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Ms Shell
on 7/30/08 7:56 am

Topic: RE: OT: Club turns away overweight women for being too fat.

Thank you for your response. It was the same for me living my life and LOVING myself. But seeing what obesity can do to someone first hand not just oh I know...but actually seeing it. That was my moment as well!

I wish you much success!! BTW LOVE the attitude =)

Ms Shell

"WLS is only for people who are ready to move past the "diet" mentality" ~Alison Brown
"WLS is not a Do-Over (repeat same mistakes = get a similar outcome.) It is a Do-BETTER (make lifestyle changes you can continue forever.)" ~ Michele Vicara aka Eggface

Ms Shell
on 7/29/08 4:15 pm

Topic: RE: OT: Club turns away overweight women for being too fat.

While I believe a club has "the right to refuse service to anyone" this was handled poorly and rudely and when I ran a club we had a sign that said just that and often would turn guests away no reason needed to be given.

Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 7/29/08 4:14 pm, edited 7/29/08 4:16 pm

Topic: RE: OT: Club turns away overweight women for being too fat.

I actually ran a nightclub that catered specifically to fat women and the men who loved our curves. With that said. I had WLS cause after watching my mother become sick and die with many weight related medical issues I knew that no matter how much I accepted myself I was truly unhealthy and had to live my life a different way.

Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 7/25/08 4:21 pm

Topic: RE: Ice Creamer's Beware.....

Me either Linda BUT if I did go there I would definitely add some protein powder (more protein then just milk) I have to pretend it's good for me and GOOD too.

I'm going to make a sorbet or sherbert with the Roadside Lemonade Nectar I have =)

Ms Shell
on 7/24/08 9:01 am

Topic: RE: Dinner and Lemon Meringue Pie Protein Ice Cream ~ Recipe & FP

Hey Michelle,

Which protein powder do you use?

Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 7/18/08 7:45 pm

Topic: RE: Is weight coming off good with the VSG or slow

My weight loss average is about 9lbs a month =)

Ms Shell
on 7/15/08 2:59 pm

Topic: RE: OT: Can creditors do this???

Yes they can and will. I cosigned for a friend who didn't pay and they went to court and a $5,000 debt turned into $8,600 PLUS interest acruing daily. They garnished my paycheck 25% of my take home income...some months I could barely keep my head above water. By the time I contacted the company (after receiving the garnishment) that did NOT want to negotiate because at that point they have a guaranteed amount coming and have no desire to work with you.

So how do you know you can't talk to them directly. I would call anyway and ask if a payment option can be arranged without going to court. They may or maynot work with you since at this point you have avoided them trying to contact you.

If you find that they won't talk to you, then SIT on your husband until he calls. Believe me I would have MUCH preferred finding a way to pay 5K then them taking 25% of my EACH check so twice a month until the debt is paid.

Good luck love...and I do believe they can attach a lien to property (I don't own any).

Ms Shell
on 7/15/08 2:50 pm

Topic: RE: Off Topic Question/5 Kids-Stuff Missing-Who Did It??

Ok coming from a reformed little thief...ie me, I didn't stop until I was placed in jail after I turned 18 for about 3 days. I had no freedom no stuff nothing I have NEVER stolen a thing since, so I have often thought of what (if my mother had known) could she have done. Well being that I was raised by a militant mom, I think in terms of punishment.

I'm not sure how you punished them, but I would call them all to the living where I would have BIG boxes and I would sistimatically go in their rooms and take EVERYTHING I know they see as valuable, tvs, phones, toys, special clothes etc. I would leave the BARE minimum that they all need to function. In essence put them in jail. I would remove doors off the hinges since it's obvious the do not respect privacy, they get none (except the bathroom door). I would then store the containers for a suitable time period, say a week or month or whatever.

I didn't really understand the violation of taking someones things until everything of mine was gone. There must be HUGE consequence to today's youth (I think). I mean no more talks, it's time for some extreme militant action. I guarantee you'll get their attention.

Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 7/11/08 1:02 pm

Topic: RE: Mint Chocolate Chip Protein Ice Cream ~ Recipe & FP

OMG I have a scoop of cookies and cream too. OMG I'm going to make it TONIGHT I think...ok going to faint (cause I LOVED the cookies and cream in shake for and can't imagine it in ice cream form...OMG)

Ms Shell
on 7/11/08 12:51 pm

Topic: RE: Mint Chocolate Chip Protein Ice Cream ~ Recipe & FP

Fine woman...you have beat me INTO submission I will be buying an ice cream maker TODAY...ok you happy huh huh =)

Ms Shell
on 7/9/08 2:10 pm

Topic: RE: The words of a friend "THIS AINT A GAME, THIS IS REAL"!

This IS definitely REAL. Keep up the awesome job!

Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 7/9/08 2:07 pm

Topic: RE: MUST CONFESS AND GET IT OUT OF MY CHEST!

Well Meleney, Now that you've owned up and confessed it's time to TAKE action. First and foremost you are human and often you will fall short of the glory but that doesn't mean you can't achieve it. But you must be willing to put in the hard work and be accountable. I posted the other day to some friends and you know just the posting alone helped me tremendously, so I pray that your confession helped you and that you will heed all the advice that is being given. Get you behind to therapy NOW!! You have an amazing therapist to call you and ask about you so now it's time for YOU to realize that you ARE worth it. Just go...take that first step...that leap of faith (you've taken it before and don't think about NOT doing it). Just call and make that appointment. I know you are scared and frightened and fearful and ashamed and all that, but you can't let that paralize you any longer. You've reached out your hand, so feel those fingers pulling you back in. Make a list of the things you will do in the next couple days and check them off. You can do this.. Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 7/7/08 11:41 am

Topic: RE: I am depressed and tired & my husband hates it!

