I have eaten off the kids menu at times. Normally I share an entree with someone. I also make my kids share an entree. The portions that are served with American restaurants are humongous. No one should eat that much at one time.

I've gained 13 lbs. I haven't developed aches and pains yet. I don't have that urgency to get healthy like I did before. I just need to discover my mojo again.

I need to attend the support groups again. That may help

I've been feeling unmotivated. I have had some regain. When I initially started this journey, I wanted to be healthier for my children. I wanted to feel comfortable in my own body. I wanted to have more energy.

Now, I feel directionless. My boyfriend has moved in and I eat and buy crap because that is what he wants. I need to find my motivation again. I have been tracking daily. I just eat crap. Ive gained 13 lbs. I need to find my why again. That will get me back on track.

Anybody feel this way after almost 4 years after surgery?

1 - drink more water

2- throw all the crap out of your pantry

3- exercise daily

4- throw all the crap out of your freezer

5 - write what you eat down. If you bite it, you write it.

6- throw all the crap out period. No junk food, limited processed foods, and no liquid calories. If you don't recognize it in nature, you probably shouldn't be eating it. I never saw a double stuffed oreo in nature. I have seen shrimp and zuchinni in nature.

I struggle with this myself. I buy junk. I eat junk. It's easy to keep that junk around with having kids.

That has been hard figuring out ways to show love. I like time together. He likes time together with food included. I think he does feel sad that I don't respond to treats.

• I knew he ate junk food and fast food when he moved in. I didn't realize the extent of how much he ate it. He is obese. He is constantly bringing food in and that's his way of showing love. I didn't think his eating habits would affect my kids.

We agree on everything but the food. That never even crossed my mind.I do the cooking. He will only eat meat and junk food so he buys that and keeps it in his nightstand then tries to be a food pusher while we are in bed watching tv. He also buys fast food and shares that and the junk food with the kids.

I am 3 years out from a vsg. I've recently moved in with a boyfriend. That has been stressful due to stressors of kids, combining families, and change of schedule and meals. I've gained 11 lbs. He is constantly bringing in snack cakes for the kids and soda. I've asked him not to buy it but he says they need it. One of my 5 kids is fat. He and I have both gained more weight because of eating the snack cakes. I still try to cook healthy but the boyfriend only wants carbs. He now hides the snack cakes which has helped some. I wish he just wouldn't buy them.

How do you deal with differences of opinions about what kids can eat? It's not fair for me to say my kids can't eat snacks while your kids do. I feel that would create too many problems. How do you deal with cooking in a way that everyone likes?

I like the FFS acronym. I am going to use that with my kids?. Usually I end up yelling at them when they are tattling on each other MYOB. Mind your own business.

Great. Thanks I'll check that out!

So true!!!! Ugh!!!!