Post Date: 7/4/09 5:05 am
Topic: RE: N E 1 awaiting a response from the Insurance Co?
I am right there with you - my paperwork went in yesterday July 3, 2009.  I am a nervous wreck!

Post Date: 7/4/09 4:58 am
Topic: RE: Independence Day Coffee Talk
Good morning!

I want you to know it is always so uplifting to read your positive posts!  I arise early myself, 3 - 4am, every morning and this morning I enjoyed my chocolate coffee I make myself.  Take freshly brewed coffee and add 1/2 packet of sugar free Swiss Miss Cocoa, a little Splenda, maybe a touch of half-in-half (oops! just a little cheating) and you have a delicious cup of chocolate coffee!  It's worth waking up for!
Happy 4th of July to you and everyone.

Cometgirl

Post Date: 7/4/09 4:43 am
Topic: RE: calcium question
Thanks ill look into the other options.

Post Date: 7/4/09 4:33 am
Topic: RE: Pure Protine Bars
Any food early post op - may be trigger. For anything.
Try them - take a bite or 2 and wait for your body reaction. 
I find them very dense - very heavy.  usually can only eat 1/2 of a bar.  If i eat more - I get nausea.  So I keep them as back-up protein bars - (since I bought a whole box one time),   I still have 1/2 of them left. lol

Post Date: 7/4/09 4:27 am
Topic: RE: "That's when I was bigger than you."
o boy, that is a though one.
You are supper sensitive now - so take that into account.  (we all have been there).
Just making decision that will affect the rest of your life - makes you a different person.  You are determined to take charge of your life, and they see that - that is why they see changes in you. 

You do not need to take "crap" from anyone, but they probably worry that you will not be the good, supportive person - that you are right now, once you have you surgery.  Having the surgery - also means that you are taking care of YOU.  And since they know that once a person takes charge to take care of their life and health - there is no much time to be "supportive" to others - they know that your focus is changing from them to you, and they worry.  And they should be.  Because you NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR NEEDS NOW.   See this as a signal - they notice.  Be OK with that. Be proud that finally you take care of you.   And you need to learn to ask them for support.  It is OK. 

FYI: your sister size 8 - trust me - if she gains 3 lbs - it shows and she probably really feels fat.   I am a size 6 now - and if I gain a few lbs - it shows.  If I lose 3 lbs - it shows.  When my pants gets tight - I am fricking, even though many times that is due to my period.  And there is  point when every lb I gain - makes me feel fat.  You will be there one day soon.  You will see. 

Be strong, and please - take care of yourself.   And with comment like that ask them: "if I start losing faster than you - will you be as supportive of me as I am of you? " 

I learned a new answers to some people comments:

i.e. comment: "you took the easy way out" my answer: "is that so?" or  "why would you think that?"  That shuts them out, or is making them defend their argument.  And flipping these 2 - back and forth -  makes you not have to defend your decision or your actions.  And there is no discussion, no argument. 
Good luck to you. 

Post Date: 7/4/09 4:25 am
Topic: RE: calcium question

• Bariatric Advantage Calcium Citrate Chewy Bite Chocolate Flavored
  
• Bariatric Advantage Calcium Crystals with Vitamin D
• Bariatric Advantage Lemon Calcium Citrate Chew
• Celebrate Bariatric Supplements Chewable Calcium Citrate

Post Date: 7/4/09 4:15 am
Topic: RE: calciam as triacalcium phosphate????
Check with your doctor or NUT as to what you are to take. But for a matter of info most RNY patients take calcium citrate only.

Post Date: 7/4/09 4:08 am
Topic: RE: Before you had your surgery . . .
I am with the lady-parts girls.

I would love a tummy tuck to fix the damage.

Post Date: 7/4/09 3:43 am
Topic: RE: Do I want to do this!! Help need advice!!
I hope I'm not overkill here, but for the third time, please research all your WLS options before deciding.

I was a huge food addict before my DS and the main reason I knew I would never be sucessful with a band or RNY is that it relies too greatly on my ability to follow a specific diet.  I have no desire to have a diet with a scar.  For me I knew I would be better a****ching my vitamins and protein intake for the rest of my life over trying to stay on a diet for the rest of my life.

Check out:
www.duodenalswitch.com
www.dsfacts.com

Really read the references especially.  They are not overly technical and they have all been published in scientific, peer-reviewed journals.

good luck in your journey.
Laura

Post Date: 7/4/09 3:38 am
Topic: Independence Day Coffee Talk
Good morning everyone and Happy Independence Day!!  What an awesome day this is.  Most everyone has something special to do today!  Fireworks going off all over the Nation.  Cookouts, families gathering, friends celebrating, fun, laughter, and food.  Whatever you do today, THANK GOD for AMERICA and that we STILL LIVE IN THE LAND OF THE FREE,  AND THE HOME OF THE BRAVE!