I just want to encourage you and while I know it's a pain, you will get through this. Maybe the protein is to dry or to much (or any number of problems). Your doctor mentioning dialating I believe that would make your pouch larger? I can't imagine the frustration that you must be enduring. But (other then eating out) do you weigh and measure everything? I know when I was earlier out I weighed everything and stuck strictly to 2oz of solid and 1/2 cup of soup. Maybe give us an idea of what you are eating...as far as going out. I just plain didn't do it until I was 6 months. Ms Shell Lastly don't be so hard on yourself. Think of your new anatomy as being a new born baby. You wouldn't get mad at a new born for not being able to eat everything presented. Be patient and proactive and if push comes to shove...ride over to your doctors, eat something and when you get sick all over his desk maybe then he'll take a look (being a little sarcastic and don't mean any harm). Bottom line, you need to be looked at NOW

Ms Shell
on 7/7/08 11:33 am

Topic: RE: VSG

Hello Deb... Another VSGer chiming in. I have had a wonderful WL journey so far with my surgery of choice. And while I haven't had any problems YES there are VSGers that have problems. Every surgery is different and every person is different. Glad you found the VSG forum...come over and ask away! MS Shell

Ms Shell
on 7/7/08 11:30 am

Topic: RE: Final Roll Call for July 4th Mini-Challenge

Thanks for keeping this going

Ms Shell
on 7/3/08 11:58 am

Topic: RE: I couldn't take it anymore!

Congratulations on standing up for yourself and saying you weren't going to take it anymore!! You weren't being *****y...you were responding to an unwelcomed, negative comment about YOUR life. Next time add "I know of several overweight people who die of heart attacks too!!" Sorry you are having ignorant people chime into your life

Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 6/27/08 4:49 pm

Topic: RE: HELP I CANNOT STOPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I hadn't exposed my newest boyfriend to the site cause he's trying to figure out if we can go to restaurants...the belly laughing (literally) might be to much....

Ms Shell
on 6/27/08 2:03 pm

Topic: RE: HELP I CANNOT STOPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well as you can see you are NOT alone. Only I have been touching my fat for YEARS. I even make faces in the mirror using it. I have had soft far FOREVER and my boobs droop right...so my aerola are the eyes, my belly button and scar from an umbilical hernia when I pull it up and my stomach is then a happy face...or a make it in a HO HO mouth...It's a sight to see, lol...no really. ok TMI. I like my squishy fat and flapping arms. My mother had arm flaps too and when I was young I could grab onto them. So I guess for me feeling fat has always been comforting. I had a girlfriend who would HATE for me to be around cause I would forget and touch her fat..obviously not everybody is as fat comfortable as I am. Now don't get me wrong, I am going to swing (literally) from roof tops and chandeliers when it's gone, but for now I get comfort and make faces.... Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 6/27/08 1:53 pm

Topic: RE: Im so upset! really devasting news pls help

Whatever you do DO NOT NOT NOT give up...what you don't want to do is start thinking that way and eat and end up gaining. Just keep doing what you can...exercise, no carbs, more shakes (if you are on them) and relax. Good luck. MS Shell

Ms Shell
on 6/27/08 9:41 am

Topic: RE: anyone know kaiser bariatric requirements?

I went to my Kaiser PCP and asked for a referral for bariatric surgery. I was then referred to their 6 month Options program. Mine went pretty easy. Good luck to you...just be strong in your convictions. Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 6/27/08 9:39 am

Topic: RE: anyone know kaiser bariatric requirements?

Hey Diana Someone posted regarding Kaiser on the Cali forum and she specificially asked about the DS. I told her what I know, but would you respond to her post as well. Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 6/26/08 4:31 pm

Topic: RE: unflavored Unjury

Hang in there. I bought lots of samples of unjury and didn't like any of them. Maybe try putting it in really good soups.... MS Shell

Ms Shell
on 6/25/08 7:15 pm

Topic: RE: Recipe Breakdown

I journal everything I eat using www.sparkpeople.com they have a recipe site that let's you input and break down it's www.sparkrecipes.com I love them both especially when I make something =) Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 6/25/08 7:06 pm

Topic: RE: Just booked my flight for the LA ObesityHelp Event...who's coming with me?

Hey Michelle, What size is it?? But damn I want the whip to...maybe I could just borrow it

Ms Shell

Ms Shell
on 6/25/08 4:33 pm

Topic: RE: F****** Sick of this!! I HATE THIS SO MUCH... IGNORANT DUMB PEOPLE

I don't think it's that Vietnamese people aren't taught manners, it's just they are taught different. We all are. I know that other cultures view our "american obesity" problem quite differently. Totally off topic did you know that the government in Japan has started this policy of measuring the waistlines of everyone and if you are above you have 3 months to get it under...blah blah here's a link to one article http://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/13/world/asia/13fat.html?page wanted=1&ref=health Anyway while it doesn't help you, you just have to take people at their face value and realize that everyone wasn't raised like you and just move on. This woman has way more issues that unfortunately you can't see and point out. I commend you for not stooping to her level!! =) Ms Shell