Hi BAF!!! I never really introduced myself, however I have been on these message boards for minute now researching for the biggest decision in my LIFE!!  My name is Cece  and I live in Boston. A lil about my reason for being here...Diabetes runs in the family so does heart disease and I want to prevent it from cumin my way. Ive done allll my tests... well except the psych eval but other than that I need to lose 23lbs(still at 277lbs) and then I will be good to go. I am really leaning towards the RNY but I am looking at all options. I had a few ??'s that anyone can answer if they would like.

1. Has anyone ever been concerned about or lost TOO much weight?
2. Is SEX normal after either surgery?
3. DEHYDRATION...IE:since excersize is a priority and u get really thirsty after your workouts, does the size or the pouch accomodate ur thirst?? I mean are u able to quench ur thirst even tho' ur limited as to how much u can consume?
4. FOR THE LADIES...is the "menses" normal, shorter, longer, or does it change at all??
5. If u had to do it again would u?

Thats about it and I know I'm gonna think of sum more ??'s but in the meantime if anyone cares to share ANYTHING AT ALL I would soooo be greatful. Have A Good One Guys Thanks! 

Hello!!

1. Yes I am sure we all were concern about losing too much weight. Lose whatever you can to replace whatever weight gain you may get.

2. Don't understand the "normal sex" question. Was it better maybe?

3. Dehydration problems yes some have that problem, just stay hydrated.

4. I have always been pretty lucky in the cycle dept, never cramped and cycle normally last 3-4 days.

5. YEP will do it over again and correct my mistakes at the beginning so it want be such a struggle to maintain down the line.

Ur great thanks for the input! I think I am also afraid I wont get all my protein in that I will need. Oh and as for the sex ?? I meant is there discomfort from the surgery that may hinder the way u have intercourse as far as abdominal pains and such as far as...well...the more well endowed man gettin it in.. Is that TMI?? I apologize but I didnt know how else to put it!! LOL!!

First of all HEY and welcome! Now, let me answer your questions

1. My initial goal was 180 I'm currently hanging out at 168. THat did freak me out but I was losing about 15 lbs every month for the first 6 months.

2. I think its better

3 Ihave never encountered a time I didn't quench my thirst
4. Initially my menses were worse (longer, heavier, and crampswere unbearable) but about month 6 I was fine
5. Yes MAAM in a heartbeat

Hey there.  Good for you for making such an important decision for your health.  I chose a different surgery option but I'll give a stab at your questions.

1) Still working hard with this band, I don't think too much weight loss is as much of a problem for us.

2) I'm in a bit of a drought myself but I'm guessing this will only bee so much better without the almost 60 lbs I was lugging around before.

3)Initially I had to sip water, but with time I have been able to drink almost like normal.

4) Stopped taking BCP so I might not have a good answer for this, but things are lighter but the cramps are worse.

5) Only thing I would have done was choose to have surgery sooner.

1. In terms of losing too much weight, ur proably bound to gain SOME back in time.

2. normal is in the eye of the beholder.  I have found more stamina. 

3. You should be drinking at least 64 ozs of water  a day once ur able to accomodate it...so, dehydration shouldnt' be a problem.

4. Yeah, I would do it all over again. . 

...Welcome

1. Has anyone ever been concerned about or lost TOO much weight?

nope still trying to get to goal peronally..

2. Is SEX normal after either surgery?

for me better,more energy..

3. DEHYDRATION...IE:since excersize is a priority and u get really thirsty after your workouts, does the size or the pouch accomodate ur thirst?? I mean are u able to quench ur thirst even tho' ur limited as to how much u can consume?

i can no longer guzzle water..i have to take smaller swallows at a slower pace..

4. FOR THE LADIES...is the "menses" normal, shorter, longer, or does it change at all??

about the same as far as how long, but i cramp like hell now.

5. If u had to do it again would u?

Absolutely!

1. Has anyone ever been concerned about or lost TOO much weight?

no i'm only 3months post op so i'm still losing

2. Is SEX normal after either surgery?
better!!!!
3. DEHYDRATION...IE:since excersize is a priority and u get really thirsty after your workouts, does the size or the pouch accomodate ur thirst?? I mean are u able to quench ur thirst even tho' ur limited as to how much u can consume? 
I have always loved a cold glass of water but now i have to just sip sip sip. I dont have dehydration problems. I still get in about 64oz per day but i start early in the day and keep sippin all day

4. FOR THE LADIES...is the "menses" normal, shorter, longer, or does it change at all??
mine wasnt normal pre op so i really cant answer this question. I have Endometriosis so mine is always painful and heavy...cant blame it on the surgery.
5. If u had to do it again would u?
Yes I would. I never was a healthy eater, but now I have no choice. I enjoy eating healthy. Like you diabetes and heart disease run in my family. I am 3months  postop and already I am off 3 medications

1. Has anyone ever been concerned about or lost TOO much weight?

I've was concerned about it but I'm sure it was all in my mind.

2. Is SEX normal after either surgery?

I don't know about normal, but it's damn sure cheaper when they charge by the pound.

3. DEHYDRATION...IE:since excersize is a priority and u get really thirsty after your workouts, does the size or the pouch accomodate ur thirst?? I mean are u able to quench ur thirst even tho' ur limited as to how much u can consume?

You can quench it, drench it, and if you're really creative you can wrench it, but it you drink too much water and can't get to a bathroom you may have to cross your legs and pinch it.

4. FOR THE LADIES...is the "menses" normal, shorter, longer, or does it change at all??

Sah dit tay!

5. If u had to do it again would u?

Yes.  I would.  WLS saved my life.  Thank you, WLS-fairy!  Thank you. 

