Citizen (USA & Brit) Kim’s Posts
on 9/9/14 1:24 pm, edited 9/9/14 1:25 pm
I don't think this has anything to do with your weight loss surgery but a whole lot to do with something you said in points 2:
So he is learning to fit into our evening routine. Sometimes this is stressful for all of us.
Is she thinking, "Wow, this isn't what my mommy used to look like." Or maybe, "My mommy used to have softer arms to lie on." Or even something like, "Why is Mommy's hair short now? It used to be longer." (I had a pixie cut done when my hair started coming out at three months post-op.)
I'm sure she's a gorgeous, lovely little girl, but is she the only child? It should be that SHE gets to fit in with the rest of the household, particularly the adults If she doesn't get that she is NOT the center of the family universe at this stage - good luck when she's a teenager!
I think she's asserting her power and she maybe has a little too much at 5 - pushing boundaries is what children do best. Enforcing them is what parents do best. She will never get to have that power outside of your home and that will be confusing to her - I'm sure there are one or two others in her class that think they are the center of their universe too - why I would not want to be a Kindy/1st grade teacher LOL
on 9/8/14 2:37 pm
I had mine when my son was 11 months old - I stopped breastfeeding at that point, although I think there may be an odd person or two who has continued but I couldn't imagine doing so ...
on 9/8/14 6:49 am
It's why I go when I read people adding all sort of things (bananas, even peanut butter etc) to their protein shakes! Fruit is very high in carbs (sugars) and you are delivering it undigested to your intestines - dump city for those of us that DO dump!
A fruit smoothie is not healthy once you pop that fruit in a blender (the major benefit of fruit to us now is fibre and if you are blending it, you should just dump a tablespoon of sugar in that shake!) and you would always be way better off with a piece of grilled chicken than a protein shake!
on 9/4/14 6:39 pm
Less than 3 weeks from Googling weight loss surgery to being in the OR. That was 10 years ago though - not quite as popular as it is now!
on 9/4/14 4:13 pm
I doubt it - it just means you have or have been fighting off something recently ... Shows your body works well!
on 9/4/14 2:56 pm, edited 9/4/14 2:56 pm
Make sure you are drinking plenty - it will help with the hunger and dizziness - if your back teeth are not floating, you are not drinking enough!!!!
I think your calorie consumption during the day should be nearer to 2000 than 5000 and even 2000 is a lot on a liquid diet, so make sure you are making the best choices you can - both for the shakes and the meal you are allowed.
If you want to detail what you are eating, we may be able to give advice if you want it No judgement - we're here to help! (A lot of we vets have both nutritional education as well as a ton of experience living with weight loss surgery - something a lot of nutritionists or even dieticians don't have)
That'll be an hour or two you won't get back LOL!
If anyone knows how a thread can take a left turn, it's Bette - one of the joys of being around here a while!
Bette knows we love her and respect her contribution to the forum - both in support and entertainment but just in case she doesn't, here's a group hug and Bette is slap bang in the middle
on 8/31/14 1:46 pm, edited 8/31/14 1:52 pm
See how differently we see things - the only person I saw going crazy was the OP. I think (and feel free to disagree ) that if you start a thread calling some people mean that you should be able to back that up. It's not a very nice thing to call people. I also believe that if you see someone being mean, you call them out and support whoever it is they're being mean to - I don't know what purpose starting a thread about some anonymous person who's mean serves ... other than making that incident all about YOUR feelings and not the perceived "victim" of said meanness?
So do you think people should have just let her have her say and not "discussed" her views? I like my forums more on the entertaining side and I like to think that we ALL get an opinion.
So how do you suggest we decide who gets to say what?
I have never had and would never have a protein shake BTW - if I posted that do you think everyone should just agree what a great idea that is, or do you think people should be able to say that they have one every day and that they are the most delcious things ever? Should I get upset because everyone is just being mean to me because I don't like them and that they are trying to force them on me?
Different subject but a similar argument on what we can and can't post! I am genuinely interested in your views on this because I honestly don't understand your point of view and am willing to listen and try to understand it.
on 8/31/14 12:28 pm
Drama threads like Amber's are the lifeblood of OH - it generate****s and therefore revenue for OH! If we relied on protein and poop posts, OH would probably go under pretty quick as those get pretty boring, pretty quick!
Amber deserves a medal for getting to 12 pages (or whatever) - now THAT's real support for the community!!!!
on 8/31/14 9:49 am, edited 8/31/14 9:53 am
At last - a breath of sanity!
There are people on OH who are crazy, there are people on OH who are downright mean, and there are people on OH who are clueless, but the vast majority of us are none of these things and are here to get information or give information. I just don't see the meanness that keeps being brought up! Posting history is key and people with questions should always consider the source of the information they are given.
As a 10 year vet, I KNOW how I should be living (not to say I always do what I should) and I feel very strongly that I should pay my knowledge and experience forward. The caveat to that is that I will NOT encourage you to do stupid stuff; I will not pat your hand and tell you everything is going to be ok if you continue to do stupid stuff - now if that makes me mean - then so be it.