So, who's up this morning?  What cha sippin' on?  I'm enjoying some awesome Boca Java Tropical Kiss coffee.  Sure is good!  Wanna cup?

Have an awesome day everyone!!

Post Date: 7/4/09 3:22 am
Topic: RE: Question about protein bars...

hi,
I've tried these. They came in a sample pkg I got like 2 months ago. I didnt like them though. they left me feeling hungrier than before I ate it. I still have one in my locker at work but im in no hurry to eat it.

Post Date: 7/4/09 3:19 am
Topic: RE: I'm getting really disheartened again
Sounds like that would be a good thing. I have those days to, I am a quilter and just love to go down to my sewing room and work on something. I know I play a lot of mind games with myself. I am so afaird of going back to old habits. My doctor said you won't because you are so worried about it. I don't know though, it is hard to get into my head that this is different from other things I have done. I could always loose the weight but never keep it off. Will that happen again. God I hope not! I am getting to old to do this !! I always said my life would be perfect if I was only THIN...maybe I will get that this time. Hard to get the fat girl out of my head....working on that. I think I was down over 40 pounds before I could see I was smaller. I could tell in my face but thought the rest of me looked just as big. Now there is not doubt. I went from size 2x to a 14 WHAT!!!!
I had an ahaaah moment yesterday. I was at the gym and when I was done with my workout I thought I really like this. I had to look in the mirror and make sure it was me thinking that. I am the girl that hated to sweat!!!Now I love going to the gym. I have a very good friend that is over weight too , she has joined the gym with me and comes with me....Isn't that great.
My husband only laughs and says "WHo would have thunk that?

Post Date: 7/4/09 3:05 am
Topic: RE: Happy 4th of July!
I second that. Happy 4th to all

Post Date: 7/4/09 2:56 am
Topic: RE: Is anyone else offfended about this new show on FOX??
I would think it was great too... if it had a normal title like, the other dating show... Not "More to Love" not to mention those girls are not even big, their i dont know 10-14 the average weight for women in the US.. not the idealized size 00. It is unfortunate that Fox has made this show, and more so that people went along with a concept that big people can only be loved by big people.

Aggrivation is what I'll just end with.

-C

Post Date: 7/4/09 2:51 am
Topic: RE: I'm getting really disheartened again
Thanks alot for your advice...my head knows your right.

Post Date: 7/4/09 2:47 am
Topic: "That's when I was bigger than you."
I am pre-op and of course dreadfully excited about the oppurtinutie to gain a healthylifestyle w/ this tool as well as finally look how i view myself.. Family on the other hand, once completely supportive of me has begun to make cady remarks.. a member of mine is loosing weight the "old fashioned way" and had the nerve to ask me if she would be able to talk to me about it b/c of the situation I'm in.. and would I be supportive or angered.. of course that was way off base.. just because I cannot do it that way myself doesnt make me a person who would be unsupportive of anothers success. 1. Hurtful because the remark belittles my character 2. I have never once been unsupportive. Her responce, "That was when I was bigger than you" .. she should know it makes no difference. She is bigger and overweight, and I have no resentment of her success, the only time i get a little pieved is when my size eight sister is upset she has gained 3lbs.. and calling herself fat.. i know I am not the only one that drives up the wall ha, but still I am supportive saying "wear what yoru comfotable with, you look great but your opinion matters than anyone esles".. we who have struggled with weight know that you may look fine to others but if your uncomfortable, its not fine...  and yet they still think I hold some anger with their success in weight loss. Lastly the part that really gets my nerves going, is that when I am being successful with a 5lbs weight loss, no comment or encouragement.. appartently thats a one way street.. fortunately its for me not for others.

I guess my question is, how does deal with a situation like this. People close to me beginning to change their attitude towards me because I have made this choice, and therefore in their eyes changed? I havent, I might. But I havent.

