Party Avoidance

Hello all!

I am pre-op with a date set for VSG on May 1. Today, I have a birthday party to attend. I really don't want to go. Here's the reason:

The food is always AMAZING!!!!

They are all wonderful Italian people (same as my family growing up). The 90+ year old little old lady, the matriarch, makes the most delicious tart in the entire world. I don't know how I am going to not eat it. And if I have a 'little taste,' will I be able to stop?! I don't want to rationalize with myself and say "well, you're only pre-op. You might as well eat it while you can."

Ugh! That is not good thinking and will not help me in my journey.

Thoughts/Advice?

Aaaarrrggghhh!!! There's always going to be delicious food around. We have to learn to deal with it by planning ahead. Eat before you go. Bring something with you that you can enjoy. Maybe devilled eggs, or some pepperoni and cheese? We can't avoid social gatherings... they're part of life. It's really great that that you're recognizing the fact that if you "have a little taste" you might end up eating more. The sooner you start practicing good habits, the stronger you'll be. Think of how good you'll feel if you avoid the temptation.

May 1st is coming up quickly. Best of luck to you!

Thank you so much!

My party behavior has totally changed ( thank God ! )

of course I still "have " to see what there is on the buffet .. but it's a lot more about observing and being seen .. meeting interesting people .. and having a plateful of food in my hand or on my lap doesn't really agree with my image of myself .

I totally know I can't have any more than one sip of a sugary ****tail and it's far better and less dangerous if I hardly drink at all . Because I dump I'll look at the fancy desserts but shudder at the thought of tasting more than a tiny tiny bite because I have rolled around on the floor in agony .

Plus I'm not constantly starving anymore.

Now my issues are : what do you say when someone asks you to go into the " hook up closet " - or worse yet- hook up bedroom? ( not much of a prob in Manhattan cuz few people have bedrooms! ) .. but definitely an obstacle in the culture ( for me at least )

i mean I know half the time people only talk privately but how do you deal with the male to male smirking afterwards ? Smirk with your grrlfriendz yourself ?! It's a shame not to get asked .. kind of like at a dance .. also a walk of shame when you do ..

How do you keep from getting a ton of phone numbers you really don't want ? Is it ok to call simply for business reasons or do guys eventually resent you ?

I'd eat it. You're not on a pre op diet, you don't yet have the tool to help you. Go, eat, enjoy

I work all day ( mostly boring ) with literally unlimited totally expensive catered food in my face ALL THE TIME!

As a confirmed food addict it's very hard to say no.

That doesn't mean success can't be reached for and achieved.

In December I went to my former employers Christmas party, and they always have two deserts: chocolate mousse cake, and white chocolate mousse cake. I had about a third of each and was satisfied. The next day I was able to get back on track. If I ever get that carb craving, I have Power Crunch Protein Energy Bars. They are available through vitacost.com. They really are a great 'sweet treat' when I am craving. And I don't feel one iota of guilt eating them, even if I have two. Sure, I'll go over calories, but I'm still within my dietary parameters.

This was the exact reason I had the DS.

I didn't have "super self control"....I know that's not a popular sentiment...but that's why I got fat. I stayed fat....and couldn't lose weight without surgery.

Scott

Right now, your main concern is YOU. It's okay to be selfish. You won't always feel like you need to avoid things in order to protect your new lifestyle, but right now you do feel that way. It's okay to skip this thing while you're still working on building your new habits.

I went to the party, made good choices and did not succumb to desserts.

Score!