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You can quench it, drench it, and if you're really creative you can wrench it, but it you drink too much water and can't get to a bathroom you may have to cross your legs and pinch it.

As I am a newbie post op myself I can only answer 2 of your questions

1.  I'm not concerned with loosing too much, I'm only concerned with not loosing enough!. 

3. Pre op I was a guzzler, it drives me absolutely crazy that I can't now.  However at only 2 weeks out and 20lbs. down, for me the pro's far out weigh the con's.

Welcome to BAF

No not worry about losing to much weight worry about get back on track.  Have made myself a stall.(7mons)  Seeing to everyone business but my own.

what ever when ever

I still have trouble with getting water in even though I sip, sip, sip, and then I have the worst trouble with my stomach's hurting
. Still have to drink tea.

No problem every things been gone some years ago.

If I had it to do again I would have done it 15 years ago are longer.

Congrats on your choice and remember to always do you first
so you want have to worry about stalling.

1. Has anyone ever been concerned about or lost TOO much weight?

No, not concerned about losing too much, I was concerned about not losing enough. I have lost my fair share; approx 220 pounds in almost 2 years.

2. Is SEX normal after either surgery?

Sex is as normal as you make it. Depends on your definition of normal sex.

3. DEHYDRATION...IE:since excersize is a priority and u get really thirsty after your workouts, does the size or the pouch accomodate ur thirst?? I mean are u able to quench ur thirst even tho' ur limited as to how much u can consume?

Dehydration can become a problem. You just have to sip, sip sip all day. In the beginning you may not be able to get alot of fluid in at a time but after a while your wil be able to consume more. I had a problem because I dont drink sodas, dont like flavored water, juice is too sweet for me so I only drink Tea and if there is no teas around i usually go without but I am learning how to incorporate other beverages into my day.


4. FOR THE LADIES...is the "menses" normal, shorter, longer, or does it change at all??

The change in "menses" (for me) alone would have been worth the surgery. Pre-wls I flowed very, very heavy (had to wear depends) straight 7 days (was a time when I would flow weeks (WEEKS) at a time, now I can wear a normal pad and only go 5 days and not that heavily and no more cramps. I have had bad cramps since the age of 12 (missing school / hospital visits). I would have begged to have the surgery then if I knew it would help with my cycle and I wasnt an overweight kid. Well I was probably over weight given my height and solid body structure but not noticably overweight/fat.

5. If u had to do it again would u?

Girl, I would do it 10x over if I had to , and I was self pay.

Hi There!

I didn't have a RNY but I just (well two weeks ago!) had the gastric banding surgery (LapBand -- but the Realize band is the same thing).  So I can take a stab at your questions from the perspective of a newbie and a non RNY patient:

1. Has anyone ever been concerned about or lost TOO much weight?
I have had that concern.  My best friend got a lapband about four years ago and she lost some major weight (had that head too big for the body syndrome) so even with a band its possible to loose LOTS of weight.  However one of the reasons I like the band is that it is adjustable.  If your doctor thinks you are loosing too much weight too fast he can take out fluid in your band to allow you to eat more and vice versa.

2. Is SEX normal after either surgery?
I have no clue!  But I'd imagine as you drop pounds it would be better :P

3. DEHYDRATION...IE:since excersize is a priority and u get really thirsty after your workouts, does the size or the pouch accomodate ur thirst?? I mean are u able to quench ur thirst even tho' ur limited as to how much u can consume?
They say that most bandsters have to start by sip sip sipping.  I find that I can drink normally.  However I would assume that after fills you would have to sip for a while, but eventually you can intake fluid normally and in the proper amounts. 

4. FOR THE LADIES...is the "menses" normal, shorter, longer, or does it change at all??
I can let you know in a week :P

5. If u had to do it again would u?
Even though I'm brand new I would.  I wish I would have done it sooner -- but so far its been a good ride :)

Good luck with your journey!!!

I had the lap band so its a little different but heres my thoughts !  1)unless you have a complication you shouln't lose to much weight and with any wls if you don't follow the rule you may gain back weight. 2) Can't help you there I'm not with any one right now  :(  3)if you get your 64 oz. in you should be ok I have a few friends that had the rny and post op and those first few month can be hard on getting the fluids in but as time goes on it gets easier.4) perimen going in and peri men coming out I'm no help but I'm HOT... :) 5) Ionly which I had this choice 20 years ago and now I wouldn't go back if you paid me I love my wls and I'm very happy  I'm one year out down 122 pounds and I know this was the best thing I could have done for me.     so welcome to the board and good luck if you have time check out my profile it tell my story it may help

Hello CeCe,

1. Has anyone ever been concerned about or lost TOO much weight?  For me personally, I have never had this concern.

2. Is SEX normal after either surgery?
IMO it enhances your sex life because you have more stamina, etc

3. DEHYDRATION...IE:since excersize is a priority and u get really thirsty after your workouts, does the size or the pouch accomodate ur thirst?? I mean are u able to quench ur thirst even tho' ur limited as to how much u can consume? I have the Lap-Band and I am able to drinky usually a bottle of water after my workout.

4. FOR THE LADIES...is the "menses" normal, shorter, longer, or does it change at all?? Mine has almost remained the same with the exception of a few more cramps.

5. If u had to do it again would u? In a freakin' heartbeat!

! U want lose to much wt.
Sex is better
No problem drinking
Of course I would do it again
Welcome to BAF

Wow you guys are great!! Thank you for sharing and I wanna say congrats to all on ur weightloss successes!!! And thanks for the warm welcome. I have a LOT to consider!! I will keep u guys posted. Have a Good One and thanks again for all the information.