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Kim

on 7/10/14 11:13 am
Topic: RE: Information please people!
On July 10, 2014 at 10:55 AM Pacific Time, jaxie77 wrote:

Thanks Tereasa ,Looks that way eh ? 

Fingers defo burned !! Will keep my mouth shut and just surf from now on . Every day is a school day ! Lol ......thank you though , was feeling I going crazy there for a minute !! Love this forum but will definitely move on past things that could end up like this . Doesnt feel very nice ......there I go again being over emotional ! 

Jax x

And you don't see this as rude and condescending or in any way inflammatory?

Pot - meet Kettle!

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on 7/10/14 9:06 am, edited 7/10/14 9:06 am
Topic: RE: Information please people!

I feel really uncomfortable and unappreciated right now too ...     (See what I did then?) 

Saying it was not a job made it sound like it's not worthy and why should we bother ...  I'm deeply offended and uncomfortable about that statement n(See what I did then?)

Statistically ...   that word was meant to de-personalise the statement that you would not come back after 6-12 months because most don't!  You may well be the exception and if you are, we can have a good laugh about this in a few years and YOU start a thread asking for the same things Hislady did!  At this point, you think you would never do anything as aggressive as Hislady (hard not to laugh as I type that - if you "knew" her, you would know why)

You are making me feel uncomfortable with your constant attacks against me.  (See what I did then?)

Thanks for your opinion - they all count!

Kim x

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on 7/10/14 8:38 am
Topic: RE: Information please people!

Lori W lives for these posts and has a history of taking every opportunity to slam vets - expect to be blocked and expect to not notice until someone quotes her 

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Kim

on 7/10/14 8:15 am
Topic: RE: Information please people!
On July 10, 2014 at 7:40 AM Pacific Time, jaxie77 wrote:

I do understand , and I do get that you want to help , but ...my only issue was with the very first post and the tone of it , maybe im not making myself clear enough . Again ...I apologise for pointing out how I felt when I read it . The first poster said she couldnt begin to say how irked she was by newbies not posting enough details . How you guys are not psychic , for the love of all that is Holy can we please post our details !!! And so on .......me being a newbie , felt she was annoyed that she had to bother to post that ! Yes ...again ..it was a goid suggestion ....I agreed .....but the tone could be more patient . Am I wrong ?? Maybe ..maybe im over sensitive .....but listen ....there are gonna be newbies joining this site every single day ! Are you gonna keep posting up that you are irked at how people are not putting enough detail in their posts ? Because you can guarantee that this will happen always !!Or ....like MANY MANY others ...are you gonna just patiently reply again and again because you realise this is an open forum where people post new every day and we are all learning how to use it . I know which I appreciate more . And thats not to say I dont value everyones opinion , I do . But ...it seems that you dont get mine . Maybe aggressive was the wrong word to use , I apologise for that . But it was condescending , in my opinion . 

Jax x

Yes, you are oversensitive ...

I look forward to knowing you when you are 10 years out from your surgery and are still here answering questions!   (from a statistical standpoint, you won't be here six to twelve months after your surgery)  For every one of us still on here, there are many MANY thousands who have disappeared after they got what they want.   The vast majority of people do NOT payback!   Telling vets NOT to come here and answer questions is the most foolhardy statement of this whole thread!

This started as a post to ask people to give a little more information if they want advice and has turned into the (Easily) Pissed Off Jax Show - good job!

 

 

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on 7/9/14 5:59 pm, edited 7/9/14 5:59 pm
Topic: RE: Information please people!

Spemd 5 minutes on your account profile and it will be there forever and ever ...   An avatar and a meaningful name is always helpful because no one is going to remember Kath23978 or sa0987 but we *might* remember a picture of you or your dog 

 

 

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on 7/8/14 7:26 pm, edited 7/8/14 7:35 pm
Topic: RE: Working Moms: How am I ever going to do this?

What Kathkeb said about work.

How old are your children?  Unless they are toddlers, it's time for them to step up and help out - you'll probably only need help for a week or so (most of us recover very quickly!)   If they are toddlers, then keep them in childcare as you would if you were at work

You choose whether you tell neighbours - you have enough time to cook meals ahead of time for your family and your kids can get rides from their friends for a week!!!!   I was driving the second day after surgery and caring for an 11 month old baby on my own - needs must - you can do this without becoming a bariatric patient!!!

 

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on 7/5/14 8:10 pm
Topic: RE: smoking

Just do it!   If you need help, go see your PCP - there are tons of ways to stop ...   If you want this surgery, smoking is not an option - why have your insides re-arranged only to continue to do the deadliest thing you could do?   My sister, who was 50 this year, is in her second bout of lung cancer from smoking.  My 60 year old cousin is terminal and has 3-6 months WITH chemo.   This is not a game!  Stay fat, and it will probably STILL be the cigs that kill you!

