Everybody who been over -weight. At least once in their has been made to feel like a failure. It does matter if you gained pounds 10 pounds or 410 pounds. Everybody has to learn to forgive themselves for their past mistakes and failures. Your have to learn to forgive yourself. You have to learn to let go of your shame , self hatred and anger. Believe you me if you lost 100 pounds and then gain it back your full of self hatred, anger and shame. Food addicts feel it all the time. Everyday is a test. Do we fail, Do we pass, or Do we cheat, or Do we do nothing at all. Our lives are the sum of the Choices that we choose to make. When choose to do nothing we choose to fail. Everyday is a new day and new beginning. Learn to forgive yourself and love yourself fat or not. Find something besides yourself to live for. I live with Lifetime of failures, depression, and heartbreaks and Had to dig myself out of many of dark pits. Depression and our Weight go hand and hand. But, Know this Things can always get better. Put disappointment in life behind you. Every day is fresh start. Learn to leave your past failures behind.