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I needed a place to get this off my shoulder. I have been married 2 times and this is my husband's 3rd marriage. we have been together for going on 8 years, married 6. His family welcomed me with open arms. My daughter was their neice, granchild to them even though she isn't my husband's biological child. My family on the other hand had a hard time accepting my husband at first until I put my foot down and told them that if they don't accept him that I will no longer be in contact with them. I have noticed over the years how the treat my step children. Even though I call them my step children in this post, i don't address them as that in my life and neither does my husband. I adopted his son and he is 18 now. we have 2 daughters and a son. They don't even do for my daughter like they do for my sister's kids. They have 14 grandchildren but are only close to 2 of them. 11 of their granchildren 9 of the grand kids live with in 20 minutes of their house. I have 3 sisters and one brother. I am the one that calls them everyday to check on them and to make sure they need anything. I am only close to one of my older sisters because she knows what I am going through. She is in the same boat as me with having a blended family and her kids never spent anytime with my parents either. Even if they do something for my daughter they exclude my other 2 kids. If my daughter makes good grades on her report card they will get her a gift or money. My other two kids also makes the honor roll at school and they do even get a good job said to them. It just hurts me so bad. my brother and my oldest sister lives out of state. Only my twin and another one of my older sisters leave near me. My twin and her husband don't exactly treat my family kind either. I am close to my next to oldest sister and she loves my husband and my kids. It's just very disappointing and hurtful. i would never do this to any of my kids and grandchildren, blood or not.
H.a.l.a RNY 5/14/2008 Lost over 100 lbs, now app 162-166..
Maintenance phase of my life; size : 6-10 (depends on a brand)
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell..."
"So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
This is my very first post in the forums. I see a lot of support and help here and I am grateful that I have found this site.
I am about to go to my first information session. I have done a lot of reading and research, so if permitted I will be choosing WLS.
One thing that has been bothering me is how my over weight 23 year old daughter will feel about this. She is very quiet and doesn't share her feelings very well. I think this is the only thing that I am truly worried about.
My husband is overweight and I don't think he will be bothered either way.
Has anyone else dealt with this situation?
The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
Dr's Ref - Aug 9, 2012; Orient - Feb 27/13; NP - Mar 19/13; SW Mar 21/13 NUT Mar 22/13; Sleep Test Apr 11/13; 2nd NUT Apr 23/13; Sleep Ed Apr 24/13; 2nd Sleep Ed May 1; Ab Ultra Sound Apr 29/13; 3rd NUT Jun 7/13; Sleep Dr Jun 18/13; Scope July 9;
I agree that we ALL need to take care of ourselves to do our best from not being a burden to our partners. I get frustrated with my boyfriend for not taking care of himself (we've known each other 20 years, so he is really more than just a "bf"). He has supported me when I was fat, when I was thin, when I had floppy skin, and now with scars. He is wonderful. But he does not take care of himself. It irritates the snot out of me. I tell him all the time I am busting my ass taking care of myself so we can have a wonderful retirement together, but how will I enjoy it if he is DEAD????? I can be dramatic, I admit. He is trying to do better, but I know I cannot make him make better choices as far as food and exercise are concerned.
When it comes to New Year's resolutions, our family members and friends can get quite creative and even funny with what they resolve to do in the New Year. Here a few good ones I have heard along the way...Oh, and a few of my own!
1. I resolve to stop procrastinating about procrastinating!
2. I will stop sending Facebook messages and emails to my loved ones when they are in the same room as I am!
3. I will use my treadmill for something other than a place to hang my jacket.
4. I will not sit at the kitchen table in my PJ's all day. Instead, I will move my computer to my bedroom.
5. I vow to never take a laxative and a sleeping pill on the same night!
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So we weathered the storm of the first year.... and now in year 2, I feel my marriage slipping. It's not due to crazy hormones or to my changed body - - he's always loved me no matter what size I was - - but due to his health issues. My husband has anxiety and Ulcerative Colitis and has struggled with managing those for the past year. It takes a toll on me. Has anyone else felt less of their spouse for not taking proactive efforts on their own health? As I write that sentence, I can see how it applies to the years I was morbidly obese and not really doing much to change it.....I guess what I really need is a resurgence of hope, a reason to stick this out and not let resentment take hold. (and to be clear, what I resent is when a lot of self-inflicted pain comes from issues he doesn't take initiative to get a hold of. Believe me, I know how crippling anxiety is - - both personally and professionally - - but when one has the tools to do something about what pains them and NOT using those tools is painful, why not DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT??). Any help would be appreciated...
I am still around. She didn't have any complications. She was 280 (ish) and now down just under 170. You MUST exercise with this procedure, I'd say. She has not and has leveled off at this weight since about to yrs ago. Also, she does not still measure what she eats, which is (and she agrees) is a mistake. She is still comfortable with her weight, as I and the rest of her family are.
So with that said, IMO...her gambling paid off. My wife, and it is still my firm belief, could have exercised who weight off. She, plain and simple, is lazy in this respect. She reads what I write and she would agree. If you are obese, because of your genetics, this is the way to go...not because you don't know how to put down your fork. This is self discipline. Sorry to hear the rest of you, who had problems. Take care.
well I see your post was written 3 years ago, so chances are you're no longer around. But I'll give it a shot. I have a similiar story, my BF had decided to have the surgery, on a self pay, using funds that were going towards our retirement. I have been with him 9 yrs and live with him now 3.5 years. he also doesn't exercise, and starts a diet only to quit in a month or so. I've seen him steadily lose on a diet, but if it's only a pound or two a week he feels he's depriving himself for only that?
let me know if you're still around, I've very curious as to how things worked out. Tia
My R-n-Y will be 3 years in April. I am scheduled the 19 th to be scoped for stricture for the third time. Last August I had a stricture.
It does happen more than 12 months out. She needs to talk with her surgeon. My husband went in to see my surgeon with me.
It didn't matter what I ate, after 2-3 bites I would have to excuse myself from the table. Once they dilated me I was back on track.
I have lost 130 pounds and stabilized. I would definitely talk to her surgeon.
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