Transfer addiction - shopping

Deanna798
on 2/21/17 5:17 pm, edited 2/21/17 5:30 pm
RNY on 08/04/15

Seriously,  i am having the hardest time shutting down the spending.  I spent $125 on my credit card yesterday on 2 pairs of shoes.  They are going to be awesome,  but I couldn't help myself.  I got these and these.  

I can't wait until they get here.  

But my problem is that i spend too much. Now that i can wear cute clothes and shoes, i just keep buying more. Uggh 

My hubby is going to be pissed when he sees them.  

Age: 44 | Height: 5' 3" | Starting January 2015: 291 | RNY 8/4/15 with Dr. Arthur Carlin| Goal: 150

Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise. ~Proverbs 19:20

Laura in Texas
on 2/21/17 5:33 pm

If you don't have any debt and can pay for things with cash, I see no problem in shopping. If you are getting into debt just because you want something, instead of spending money on things your family needs, you should stop. Plus if it is going to cause problems in your marriage, you should cut back.

I have always been broke, so I still shop at thrift stores or find things on sale for under 10. I rarely spend more than $10 on any item for myself. I did just spend $19 on boots, which is a ton for me, but I have not bought new boots in 10 years.

You can be frugal and still find nice things.

Laura in Texas

53 years old; 5'7" tall; HW: 339 (BMI=53); GW: 140 CW: 170 (BMI=27)

RNY: 09-17-08 Dr. Garth Davis

brachioplasty: 12-18-09 Dr. Wainwright; lbl/bl: 06-28-11 Dr. LoMonaco

"May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears."

Deanna798
on 2/21/17 5:35 pm
RNY on 08/04/15

I picked up a pair of jeans grin Old Navy this weekend for $15. The thing is that the shoes are awesome,  and expensive. They are so unique I've been looking at them from months and months.  

Age: 44 | Height: 5' 3" | Starting January 2015: 291 | RNY 8/4/15 with Dr. Arthur Carlin| Goal: 150

Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise. ~Proverbs 19:20

Laura in Texas
on 2/21/17 5:56 pm

They are cute shoes, but very similar. Can you keep one and return the other? Maybe get the other pair for your birthday or Christmas?

Laura in Texas

53 years old; 5'7" tall; HW: 339 (BMI=53); GW: 140 CW: 170 (BMI=27)

RNY: 09-17-08 Dr. Garth Davis

brachioplasty: 12-18-09 Dr. Wainwright; lbl/bl: 06-28-11 Dr. LoMonaco

"May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears."

Donna L.
on 2/21/17 5:49 pm - Chicago, IL
Revision on 02/19/18

I use stuff like that for milestones.  I had an issue with spending too.  Shopping and eating have similar aspects - there are two huge impulse components.  

When I want to buy something now, I put it on a special list or bookmark it and make myself wait at least 1 week.  I try to engage in a healthy compulsion.  Right now it is knitting and crocheting.  There are a few options.

Keep a journal of your spending habits.  Do they coincide with mood or hormonal changes?  Do they coincide with stress or pain?  What is going on at the same time?

It is frustrating.  You have a good start on insight, though, and that's very hard for most people to get. :)

I follow a ketogenic diet post-op. I also have a diagnosis of binge eating disorder. Feel free to ask me about either!

It is not that we have so little time but that we lose so much...the life we receive is not short but we make it so; we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully. -- Seneca, On the Shortness of Life

Sparklekitty, Science-Loving Derby Hag
on 2/21/17 5:53 pm
RNY on 08/05/19

Bookmarking is a fabulous strategy. I have several private Amazon wish-lists that I use for window-shopping!

Sparklekitty / Julie / Nerdy Little Secret (#42)
Roller derby - cycling - triathlon
VSG 2013, RNY conversion 2019 due to GERD. Trendweight here!

Donna L.
on 2/21/17 6:04 pm - Chicago, IL
Revision on 02/19/18

Thankfully, in my case, Amazon wish-lists don't indicate a shopping addiction, lol.  I have more than I want to admit!!

I follow a ketogenic diet post-op. I also have a diagnosis of binge eating disorder. Feel free to ask me about either!

It is not that we have so little time but that we lose so much...the life we receive is not short but we make it so; we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully. -- Seneca, On the Shortness of Life

Liz WantsHealthForAll
on 2/22/17 2:46 am - Cape Cod, MA
VSG on 03/28/16

My problem is that the things that I put on a wish list call to me: "buy me!"

Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-123 CW: 120 (after losing 20 lb. regain)!

Sparklekitty, Science-Loving Derby Hag
on 2/21/17 5:52 pm
RNY on 08/05/19

If you can't stop yourself from buying things, you CAN stop yourself from keeping them.

Call and cancel the order, or send them back once they arrive on your doorstep.

Sparklekitty / Julie / Nerdy Little Secret (#42)
Roller derby - cycling - triathlon
VSG 2013, RNY conversion 2019 due to GERD. Trendweight here!

Citizen Kim
on 2/21/17 6:05 pm - Castle Rock, CO

I just bought two new pairs of ankle boots (arrived today) because the other 35 pairs I have were just not cutting it!  

Proud Feminist, Atheist, LGBT friend, and Democratic Socialist

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