- HEALTH TRACKER
Tomorrow is a new day, get right back on track, that is my only advice. I could say you should spank yourself but wouldn't that look silly. Everyone ***** up occasionally, it's life, get back to work tomorrow, not Monday not next weekend, tomorrow.
I don't eat during the day for a few reasons, I don't need the extra calories now that I am 8 years out and don't have a super active job or lifestyle and I refuse to have anyone ever comment on what I can or cannot eat. It is just personal really. I start eating at dinner time and generally get 30 grams of protein between lean meat and cheese in whatever dish I make. My snacks are Greek yogurt with fresh fruit for another 20 grams of protein and then another snack that is either nuts or a protein bar if I am in the mood. I eat very simply and not many different things. I could probably write everything I eat in a paragraph or two. But this is all what works for me, I don't want to focus on food. I went out for Mother's Day with my son and I honestly have no favorite restaurants anymore, I let him choose. He loves Olive Garden, I hate their food but that's fine because I eat even less if I don't like something. I ordered a chicken caesar salad so I could pick out the chicken and eat it. For whatever reason I got a salad with my salad, so after I ate the salad when my chicken caesar arrived I was not hungry. And the chicken was breaded which I will not eat. Even my son who loves their blackened chicken alfredo thought the breaded chicken was gross. So I never touched it. The waiter came by and asked if we were done, I asked for a box for my sons food and said I didn't want one as I didn't care for it. He took it off the bill. I didn't ask him too, and when he did I thanked him and said he didn't need too but that I just don't eat things I don't like. I had to go home and eat a protein bar later as I didn't really get any protein from my meal. But I was still proud of the fact, that I didn't go home and eat one of the dozen Krispy Kreme donuts I had went and bought for my boyfriend and his mom. Okay I did eat a donut the next day because I was pouting, but that isn't part of this story. lol My point is I have changed my eating, my relationship with food, the fact I eat very small portions and never eat until I feel full. Basically everything I did when I was MO I do the opposite of now. And for me it works. I will give you an example from yesterday, I drank three large cups of lemon/iced tea/water all day long. I came home and my boyfriend was helping his neighbor put up his fence so I went off to tanning and I was to go to the bar afterwards to pick up the food we were going to eat. My bf and his brother own a pub. I get lots of my food from there because I do not cook. The cook knows all my dietary restrictions and what I will and will not eat, he is a personal friend of the family since my bf and his brother were young. So he makes me special batches of things with reduced fat cheese, leaner meats etc. And on a side note, some of these things have found their way on the menu because lots of people want to eat healthier. I ordered a chili with cheese and some diced onions as a meal. So I go to tanning and my boyfriend had called about 20 times while I was there, I call him back to find out there was a horrible fire in the local church down the street from the bar. He was there with his neighbor to see if there was anything they could do to help. I have a huge fear of fire so I wouldn't even go on that side of town, so obviously we were not getting the original planned dinner. I opted for a frozen California style pizza from Wal-Mart. I had only had a protein bar all day which I ate before tanning, so basically by 9pm when I made the pizza I was sitting at just 200 calories and 15 grams of protein. I ate 1 and half slices of the pizza, I calculated about 450 calories worth. So I am short protein and calories now. I had a greek yogurt and some nuts before I went to bed. I never felt deprived, I never get hungry (I attribute the lemon tea to keeping hunger down and blood sugar stable) and I woke up feeling good. I refuse to let myself feel stuffed or uncomfortable. I love my perfectly flat stomach and would do anything to keep it this way. I have been super lucky about the hunger thing, and the fact I still malabsorb, but I still have terrible metabolism because I really don't eat a lot of calories to not be actually thin. But you get what you get and you deal with it. And I have days I am terrible and eat all sorts of bad stuff, typically I reserve the weekends for this behaviour, but overall I eat very clean.
