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RHONDA FROM KY’s Posts
Topic: RE: Just droppin by..
Wonderful to see and hear from you Vickie
I hope all is going well in your life!!
Wonderful to see and hear from you Vickie
I hope all is going well in your life!! It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: Just droppin by..
to see if anyone ever lurks here anymore......
HI 
Hope everyone has a wonder 2010 New Year..
what's up?
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
04/23 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
No matter what it is that seems to be our need or problem, we can find something to rejoice in, something for which to give thanks. It is not God who needs to be thanked, but we who need to be thankful. Thankfulness opens new doors to good in our life. Thankfulness creates a new heart and a new spirit in us. DO I KEEP MYSELF AWARE OF THE MANY BLESSINGS THAT COME TO ME EACH DAY AND REMEMBER TO BE THANKFUL FOR THEM?
TODAY I PRAY
May God fill me with a spirit of thankfulness. When I express my thanks, however fumbling, to God or to another human being, I am not only being gracious to Him or that other person for helping me, but I am also giving myself the greatest reward of all -- a thankful heart. May I not forget either the transitive "to thank", directed at someone else, or the intransitive "giving thanks," which fills my own great need.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Thank and give thanks.
No matter what it is that seems to be our need or problem, we can find something to rejoice in, something for which to give thanks. It is not God who needs to be thanked, but we who need to be thankful. Thankfulness opens new doors to good in our life. Thankfulness creates a new heart and a new spirit in us. DO I KEEP MYSELF AWARE OF THE MANY BLESSINGS THAT COME TO ME EACH DAY AND REMEMBER TO BE THANKFUL FOR THEM?
TODAY I PRAY
May God fill me with a spirit of thankfulness. When I express my thanks, however fumbling, to God or to another human being, I am not only being gracious to Him or that other person for helping me, but I am also giving myself the greatest reward of all -- a thankful heart. May I not forget either the transitive "to thank", directed at someone else, or the intransitive "giving thanks," which fills my own great need.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Thank and give thanks.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
04/21 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Can I be wholeheartedly grateful for today? If so, I'm opening doors to more and more abundant good. What if I can't be thankful for the "rain" that has fallen in my life -- for the so-called bad times? What then? I can begin by giving thanks for all the sunshine I can remember, and for every blessing that has come my way. Perhaps then I'll be able to look back over the rainy periods of my life with new vision, seeing them as necessary; perhaps then, hidden blessings I've overlooked will come to my attention. AM I GRATEFUL FOR ALL OF LIFE -- BOTH THE SUNSHINE AND RAIN?
TODAY I PRAY
May I be grateful for all that has happened to me, good and bad. Bad helps to define good. Sorrow intensifies joy. Humility brings spirituality. Disease turns health into a paradise. Loneliness makes love, both human and Divine, the greatest gift of all. I thank God for the contrasts which have made me know Him better.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I am grateful for the whole of life.
Can I be wholeheartedly grateful for today? If so, I'm opening doors to more and more abundant good. What if I can't be thankful for the "rain" that has fallen in my life -- for the so-called bad times? What then? I can begin by giving thanks for all the sunshine I can remember, and for every blessing that has come my way. Perhaps then I'll be able to look back over the rainy periods of my life with new vision, seeing them as necessary; perhaps then, hidden blessings I've overlooked will come to my attention. AM I GRATEFUL FOR ALL OF LIFE -- BOTH THE SUNSHINE AND RAIN?
TODAY I PRAY
May I be grateful for all that has happened to me, good and bad. Bad helps to define good. Sorrow intensifies joy. Humility brings spirituality. Disease turns health into a paradise. Loneliness makes love, both human and Divine, the greatest gift of all. I thank God for the contrasts which have made me know Him better.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I am grateful for the whole of life.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
04/18 REFLECTIONS FOR THE DAY
We in The Program know full well the futility of trying to overcome our addictions by will-power alone. At the same time, we do know that it takes great willingness to adopt The Program's Twelve Steps as a way of life that can restore us to sanity. No matter how severe our addictions, we discover with relief that choices can still be made. For example, we can choose to admit that we're personally powerless over chemical dependency; that dependence upon a Higher Power is a necessity, even if this be simply dependence upon our group in The Program. HAVE I CHOSEN TO TRY FOR A LIFE OF HONESTY AND HUMILITY, OF SELFLESS SERVICE TO MY FELLOWS AND TO GOD AS I UNDERSTAND HIM?