Noone gets to tell me or anyone else HOW we should post on OH - except Eric Klein and his mods! There is a TOS here that keeps us all on the straight and narrow - we are not allowed to attack people, and if posts are reported for that, the mods do pull them and send you a hand slap email! Every so often we get someone with sensibilities that aren't in line with a public forum who attempt to tell the vets how mean they all are and it's just a bunch of hokum! If you want a rainbows and unicorn place - start your own group - it probably WON'T help you be successful as honesty and reality are key factors in our long term success - but you'll be able to fail without your sensibilities being affected.
There is a great place to go if you want to get honest, adult information on your surgery or your life - come to R&R 3.0, the place where we hand out hugs where needed and kick asses when needed. Forum nannies need not apply because we cherish honesty - but anyone else is free to join if they have a posting history!
No one should ever be "scared" to post on the public forums here - and if we do see anything that we think is mean, we should step up on that thread and support the person on the end of the mean comment - starting a separate thread talking about anonymous mean people serves no purpose other than the AWing of the person who starts the guessing game!
I have to be honest and say that no one has ever sent me a mean PM complaining about anything I have posted on the boards (good luck with that if you tried LOL) but if anyone here does receive an abusive PM, I'm sure the mods would be more than happy to act on it - but they can only do that if it is reported!
ETA: Like Kate, I am also English by birth, although now a US citizen, so I may use weird (to our US peeps) phrases and put "u" in my words. My tone may be different to what you expect and culturally we don't generally do the over enthusiastic lovey dovey type stuff when we write. We are, however, endlessly wonderful and entertaining
on 8/30/14 4:13 pm, edited 8/30/14 4:16 pm
Nope! The only time I have complained is when someone has tried to NOT let me recline my seat. I paid for my seat, and if it reclines I have every right to do so ...
You and I would have had a real problem if you continually kicked my seat - I don't remember the pilot ever inviting anyone to do that, but if you travel on any international flight, they invite you to recline! I am polite and always wait for someone to finish their meal etc, but reclining is a domino effect and if the person in front of me reclines, then so should I be able to.
on 8/29/14 1:31 pm, edited 8/29/14 1:32 pm
With 350lbs to lose, your surgeon is selling you a pup with the VSG! Each surgery has it's place (it's more science than popularity contest).
You really should reconsider your surgeon's choice and research the DS if you want to reach your goal weight and have the best chance of keeping it off!
I had an excellent result with the RNY because I was a lightweight and only had 100lbs to lose (I lost 120!) - however, if I were at your BMI, I wouldn't hesitate to have a DS and a VSG would be third on the list after RNY ...
on 8/28/14 5:31 pm
Might I suggest that you, and indeed all newbies, read the stickie at the top of the forums on how to get the most out of your experience here.
on 8/23/14 6:20 pm
on 8/23/14 5:08 pm, edited 8/23/14 6:21 pm
Most of the men I know on this site wouldn't care less, but it's nice of you to think about them!!!
My pet peeve is the ones where they are specifically excluded - just to talk about menstruation or sex or fashion. The men can give the same advice that we can give ... I don't have periods any more, but I'm happy to give advice about them. The sex and fashion thing I've got down but then so have the men!!!
Having said all that they do have the Men's Locker Room where women are NOT welcome so don't worry about them being left out or estrogenized!
We have a group (R&R 3.0) where we welcome *****es of both sexes
on 8/20/14 4:44 am
I smoked a week after surgery with no problems
Cannot see the point of having WLS if you are still smoking ... Nothing shortens or ruins your health like a cigarette habit - being fat was the least of your worries!
on 8/13/14 10:17 am, edited 8/13/14 10:17 am
As the mother of a young man (11) with severe autism, I have learned what are his triggers and what are not. So why o why, when the only thing I asked the bus staff to do (not get him to school too early) did they do just that this morning?
Two hours, yes, two hours after he left home, I get a call to say he has head butted and broken a bus window. Thankfully he is (apparently) unhurt, although he is non verbal so who the heck knows?
Apparently, now they agree with me, that trying to get him to stay on the bus for 10 minutes outside of school is NOT going to work and will be picking him up 10 minutes later every morning so we don't get a repeat of this morning's "fun"
on 8/12/14 5:53 pm
Uninformed opinion - not based in fact!
There are a lot of people on here who have had surgery outside of the US with no complications and without putting their lives at risk (eyeroll). Of course YOU would not be the right person to do so because clearly you have done no research or had any education on the matter, but there is a Mexico forum on here and lots of people who would be more than happy to provide you with facts on having surgery, safely, outside of the US if you would care to learn before commenting!
on 8/11/14 5:00 pm
on 8/8/14 11:36 am, edited 8/8/14 11:36 am
I think we may have some pharmacists on here, but if not, then go visit one locally and ask them the question. They will be able to tell you where different drugs are absorbed and whether your RNY will interfere or not!!!
I'm all for science and using specialists in their fields
on 8/7/14 5:43 pm, edited 8/7/14 5:45 pm
on 8/6/14 7:56 pm
Thank you for posting this. You are the perfect example of why we need to get bloods taken when we feel unwell. I can't imagine what your ferritin level is if your Hb is 3.1
We vets are always telling people to get their lab results in writing and check for trends - if your blood levels are falling, it needs to be investigated by a specialist (haemotologist) and treated. No one should be left with your symptoms!
I hope you are able to get this sorted ASAP!