Yeah for you, you get this is all a mind game and you have to play the right tricks on yourself to get yourself going. Believe me I completely understand every single thing you are saying, I hated myself for being MO, I hated being MO, I was embarassed and ashamed as was my normal weight family, my grandfather once turned a picture I had given him and my grandmother as a gift to face the wall because he didn't want to look at my fat face. Yeah being MO is hell in so many ways. I wanted out of the prison so badly I was literally willing to do anything to get out and I am willing to give up whatever to never go back in. It is hard, my bf loves DQ, imagine going there and getting nothing day after day, I take pride in this, but it isn't always totally easy. I don't eat in front of people I work with, I actually don't eat at all during the day, I drink 3 huge cups of lemon filled iced tea and I never get hungry or having any blood sugar issues. I start eating at dinner and then have two snacks. It works for me, I am not advocating eating this way to anyone else. I get yelled at all the time for teaching my "bad" behaviour to others, but honestly I want you to find what works well for you so you can be successful. Whatever it is I will be your biggest cheerleader even if it is something I could never do myself. I just want to see everyone succeed and never have to go back to our self induced prison. I will help you out in any way I can. I post here every day so I am never hard to find.
I know you can do this, really I do!
I personally hate protein shakes, so I only drank the pre-made Adkins when I was trying to lose weight before surgery and I thought they were fine. Afterwards they all tastes bad, I got some samples from a website and tried those and just ended up getting some chocolate one at GNC and suffered through it for 6 weeks. I never felt like they quelched my hunger at all when I was pre-op, plus I like to chew so swallowing my meals instead of chewing was awful. You have to experiment, there are lots of people who love them. I just don't. I haven't drank one in literally years and if I never have to again I will be happy.
As for clean eating make sure you are doing a good balance of protein, carbs and fats. You don't want to starve or drive yourself nuts and give up. It has to be things you like. For me I do a lot with fat free chicken, it is amazing how many ways you can cook it and it doesn't taste the same. I make lots of Mexican style dishes with them too. We even make fat free turkey taco's with whole wheat taco shells. They are so good. I just try to reduce the fat in everything I can. Believe me there is no issue getting enough fat in ones diet, it is literally in everything. And also you have to watch sugar free stuff, they do replace the sweetener with other things that are typically bad. Sometimes to make sugar free really better for you you have to make it yourself. I like Splenda but lots of people like Stevia, which I have tried one brand and didn't care for. I try to keep away from Splenda though because it is all chemicals, but when I want something sweet I will use it. There are a couple of people here who create recipes for stuff, Eggface Michelle comes to mind. I am sure someone will have the link to her page.
My bmi was 47 point something when I started, it is now 23.5, it really is amazing to me that I am no longer diabetic and I am comfortable in my body. On the down side I was hoping to resolve atleast some of my arthritis which did not happen. But I can do so much more then I could before without being in excruciating pain just from standing too long. No one realizes how painful being MO can really be on every joint in your body. It really isn't fun at all.
I had two rounds of plastics to get rid of the skin on my stomach and arms. It wasn't pretty and no working out my unsightly stretched out skin was going to fix it. But that is not the case for everyone, some people can work out and firm up and look great, depends upon your skin type and genetics.
As for you feeling dizzy after eating, that sounds like reactive hypoglycemia, where you eat something and it raises your blood sugar and your body reacts by producing insulin and occasionally given what you eat (especially overly carby un-balanced) will over produce insulin and then you will get that crash back down (dizziness, headache, tired, feeling irritable or hungry) so then you more then likely eat again to combat how you feel. Vicious cycle. I was diabetic before my wls, and now I have RH when I eat anything with too much sugar or too many carbs without eating anything else with it. Basically it is forcing me to eat balanced meals and eliminate some of the sugar and carbs or get sick. My normal reaction is I get queasy and feel bad right away, then if I do nothing about it I get the RH a few hours later. I try to not eat anything that gets me the initial reaction but if I do, I will generally eat some lemon right away. This help combat my queasiness (not everyone loves lemon I know that) but it is what works for me. What I am suggesting to you is to try to eat more balance lean protein meals and see if you are still getting that dizzy feeling a few hours later. Hopefully not. Clean eating really does help, low fat meat, cheese, veggies, fruit all the things your mom tried to get you to eat when you were a kid but you probably (if you were like me) didn't want. We used to have Sundays filled with breads etc from the bakery as our main meal. I get carb addiction. I get ice cream addiction. I get planning the next meal while eating this one. I was MO for twenty years of my life, had a eating disorder, (purging) super bad and was still MO. I used to think **** I can't even be bulimic right. So believe me there is nothing about food or eating I cannot relate too. There are people here who do things totally differently and it works great for them, we each have to figure out what works for us. I found a way I can live with that keeps me where I want to be. I failed everything else in my life I have no intention of failing this.