-C

Post Date: 7/4/09 2:38 am
Topic: RE: Pure Protine Bars

I do like them but they tend to cause a lot of gas and bloating.  Watch the sugar alcohol content in foods.  Many people do not tolerate a lot of sugar alcohol.  Shelli

Post Date: 7/4/09 2:17 am
Topic: I'm getting really disheartened again
I'm 3 weeks post op and have lost 24 lbs in the first 12 days but for the past 10 days the scales havent moved. I'm having up and down days. One day i can rationalise this by saying its to be expected and most people go through this and then i have days like today where i'm just completely depressed about it. I drink my 64oz liquid, i walk 2 miles or more everyday, i'm eating the required protein, i'm making it a point to keep moving but nothing happens. I know i shouldnt weigh often but even if i weighed once a week the result would still be the same, the scale wouldnt have moved. I am just so annoyed today and silly doubts keep coming in my head..questioning why i had this op in the first place. I speak to a few of the ladies who had the bypass on the same day as me and they all seem to be doing terrifically..i'm the biggest out of all of them and yet i've lost the least amount of weight and had the longest stall. Their stall has only lasted a couple of days, not nearly 2 weeks! When i'm thinking logically i can see all the benefits in the world but days like today i wish i had never done this!

Post Date: 7/4/09 2:00 am
Topic: RE: Pure Protine Bars
How many calories, carbs & fat?

Post Date: 7/4/09 1:30 am
Topic: RE: ehausted from no sleep, anyone else 4 days post-op?

You are definately not alone.  We're here.  Those awake in the middle of the night moments are the worst, but there is always someone on here.

I promise it will get better soon.  I hope your Dr has an answer for you.

Laura

Post Date: 7/4/09 1:24 am
Topic: RE: Am I being too sensitive?
Its good you are going to counseling. People are going to discuss your weight loss. Some will be supportive and happy for you, others...not so much. You will be happier when you figure out how to distance yourself a bit more from everyones judgement. We are all somewhat vulnerable to other peoples views of us, but we have to learn to filter a bit. I wont say I dont care what others think, because I do to some extent. I just dont care what every other single person thinks,
 
I care about some opinions much more than others. There is one co-worker who has attempted to be a bit snide about my upcoming surgery but I nipped it by getting quite direct with him and in the end, I just dont care what he thinks. I dont value or respect him or his opinion so his is one I dont care about. However there are some co-workers I do truly like and respect and if they said something nasty about me or to me, that might hurt a bit.

BTW the one snide ass at work actually gave me an oppurtunity to educate some of my co-workers on what life will be like after surgery. It seemed to open up some curiosity and I found out one co-worker did a bit of research on her own so she could make sure to bring WLS friendly food on days people bring stuff in! That made me feel happy. She is already spending time learning about this so she can be supportive and keep me included. I will focus on this kind of person rather than the snide asshole who is probably venting his own frustrations with his weight gain onto me.

I cant say that the conversation you heard was negative. She obviously said how much weight she think you lost but after that its hard to tell what comments or questions she is responding to.

Post Date: 7/4/09 1:04 am
Topic: RE: ehausted from no sleep, anyone else 4 days post-op?
I too, went thru this with my gastric bypass and going thru it now with my tt.  For me, it was all about comfort.  I could not and now cannot be in the same spot too long.  It's like, I must normally move alot during the night, and now I can't.  My body seems to know this.  Maybe you are goimg thru this too.  If so, as you heal, it will go away.  Take some pain meds before you go to sleep.  I do.  If it get's too bad, call your doc.  Maybe he will tell you it's ok to take something to sleep.

Erica

Post Date: 7/4/09 12:31 am
Topic: RE: R.O.S.E. Anyone?.......... I need a jumpstart.
hiya darchell, just wanted to say hi and in 2 yrs you have only gained 8 pds? if thats all then you are doing awesome hun, and losing 115 pds is alot of weight to try and keep off, .......take care...tracy.

Post Date: 7/4/09 12:09 am
Topic: RE: ???????????????????????????
I am so glad to hear it isn't me. I'm shocked that no one talked about this pre-op so at leaset we'd expect it. I wish I could grab even an hour here or there, I'm not sleeping at all. So I sit here a 3:00am looking for answers. I'mgoing to call my doc this morning but I might as well wait a few hours. One of us shouls sleep !!!!!!! I'm going to ask him the benedryl and some of the other tips I got on here. Thanks !

Post Date: 7/3/09 11:47 pm
Topic: RE: Lap band or bypass?
Consider your options

1 - going with the band if it fails - can be removed and you can heal up from it
 - going RNY - fails - can't reverse surgery

2 - how mcuh are you willing to work this long term

3 - do you have co-morbidities that make it hard to move - then more rapid might be the way to go. Can you move - then maybe the band is the way

4 - type one diabetics - either way to improve  D - type two - improve D by RNY something to do with intestines getting routed passed the pancreas.

5 - long term effects on digestion 10, 20 years down the road

6 - rny rapid loss  but in time tend to have gain back -  stats show lapband generally continue to loose or stabolize


These were things I've thought about in making my choice - something to think about