TODAY I PRAY
God grant me the wisdom to know the difference between "will-power" (which has failed me before) and "willingness" to seek help for my dependency, through Him and through others who are also recovering. May I know, that there are choices open to me as there are to my fellow-sufferers in the foggiest stages of addiction. May I choose the kind of life God wants for me.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Willingness, more than will-power, is the key to recovery.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
04/13 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Any number of addicted people are bedeviled by the dire conviction that if they ever go near The Program -- whether by attending meetings or talking one-to-one with a member -- they'll be pressured to conform to some particular brand of faith or religion. They don't realize that faith is never an imperative for membership in The Program; that freedom from addiction can be achieved with an easily acceptable minimum of it; and that our concepts of a Higher Power and God -- as we understand Him -- afford everyone a nearly unlimited choice of spiritual belief and action. AM I RECEIVING STRENGTH BY SHARING WITH NEWCOMERS?
TODAY I PRAY
May I never frighten newcomers or keep away those who are considering coming to The Program by "laying on them" my particular, personal ideas about a Higher Power. May each discover his or her own spiritual identity. May all find within themselves a link with some great universal Being or Spirit whose power is greater than theirs individually. May I grow, both in tolerance and in spirituality, every day.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I will reach, not preach.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
APRIL 12 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
If we attempt to understand rather than to be understood, we can more quickly assure a newcomer that we have no desire to convince anyone that there is only one way by which faith can be acquired. All of us, whatever our race, creed, color or ethnic heritage are the children of a living Creator, with whom we may form a relationship upon simple and understandable terms--as soon as we are willing and honest enough to try. Do I know the difference between sympathy and empathy? Can I put myself in the newcomer's shoes?
TODAY I PRAY
May I try to love all humanity as children of a living God. May I respect the different ways through which they find and worship Him. May I never be so rigid as to discount another's path to God or so insensitive that I use the fellowship of the group as a preaching ground to extol my religious beliefs as the only way. I can only know what works for me.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
We are all children of God.
If we attempt to understand rather than to be understood, we can more quickly assure a newcomer that we have no desire to convince anyone that there is only one way by which faith can be acquired. All of us, whatever our race, creed, color or ethnic heritage are the children of a living Creator, with whom we may form a relationship upon simple and understandable terms--as soon as we are willing and honest enough to try. Do I know the difference between sympathy and empathy? Can I put myself in the newcomer's shoes?
TODAY I PRAY
May I try to love all humanity as children of a living God. May I respect the different ways through which they find and worship Him. May I never be so rigid as to discount another's path to God or so insensitive that I use the fellowship of the group as a preaching ground to extol my religious beliefs as the only way. I can only know what works for me.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
We are all children of God.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL NOT RELIGIOUS~ A DAY AT A TIME
04/11 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
I came; I came to; I came to believe. The Program has enabled me to learn that deep down in every man, woman and child is the fundamental idea of a God. It may be obscured by pomp, by calamity, by worship of other things, but in some form or other it is there. For faith in a Power greater than ourselves, and miraculous demonstrations of the Power in human lives are facts as old as man himself. HOW WELL DO I SHARE MY FREE GIFTS?
TODAY I PRAY
I pray that I may continue to look for -- and find -- the Godliness that is in me and in every other person, no matter how it is obscured. May I be aware that the consciousness of a Higher Power has been present in man since he was first given the power to reason, no matter what name he gave to it or how he sought to reach it. May my own faith in a Higher Power be reinforced by the experience of all mankind -- and by the working of His gracious miracles in my own life.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
God is in us all.
My heart and prayers go out for Captain Richard Phillips and for all other hostages captured by pirates. What a courageous man he is for turning himself over for the safety of his men. To ME.. he has demonstrated great Godliness in himself. His family and loved ones must be so proud of him. God please watch over him.. ~Amen~
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
Sorry I've missed posting. Here is yesterdays and today's reading. Both are very strong and what I keep telling myself when my mind begins to wonder.. What if..