Good Luck to you, I wish you all the success in the world. Starting today!
My doctor made us lose weight before surgery so basically said go on South Beach or Adkins diet, my PCP said no Adkins because of my diabetes it was too much protein. I went on just the Adkins pre-mixed protein drinks twice a day and ate a low fat low calorie dinner. It took me forever to lose my 10lbs because part it happened during Christmas and I was pouting that I couldn't eat everything I wanted. So I lost nothing during December or January. So what should have taken only a month or two I dragged out. But finally lost the weight and had my surgery about 6 months after I started the process back in 2005. I am currently 8 years out, at goal and eat approx 1000 calories a day Mon-Fri and approx 1500 calories a day on the weekend. I eat only lean meat and low fat cheese in a variety of dishes. I avoid bread, pasta, rice, potatoes anything too carby that will make my blood sugar react. I also try to avoid sweets. I could live on candy instead of food, ice cream is my passion, I do NOT eat it at all anymore. To maintain forever you have to forever break your relationship with food, and I mean break it, you can be standing in front of a bakery and it has to hold no appeal. It is an addiction when all you think about is food and how to feed your addiction, been there done that, and now I go to the grocery store and nothing looks appealing because I know how many calories or carbs or fat things have. I used to ignore the labels like the plague, never turn anything over so I might know how many calories are really in it. Now I make myself look so I can learn to hate that food also. This has worked for me over the long term, to totally change my feelings towards food. I hate coming to OH and seeing any sort of food on the home page, I find that highly offensive to a site that is supposed to be cognizant that it's members have triggers and yesterday there was a picture of a croissant. Really that is just in-sensative. But whatever. It is what it is, you can't avoid food, you have to learn to pick the right thing to eat every single day. This isn't easy, no surgery is going to fix your desire to want to eat, no matter what size you get too, how many compliments you get, how hot you feel, eventually you have to eat, and picking the wrong things over and over will lead you right back to where you started. Think of WLS as a diet that works, once you get down close to goal it will be all you to maintain what you lost, so that is really the hard part.
Here is me before and after:
There are four million different recipes for everything, it is personal taste, try one that has ingredients you like and give it a shot. If you hate it then lesson learned, I know of no other way to figure out which one is the "right" one. I love stuffed cabbage, grew up with it as a kid, I searched for recipes and found a bunch and finally picked one that had ingredients that I remembered and then I added the sauce my grandmother used myself. Nothing is worse then dry stuffed cabbage in my opinion. But it was just trial and error.
She can expect to lose whatever she is willing to work for, all of these surgeries will make you lose weight, I am sure a nearly brand new rny will force her back to eating far less again. But overall she needs to re-learn her relationship with food so she is eating the right things and right quantities. No surgery is going to do every thing for you forever, at some point they are all on you to have changed your diet and be diligent about keeping yourself where you want to be.
Yes what you are doing wrong is stepping on a scale. Do it at your doctors office and no place else for at least 6 months and your life will be so much happier. If you want to obsess over the scale after that, enjoy, personally I find it is my friend when I weigh and it gives me the number I want to see, otherwise I stay away. I am 8 years out and 137 and holding, I weigh once a month or once every few months when I feel my thinnest. I gain tons of water weight when getting my period and I can physically feel it, in my clothes, my body gets taunt and hurts, I would never weigh then.
It's gonna be 80 tomorrow, you know its New England just wait a few minutes the weather will change. lol I am still sitting with my heater on at work to stay warm even though I put away all my winter clothes.
Enjoy the day, it will be hot soon!
