Hi Bobby,
You are not alone. I am 9 1/2 years post op and it takes mindful eating to not gain weight. I stay around 10-12 lbs up from my lowest weight, but have bounced as high as 20 lbs above my lowest before and it was not pleasant. This year has been particularly tough because I have traveled on my job a lot. I really would like to get back to a lower weight.
What helps me is to go back to basics - high protein (100-120 grams), 8-10 glasses of water, make sure I get all my vitamins in, exercise and get plenty of sleep. I seem to do better when I focus on what I SHOULD be doing and not on what I should NOT be doing. JMHO.
You are doing the right thing by reaching out for support.
Best wishes,
Sharon G.