So after a second attempt, surgery is quickly approaching (9 days) and i'm getting really scared and nervous. Quick background, the first time i was scheduled i wasn't scared or nervous. Got to the hospital and got in the room and found out i was pregnant, so obviously surgery got cancelled. Very bittersweet. I'm glad that i had her before surgery but still a little disappointing. But this time, i seem to be having a harder time with the liquid diet (haven't cheated though) and am getting really nervous for surgery. And keep thinking if this is right for me. I was just wondering if anyone else got nervous or had second thoughts this close. i know this is what i want and i have worked hard to get here. But major surgery scares me, especially with a now 7 month old daughter. I worry about after, not being able to hold her and how it's going to work during recovery. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

Hi Jodie, I can't speak to the new-mother ds thing, but I can definitely tell you that just about everyone has second thoughts.  Perfectly normal.  And I can tell you that you will be shocked at how healthy you will become.  It's amazing.  You'll have all that extra strength to chase around after your darling daughther when she starts walking.   Yaaay!

Everything you're experiencing is perfectly normal. Breathe!

 Who is your surgeon?  If you have picked a vetted DS surgeon, and are having your surgery at a good hospital, you have no worries...

nerves is not unusual exspecialy with a new little one. my daughter was 9mnths.  U will still be able to hold her not just walk around with her. Have a nice fluffy pillow on your belly ... its good to hug if you have to cough or if you have anaiimals that could jump uo on you, or ifyou wanna hold your lil one.  My husband would help me get her settled on the pillow like layn across it or leaning on it so I could still cuddle with her or help put her down for a nap, then he would come get her and lay her dwn.  A pillow will be you friend in more ways then one

Linda

Thank you so much, this is extremely comforting. I was actually really worried that i couldn't even hold her. I will be sure to use a pillow, thank you for the tip.

I didn't get nervous, but I really didn't believe my surgery was going to happen - I've got close before with different surgeons and it's just not happened, so I was in disbelief mostly.  Nervousness is normal though.

Please do make sure you get help with your baby.  I'm 6 days out (intestines only - stomach already done) and I'd say you need help for AT LEAST a couple of weeks.

I just saw a nurse tonight to get my dressings changed and she said that just getting my appendix and gallbladder out alone are very major surgery, so please get the help you need as you don't want to put back your recovery and have any form of complications.

Putting my recovery back really seemed to be a term my DH grasped and he's letting me off housework when I put in those terms.  Guys, even good ones, really do think you should be back to normal as soon as you're out of hospital.

Anyway all the best for a super speedy, uneventful recovery.

((Hugs))

Huneypie

 Are you going to the U of M?  

No my surgery is at St Joseph's in St Paul by Dr Scwhartz w/ Dr Koeplin assisting. The clinic is one of the center of excellence, so i have the utmost confidence in the facility itself.

Those are not familiar surgeon names in the DS world.  How many have they done?  A place that only puts in Lap-Bands can still attain a "Center of Excellence" status, so it doesn't mean much to DSers.  Have you seen or talked with any DS patients of theirs?

Dr Schwartz was the one that recommended DS to me. To be truthful I hadn't heard about it before. Also the hospital was recommended to me by a friend. I'm a little embarassed that i didn't not research this. I know he was the first to perform the RNY in the midwest. And i assumed that he wouldn't of suggested the procedure if he wasn't confident and experienced. I will have to do more research and fast. Surgery on Tuesday. Thank you,


http://doctorsofweightloss.com/the-doctors/dr-michael-schwar tz-md

Yes, please really read about the DS.  On Dr. Schwartz, he says he was the first in the midwest to do the RNY laparoscopically, not to do the RNY at all.  Before that, RNYs were done open.  I see that the website does not list the DS in it's list of weight loss surgeries offered.  I hope that you really do get a DS, and that it goes off without a hitch.