Yes, I am an ex-smoker - 11.5 years clean!

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on 7/5/14 9:46 am
Topic: RE: those who are six years out and more, having problems or none?

We are NOT all addicts.  Feel free to speak for yourself but please, do not speak for anyone else!!!

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on 7/4/14 12:03 pm
Topic: RE: those who are six years out and more, having problems or none?

Your PCP should be able to help you or refer you to the specialists.   My first port of call would be a full vitamin/mineral blood work up so you can see if you do indeed have any deficiencies and get those addressed.  

The other symptoms may or may not be related.   A bariatric surgeon is a cutter and not usually an expert in any of these things, so it's no problem not to have the insurance to see one.   It is more likely you will need an endocrinologist or haematologist so save your money to see the people who would really be able to help you if necessary!

I am 10 years out at the end of this month (yikes) and have had iron deficency issues (addressed by infusions a couple of times) - any other problems I have had have not been connected with the RNY but more with getting older (which sucks!)

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on 7/2/14 8:00 pm
Topic: RE: Low Iron and Platelets. Having iron transfusion

Very common in our community ... nothing to be worried about!

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on 6/30/14 8:06 pm
Topic: RE: How long were you on pain meds after RNY?

Had no narcotics after the day of surgery but I do have a high pain tolerance.   Was able to drive the day after discharge - you know you can't drive until you have been off the pain meds for 24 hours!

The left side pain is where all the work is done and muscles are cut, so the pain may linger for a couple of weeks while it's healing.

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on 6/30/14 6:15 pm
Topic: RE: To tell or not to tell....

You obviously have insight into yourself (fixer) and know that this is not the job of a friend or a support group leader.   Now, while I would never join your group , I think for those with faith, it will be a great place for WLS fellowship!!!

 

Don't disappear from here - I have been here 10 years and have definitely come to accept that while we are a dysfunctional family at times, we can still get and give support and I honestly believe that is one of the biggest aspects in long term weight loss success!   Some of us are blunt, some of us are downright rude, but the vast majority of people here are very caring and want to give you an honest opinion and that's what's important!

 

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on 6/30/14 3:25 pm
Topic: RE: To tell or not to tell....

I'm not going to flower this up ...  It's none of your business!  Go on your very happy and successful journey and let her go on with hers.  

If I called the surgeon of every screw up I've seen on here over the last 10 years - I'd never be off the phone 

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on 6/29/14 11:30 am
Topic: RE: Has anyone needed skin removal surgery and what should i expect

I had RNY 10 years ago at aged 41 - there is a "before" picture on my profile - I lost 120lbs in 6 months.   You will have to friend me to see the picture.

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on 6/27/14 11:45 am, edited 6/27/14 11:47 am
Topic: RE: Told to stop B12?

What was your level?  If you are feeling tired, what were your ferritin levels last time?

None of us should accept whatever health care professionals tell us blindly!  You are your own best advocate and no one has more invested in your health than you.

Personally, I wouldn't have stopped taking B12 completely but maybe reduced it to once or twice per week?   How do you know you don't have intrinsic factor - not everyone who has RNY completely lacks intrinsic factor - which is why we all need different amounts of B12 to stay healthy!    

I wouldn't listen to anyone who tells you we ALL need to take X amount of XYZ ...   We all need to track our labs and respond to trends!

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on 6/25/14 2:31 pm
Topic: RE: High liver enzymes, "cirrhotic appearing liver"

Elevated liver enzymes are very common during the rapid weight loss after surgery - it usually rights itself after about a year.   (happened to me too)  

Can't comment on the other stuff, but the liver is a very good organ for regeneration of cells, and so a year of good living should help enormously!  

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on 6/24/14 5:21 pm
Topic: RE: Dealing with an unsupportive significant other...

I would definitely talk to her about it - if she's doing it on purpose, she needs to know it's not appreciated - if she's not, then a little chat might change her choices?

I am not of the view that the family need to tiptoe around you, but there should definitely be boundaries!

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on 6/24/14 8:38 am
Topic: RE: 8 Years today.

Congratulations, Frank, maintaining at 8 years is not easy and you have done a great job!

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on 6/23/14 2:08 pm, edited 6/23/14 2:11 pm
Topic: RE: Maintenance and how to stop losing

If you are still losing you are not in maintenance!!  I don't know where the thought came that you could determine a particular weight and just decide you were done (and you are not alone in this thought) - I think our bodies are way cleverer than that ...

