I have been holding this in since last Friday! Ok, so I have been on this journey of mine since June. I decided to have Roux N-Y gastric bypass surgery and worked my butt off all summer to accomplish all my pre-op stuff....20 pound weight loss, get the blood pressure down, have a pap smear done, go to surgery prep and nutrition classes, see the shrink, take fish oil to get the cholesterol down,etc. The list is just endless! At the beginning of all of this, my mother was adamant about being my NUMBER ONE support person. She said she'd go to all the classes with me, be there in any way that I needed. Fast forward a couple months, and she has been to ONE consultation and still has not made the time to read any of the literature I've given her. I have made copies of stuff from my nutrition classes and printed out anything I could about this surgery so she'd be informed. I mean, come on! If you're gonna be a support person in all of this then don't you kinda have to be informed?! But this is actually not the most upsetting thing. This past Friday was the day I finally got my surgery date! October 6th at 1 pm! I was so excited...and as you guys know, getting this date is a HUGE deal. I had been on pins and needles for the last few weeks just waiting and finishing up the last of my requirements. So I hung up with the surgeons office and immediately called my mother to share the news. My sister answers the phone and I tell her and she's happy,blah blah blah. I hear my mother almost immediately say, "Ugh. That's when Jim's brother is coming to visit." Jim is her boyfriend and his family is coming in from Wisconsin for a visit the week of the 6th. Then she gets on the phone and she doesn't even sound that excited. The ENTIRE focus of the conversation was all about these plans of hers. October 6th is a perfect date for me. I have to do what works for my life! My son's 10th bday is in December and we have travel plans for Thanksgiving, so this timing is wonderful! I could feel my blood boiling as the conversation went on. She knows and has seen the things I've had to do for this surgery! I guess I'm really just hurt at this point. And disappointed. As you guys know, making the decision to do this is a huge step and it becomes quite the journey and is all-consuming. Just NOT what I expected from my "main support person". People never cease to amaze me, family most of all.