about my weight loss openly but not talking openly about HOW I lost it.

maybe it's because I'm a woman that people asked me, it was usually my friends and family who I am not really close with and that I don't see often that were interested.  They were looking for the magic that I had to offer, and I hated to burst their bubble telling them I had to rearrange my insides to do it. Most of the people who asked were overweight but not large enough to actually qualify for WLS.  They were looking to lose 20 to 30lbs.  

Age: 44 | Height: 5' 3" | Starting January 2015: 291 | RNY 8/4/15 with Dr. Arthur Carlin| Goal: 150

Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise. ~Proverbs 19:20

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