You should continue to eat 1400-1800 calories per day and see where you end up - once you have stayed at a weight for several months, then you can probably think that you are in maintenance.

Many many of us lose more than we think we will (or even want to) and find that we are able to regain to a comfortable weight at about 3-4 years.  

I have yet to hear of anyone that disappeared completely 

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on 6/19/14 10:30 am, edited 6/19/14 10:30 am
Topic: RE: Is she telling the truth?

I don't think anyone missed that - someone would have to be 4ft 6 to have a BMI of 42 at 170lbs ...   I think everyone gets that Miss Batt lost 170lbs - a great achievement - not something that I think anyone is putting down or not understanding here

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on 6/19/14 8:24 am
Topic: RE: Writing positive post
Steffan467
on 6/17/14 6:06 am  

I saw photos of people who had a panni and I am sorry to say it is not pretty as a tummy tuck.  I went in for a tummy tuck after I had lost all my weight.  Are you sure you are done losing.   I would give it more time to get closer to your goal.  Shop around.  If you have insurance many will cover TT if you have rashes that are bothersome.  I had a rash that wouldn't go away. It itched a lot.  I would shop around for a better price with a good doctor.  If it were me, I would wait until I could do it the right way.  I have the pretties tummy in the world.  Really my belly looks like a bikini model photo.  No I am not bragging.  I am actually amazed they took all that flab and made my belly so I didn't have a stretch mark at all.  This is my own personal opinion.  Unless you are 6 ft tall 185 is no way near goal.  Work out get closer to goal and do what will make you happy in the end.  You have a pani now and lose more weight you will have more flab and probably end up with another pani or tummy tuck.  Sorry to give you bad news but the picture I saw many years ago, the lady was in your shoes.  It was horrible.  It looked like she had a shelf.  

Brenda

    You never made any comment about the post above, even when it was pointed out to you that it was mean ...   I think OH is a much gentler, kinder place than it was 5 or 10 years ago but it's still somewhere you are expected to "own" what you say ...   You may well have good intentions in your return to OH, but I think your delivery is lacking and you have been called out on it, that's all!

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on 6/17/14 10:36 am
Topic: RE: Pannilectomy
On June 17, 2014 at 6:06 AM Pacific Time, Steffan467 wrote:

I saw photos of people who had a panni and I am sorry to say it is not pretty as a tummy tuck.  I went in for a tummy tuck after I had lost all my weight.  Are you sure you are done losing.   I would give it more time to get closer to your goal.  Shop around.  If you have insurance many will cover TT if you have rashes that are bothersome.  I had a rash that wouldn't go away. It itched a lot.  I would shop around for a better price with a good doctor.  If it were me, I would wait until I could do it the right way.  I have the pretties tummy in the world.  Really my belly looks like a bikini model photo.  No I am not bragging.  I am actually amazed they took all that flab and made my belly so I didn't have a stretch mark at all.  This is my own personal opinion.  Unless you are 6 ft tall 185 is no way near goal.  Work out get closer to goal and do what will make you happy in the end.  You have a pani now and lose more weight you will have more flab and probably end up with another pani or tummy tuck.  Sorry to give you bad news but the picture I saw many years ago, the lady was in your shoes.  It was horrible.  It looked like she had a shelf.  

Brenda

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on 6/17/14 10:36 am, edited 6/17/14 10:36 am
Topic: RE: Pannilectomy

After you getting SO bent out of shape with another poster for insensitivity to their friend who had WLS, I am very surprised to see this, Brenda.   It really doesn't show you in a good light and if it's your idea of support ... you might want to reconsider!

None of us have a right to determine others' goals or put down those who don't meet our measure of success!

 

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on 6/17/14 8:07 am
Topic: RE: Advocate for myself

One of my favourite phrases is "you teach people how to treat you" - well, changing docs is doing exactly that!   You taught Dr Ass that he cannot treat you like that!  

The only problem is, if you didn't point out what as ass he is, he won't realise you are gone unless you let him know - consider sending him a letter outlining why he is no longer your ortho doctor of choice - you *may* be saving someone else from his ass-douchery!

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on 6/16/14 4:02 pm, edited 6/16/14 4:02 pm
Topic: RE: If you are getting ready to have weight loss surgery please read.

I had surgery 10 years ago next month and am yet to have anyone say anything negative to me.  

I believe you teach people how to treat you and I honestly don't invite people in my life to be negative towards me.   I am a strong and intelligent woman and have never had any doubts about my decision to have WLS - maybe it's why noone has ever thought it necessary to worry about me or make derogatory comments to me?

I don't think anyone should have to prepare for people to treat them like crap - how about we prepare pre-ops to own their decision and not invite derogatory comments?

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