Post Date 3/15/05 8:11 am
Topic: RE: Strongly Regret Lap-Band
Hi southerband girl,
I don't mean to get in between you and Vanessa's squirl, BUT, I think that you are a little bit to harsh. I know exactly what you mean when you say...
"i dont think insulted you. i spoke frankly and anyone who knows me knows thats just the way i am".
I can relate to you when you say that because I am the same way...BUT... you have to take into consideration that every human soul is different, and not everybody has the ability to do the same or as much research as you did or anyone esle. Vanessa may not have had the time or even the proper resources to find out long term effects. Back in "2003" the procedure WAS relatively new to the USA, and there really wasn't real life testimonials (actual) facts that the band COULD have some side effects. You can do all the research in the world, and STILL not know your outcome. We as human beings take risks and chances, that's what makes us who we are, and just like you took that risk of being banded, you NEVER know what can happend to you. As for you saying.....
"if you can self pay for a $20,000 lapband but cant afford $300 for fills that are ESSENTIAL to make the band work THEN YOU SHOULDNT HAVE BEEN BANDED IN THE FIRST PLACE! mainly because what if you had had a complication...how could you have paid for that"?...
I don't think it's your place to say that to someone who is seeking help and support from other people who have shared similar experiences. You don't know her financial situation, things change. It would be just like if you bought a brand new car, and yes you did all the research in the world about it and you determined that was the car for you and you wanted that car so bad and you saved up for it. THEN all of a sudden the car that got so many good reviews BY the makers not the actual owners, starts to give you real problems, and what you origionally budgeted yourself for, know it's gettign out of control with sudden bills, and expenses.... SO ... my point is never be quick to insult someone else's desicion because it can come back and bite you in the A@#!!! And then when you want that emotional support someone turns it around on you, and says you shouldv'e NEVER did that, when in FACT at the time you thought for sure that what was what you wanted.
I don't mean to offend you either by saying this to you either, I'm just tryn to get you to be more open minded and sensitive to other people's feelings and choices.
Well, let me say congratulations on your weightloss

!!
Lez