And thanks I love my babies too, but they are heavy bedwarmers, if they sleep on your feet your feet go to sleep too. lol
Yeah it was chilly this morning, of course my boyfriend wakes up and starts calling for his dog warmers. Where are my doggies. It was too funny, they were all huddled together in bed because we had the windows open an inch. I took them outside to the backyard at 6:30, omg I was freezing. They love it, they love the coldest cold weather, they are hot dogs.
Enjoy your blond hair, you know I love blond.
Here are my babies.
Congrats. Cute suit. I love to take dressing room pics, especially if its fancy and I have no occasion and can't justify it.
How does your fiance like Cray. My fiance (I have a ring, actually wear both just no intention of really marrying) would probably shoot me if I tried to combine our names, although I have a cute business name if I ever start a photography business with my nicname and his last name.
My bf's other business deals with patients with tbi, the neuro-psych doctor who administers the program had a lapband and has done very well and he is a doctor who could of had anything. I know a lady personally who did extremely well with her lapband and then her gorgeous hubby bought her 40k worth of plastics, she looks incredible. My local hospital started a bariatric program recently with only lapband. It is touted as non invasive, I doubt Christie lied about it, I am sure he was just drank the lapband koolaid.
Congratulations! Enjoy your new career!
They are so cute. My dogs are big now, but still think they are lapdogs. lol
You look great! Love the purse! Love the doggie in it. I would not change surgeries if I could do it over, I would have failed the D/S, if I could I know ice cream and I would be best friends again. It is only that I know the outcome of eating it I avoid it. Lately I have been avoiding anything that is bad. I turned good. lol lol I go through phases where I want to eat something over and over and then drop it, I eat clean during the week but now the only bad food for the weekend is mixed nuts which still have protein. I worry about the impending menopause, it has to be coming soon I am nearly 49 and my periods are getting closer together now, so my hormones are out of whack and the last thing I want is to be in the midst of menopause with a weight gain. Not Gonna Happen!
I have always posted my weight because it means something to me to see the number written down. I know that no one besides me gives a rats ass what I weigh, but I do, and hopefully the fact I can be successful at this long term can inspire someone else that they can too.
And my weight is 137 as of the last weigh in, which I think was that moment in time after my last period when I didn't feel bloated and my jeans felt really loose. I do not want to know what I weigh any other times during the month especially if the scale reads 14 anything, that would just ruin my day.
What you also might be hearing is veterans screaming from their computers, who the hell has life altering surgery without a iota of knowledge of what they will need to eat and what they will need to supplement with. Seriously if you ask if you can eat chinese egg rolls at 2 weeks out you are gonna get whacked with the stupid stick. That doesn't mean you shouldn't ask questions but please know this surgery is a big deal and that no one should enter it lightly and no one should think it is easy or they will wake up thin or that there is no sacrifice.
Or you just pick a doctor with a protocol that makes sense to you, my doctor said to drink as needed when eating solid food. He also has us back on 60 grams of protein from the day we left the hospital and off shakes by 6 months, back to nutritious whole foods that are healthy and support our new lifestyle.
It was clearly indicated to me that the room full of people at support group meetings were a bunch of whiny failures and not listen to them as they did not succeed at wls. Who I did listen to were successes, people who achieved their desired weight and what they did to actually keep it off, how they changed their relationships with food and how I might too.
I suggest everyone needs to find their own path. I never recommend mine, if eating and drinking works for me, I have every right to let people know that I have achieved success and the way I have made it happen and how I make it stick.
I find it amusing when smokers are on here giving health advice, it is a little hypocritical don't you think?
She posts on Facebook, here is the link....personally I haven't had any dealings with her since she outed herself as a hypocrite years ago with her famous rant.
Yale, a teaching hospital here in CT, I used a residency program.
I started at 283.5 and currently weigh 137 at 5'5 after 20 years of MO. Plastics are the only way to get rid of the skin, if it drives you nuts have it cut off, if it doesn't then you are golden.
Here is my before and after (before was 1 month after rny) after is 7 years later taken last summer, tummy, arms and neck all fixed.