Citizen (USA & Brit) Kim’s Posts
on 1/2/15 4:45 pm, edited 1/2/15 4:46 pm
Many of us have been here a long time and seen this often - this is who she has always been, just under a cloak of fat! As far as I know, none of us get a personality transplant when they reroute our guts! I suspect she now feels able to say what she has always wanted to.
Not saying whether this will get better or not, (probably not) but you have to be prepared to cut her loose if she becomes intolerable or maybe you could take a few steps back and see if she treasures her old friendships as much as her new life!
on 12/28/14 2:08 pm
Very common in someone of your BMI - you will need a Mons reduction once you have lost your weight.
on 12/28/14 7:47 am
If you do ask you surgeon, might I suggest you call it sex - "activity" means so many things to so many people!!! (as does sex, I suppose ) Medical staff really appreciate us using grown up terms so there is no confusion!
on 12/26/14 8:29 am
No avoidance of the subject here - it just really is not a problem - except when I eat gas inducing foods! It certainly is not to a point where my bf wants to sleep in another room!!!!!
Diet modification would be my recommendation
on 12/24/14 12:08 pm
For me, maintenance just happened - I lost all the weight, I stopped losing weight - I was in maintenance!!!! Ta da!!!
I just kept doing what I was doing ...
Now, I see people choosing weights, altering diets, stressing over it - not sure why people need to manipulate it but whatever! I think I chose the easy way
on 12/23/14 10:14 am
I have a profile that is only accessible to "friends" because I didn't want pervs gawking at my PS pics (which I have taken down now).
I have been here 10 years and only have a couple of hundred now because I run the private R&R board - it added a couple of hundred to my friends list (you have to be a friend to be able to receive an invite)
There are people on here who collect friends - even some of the weirdest old timers have thousands of friends - I've never really "got" why
on 12/22/14 6:55 pm
You should be judicious who you accept as a friend - I am not a friend collector because I am fussy about (at least) having an avatar and a history.
It is perfectly ok to decline a friend request!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
on 12/20/14 3:58 pm
on 12/20/14 3:28 am, edited 12/20/14 3:29 am
Ok, I'll be the Debbie Downer and remind everyone that RNY is not a cure for diabetes, but it does allow some people to go into remission.
Not everyone, but some ... and it is wholly possible that it can come back at some point in the future - even without regain!
on 12/6/14 10:38 am
on 12/4/14 1:45 pm, edited 12/4/14 1:45 pm
Please reconsider your choice of surgery - your insurance company may even deny BECAUSE you chose lap band surgery - it really is the worst of all worlds in terms of complications and longevity of the band - most have to be removed after a while with THAT surgery NOT being covered!!!! You will need to be prepared to fund this as many insurance companies have a once per lifetime clause now.
Do some research on VSG (sleeve) which will give you the restriction you want without the problems of malabsorption.
on 12/3/14 3:34 pm
Please follow Gwenmo's EXCELLENT advice and do NOT go back to any form of liquid/protein shake diet - That is the worst possible advice.
There is a group that can help you Hope this is the one!
on 11/23/14 4:56 pm, edited 11/23/14 4:57 pm
I've been around (except for a little (ahem) break) for about 11 years or so ... My previous incarnation (2003-2008 was Britkim)
There's quite a few vets that hang out on here, but we don't reply to all posts or our heads would explode, wouldn't they, Bette?
on 11/20/14 4:57 pm
The exclusion is on your employer NOT Anthem!!! If you want the surgery, you have to persuade your employer to pay for it or to not exclude it in this cycle!
on 11/19/14 10:56 am
I drove the day AFTER I was released because I had been off narcotics since the day of surgery ie, 24 hours - but did have my husband and kids pick me up!
I believe I am the exception (being so perky after surgeries) rather than the rule - so you should assume you won't be driving for at least a couple of days after discharge!
on 11/18/14 5:40 am
And after going through anaesthesia and surgery, that make up is going to look akin to what they'll do in the mortuary!
Not sure looking like Mimi in The Drew Carey Show is a good look but what the heck????
on 11/11/14 2:28 pm
I buy or make whatever everyone else would want - I eat so little (if any) so why make everyone else suffer?
I chose to have this surgery not my friends and family and Thanksgiving is not all about me!
on 11/11/14 2:25 pm
A handy tip - make sure the eggs are not overcooked. I still can't eat scrambled eggs that other people have cooked and I am 10 years post RNY!!!
I thin mine out a little with a splash of half and half, salt and pepper for taste and cook them until they are only just solidified (still wet!)
on 11/11/14 7:50 am
I'm like you, but I do think we are exception. I have not needed a big change in lifestyle after any of my surgeries - but just by this thread, we are clearly not the norm!
I can't imagine having told my 11 month old son that mum needed 8 weeks off LOL! I think it's needs must - if someone can afford to take 8 weeks off, then have at it - if you need to get back to week after a weekend off, then that's what you have to do!
We are not all equal in our experiences or our obligations
on 11/3/14 8:13 pm
on 10/28/14 6:59 pm
Firstly, you should be doing this for you and as an adult, you really don't need his permission.
However, to get him on board, I would suggest you get him to go to support group meetings, doctor's appointments etc. Most men are NOT going to read good medical information and perish the thought that he would Google weight loss surgery, because there is a lot of disinformation on weight loss surgery, ie, most of us die in surgery or regain all our weight and die before we're 10 years out!!! Lots of scaremongering and negativity.
If all else fails, get him to come here and we'll put him straight