Question for the vets: Fear of regain

Mahonia R.
on 12/7/17 10:36 am, edited 12/7/17 10:50 am
VSG on 03/28/17

Do you live with fear of regain? Does this constant fear go away eventually? Do you ever stop feeling like you are a fraud and destined to regain?

Height: 5'4.5" Pre-op 14 M1 23 M2 11 M3 13 M4 + M5 17 M6 9 M7 5 M8 3 M9 ?

Goals met: 135 9/18/17 130 10/29/17 125 12/2/17 122 ? 120 ?

on 12/7/17 11:36 am - OK
RNY on 05/16/16

So, I'm by no means a Vet... just a newbie with a little time under her loose skin (ha).

I've been at my goal weight since about June or so... I am in constant fear of everything you mentioned above... I'm a fraud, I'm obsessed with food, and normies don't act like that, right? I sometimes look at the scale and still read it wrong (138 will register in my head as 178, or 208... it's crazy).

From what I've learned from the Vets, this is all 'normal' for us 'less than normal' folks - whatever normal is, anyway...

I don't think there are very many people with the confidence that they will never regain their weight... but maybe that's something that would happen to ANY individual that has lost a lot of weight... I don't know. I have lost a good amount in the past, swore I'd never gain it back, but I wasn't afraid... and I gained it back... maybe now that I'm afraid of regain, maybe that's the difference?

I'm curious to see some responses, but questions like this have been asked in the past, and it appears the fear is real... for a long long time anyway...

I am trying to turn the fear into just a constant 'eye' on things... to be successful at anything takes a lot of hard work and vigilance... this is nothing different than the top flutist practicing every day... we are practicing our work every day. That's nothing to fear, just something to commit to.

Height 5'5" HW 260 SW 251 CW 137.2 (10/23/17)

RNY 5-16-16 Pre-Op 9lbs, M1-18.5lbs, M2-18.1lbs, M3-14.8lbs, M4-10.4lbs, M5-9.2lbs, M6-7lbs, M7-6.2lbs, M8-8.8lbs,M9-7.8lbs, M10-1 lb, M11-.6lbs, M12-4.4lbs

Cecily C.
on 12/7/17 11:51 am - CA
VSG on 02/22/17

On the subject of reading the scale wrong, I mentally make note of my weight before I record it in the morning. Inevitably I think 2?? instead of 1?? This morning I thought "263.8" instead of "163.8"... It's not until I start to type it that I know to correct myself.

Ht: 6' HWEver: 338 StartW: 282.8 SurgeryW: 268.9 GW: 170 CW: 163.2

Pre-Op:-17 M1:-17.8 M2:-10.6 M3:-10.4 M4:-8.4 M5:-12 M6:-8.2 M7:-8.2 M8:-11.4 M9:-7.4 M10:-6.6

Goal reached 11/9/17! (37 weeks, 1 day)

Insert Fitness
on 12/7/17 12:00 pm

Yes to this! i often have to correct myself when i record my weekly weigh-in.

RNY Sept 8, 2016

M1:23, M2 :18, M3 :11, M4 :19, M5: 13, M6: 12, M7: 17, M8: 11, M9: 11.5, M10: 13, M11: 10, M12: 10 M13 : 7.6, M14: 6.9, M15: 6.7


on 12/8/17 9:23 pm
Revision on 10/04/16

Me three on that. My husband always corrects me when I step off the scale and I'm like...I'm 163 instead of 136. Or something like that.

Band-RNY revision age 49 5'4" HW 260 SW: 244 (bf healthy range 23-35%) bf 23.7% (at 137lbs) cw range 132-135.1st round plastics scheduled April 13, 2018

Pre-op-16lbs (size 18/20...244) M1-16lbs (size 18...228) M2-15.6lbs (size 16/18...212.4) M3-10lbs (size 16..202.4) M4-11.4lbs (size 14...191) M5-10.8lbs (size 12...180.2) M6-8.4 (size 8/10...171.8) M7-6.4 (size 8...165.4 lbs) M8-11.6 (size 6...153.8) M9-5.6 (size 4/6...148.2) M10-5.8 (size 4....142.4) M11-4 (size 2/4...138.4) Surgiversary -1 (size 2/4...137.4) M13-2.6 (size 2/4...134.8) M14 (size 2/4...134.8)

on 12/8/17 9:57 pm

Strangely, I'm the opposite: though I'm still well in the 200s, I always read that number as beginning with a 1 instead of a 2.

VSG on 12/10/13

I think it's really important to understand that the most successful vets out there, who've lost a lot and maintain it all, keep a laser focus on their habits after hitting the maintenance phase. I know of several posters here who have 5+ year streaks on MFP, because that's what it takes for us to stay at a healthy weight.

Fear of regain is good. The people who lose it are likely the same ~40% of patients with significant regain after surgery.

I am the master of my own regain.

Author of the Five-Day Meat Test

Gwen M.
on 12/7/17 1:22 pm
VSG on 03/13/14

I'm not a vet. I'm not at my final goal. After my dad died I gained about 20 pounds. But, even with all of that, I still don't live in fear of regain. Why? Because I know that I can do this. I have a track record of success. I lost the weight after my dad died. I've continued losing weight. I know I'll reach my goal. I know I'll maintain my weight where I want it to be. I know these things because of everything I've done, everything I've changed, and everything I've accomplished in the last 4 years.

I assume that the mental work I've done throughout this entire process has some impact on my confidence.

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Plastics with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL&brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL&mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 40 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

Check out my TrendWeight

Gwen M.
on 12/7/17 1:25 pm, edited 12/7/17 5:27 am
VSG on 03/13/14

I assume that I will gain weight occasionally throughout the rest of my life. But I don't fear that because I also know that I'll be able to lose it.

To me, living my life in fear of regain would be like living life in fear of.. tripping. Like, it's something that's going to happen, and it's something I'll recover from.

(Go figure, though, I still have major imposter syndrome when it comes to college even though I've maintained a 4.0 since I started back in 2015.)

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Plastics with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL&brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL&mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 40 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

Check out my TrendWeight

Kathy S.
on 12/7/17 1:39 pm - InTheBurbs, XX
RNY on 08/29/04 with

Hi Mahonia,

We have such low self-esteem it is a common fear for us all. Why should we be successful with WLS when we have failed our entire lives. This was such a fear of mine that I didn't put anything in my mouth that would be considered a bad carb for 18 months after I hit goal. It was bread, a trigger food of mine.

My personal experience after 13 years and being on these boards is never forget the "basic" rules of eating/living that got you to goal and you will ROCK it for the rest of your life Sometimes we stop tracking our food (after all you got this, right), don't have time to move, stop weighing ourselves, and bite by bite start eating more and more white carbs and before you know it the scale goes up and up and up....

Don't let this happen but if you do, stop beating yourself up and get back to the basics and you can get it off. Even after 13 years my tool still works and lost 60 pounds of regain.

HW:330 - GW:150 - MW:118-125

RW:190 - CW:130

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