We are going to a graduation party on Dh's side. I didn't tell any one on Dh side about my surgery. My side all knew. I work for a large company those that know me did hear about it. All are very supportive. Dh decided not to tell them. He was very sick last year I almost lost him. Most of his family didn't bother so he decided not to tell the, Which was fine by me. I decided not to tell them if they ask. I will say diet and exercise.
Dh has one cousin who seems to rule the family. If he is angry with you. They wont invite you because he may cause a scene. Right now its my 25yo niece because she is pregnant with her second child by a different man. They had words. My feeling is never judge someone Else's child because you don't know what yours will do. So now she cant come to the party. A few years ago he verbally attacked my daughter at a cook out. We left as not to cause a scene. The next day I had words with him. He lied to every one about what I said. The rest of the family took his side. Dh and I walked away we were not going to let him treat our family like this. He is a grown man and acts like 5.
If they want to let him treat their children that way. They can I will not. It took their father dying for them to realize we were telling the truth. A lot of problems arose and he was the cause.
We put our difference aside went to the funeral.
Its our God Child who is graduating so Dh and I are going, If the cousin causes any problems we will leave.