03/21 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
The Program teaches us that we have an incurable illness. We always get worse, never better. But we're fortunate in that our incurable illness can be arrested, so long as we don't take the first drink one day at a time. Hightoned academic research and ivorytower studies to the contrary, we know from experience that we can no more control our drinking than we can control the ocean tides. DO I HAVE ANY DOUBT THAT I AM POWERLESS OVER ALCOHOL?
TODAY I PRAY
May I never fall prey to any short-term research results which tell me that alcoholism can be cured, that I would be safe to begin drinking again, supposedly, in a responsible manner. My experience--and the experience of those in The Program -- will outshout such theories. May I know that my disease is arrestable, but not curable. May I know that if I took up my active addiction again, I would begin where I left off -- closer than ever to possible death or insanity.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Be wary of new theories.
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03/22 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Once in a great while, I find myself thinking that perhaps things weren't quite so bad as they seemed to be. At such moments, I force myself to realize that my ILLNESS is talking to me, trying to tempt me into denying that I am, in fact, afflicted with an illness. One of the key action steps of The Program is that we give our illness to God as we understand Him, accepting our powerlessness in the face of His greater Power. DO I BELIEVE THAT THE GRACE OF GOD CAN DO FOR ME WHAT I COULD NEVER DO FOR MYSELF?
TODAY I PRAY
May I know that much of our lives depend on faith. For we cannot know the limits of space and time -- or explain the mysteries of life and death. But when we see God working through us -- and through others who have found new life in The Program -- it is all the evidence we need to know that He exists.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The Big Wheel runs by faith.
AA online website..
http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
ALANON online website
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
MENTAL HEALTH FORUM of Obesityhelp
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/mental-health/
03/21 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
The Program teaches us that we have an incurable illness. We always get worse, never better. But we're fortunate in that our incurable illness can be arrested, so long as we don't take the first drink one day at a time. Hightoned academic research and ivorytower studies to the contrary, we know from experience that we can no more control our drinking than we can control the ocean tides. DO I HAVE ANY DOUBT THAT I AM POWERLESS OVER ALCOHOL?
TODAY I PRAY
May I never fall prey to any short-term research results which tell me that alcoholism can be cured, that I would be safe to begin drinking again, supposedly, in a responsible manner. My experience--and the experience of those in The Program -- will outshout such theories. May I know that my disease is arrestable, but not curable. May I know that if I took up my active addiction again, I would begin where I left off -- closer than ever to possible death or insanity.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Be wary of new theories.
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03/22 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Once in a great while, I find myself thinking that perhaps things weren't quite so bad as they seemed to be. At such moments, I force myself to realize that my ILLNESS is talking to me, trying to tempt me into denying that I am, in fact, afflicted with an illness. One of the key action steps of The Program is that we give our illness to God as we understand Him, accepting our powerlessness in the face of His greater Power. DO I BELIEVE THAT THE GRACE OF GOD CAN DO FOR ME WHAT I COULD NEVER DO FOR MYSELF?
TODAY I PRAY
May I know that much of our lives depend on faith. For we cannot know the limits of space and time -- or explain the mysteries of life and death. But when we see God working through us -- and through others who have found new life in The Program -- it is all the evidence we need to know that He exists.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
The Big Wheel runs by faith.
AA online website..
http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
ALANON online website
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
MENTAL HEALTH FORUM of Obesityhelp
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/mental-health/
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
03-15 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
There have been days during my recovery when just about everything seemed bleak and even hopeless. I allowed myself to become depressed and angry. I see now that it doesn't matter what I think, and it doesn't matter how I feel. It's what I do that counts. So when I become anxious or upset, I try to get into action by going to meetings, participating, and working with others in The Program. IF GOD SEEMS FAR AWAY, WHO MOVED?
TODAY I PRAY
May I not be immobilized by sadness or anger to the point of despair. May I look for the roots of despair in my tangle of emotions, sort out the tangle, pull out the culprit feelings, acknowledge that they belong to me. Only then can I get into gear, take action, begin to accomplish. May I learn to make use of the energy generated by anger to strengthen my will and achieve my goals.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To sort out my feelings.
There have been days during my recovery when just about everything seemed bleak and even hopeless. I allowed myself to become depressed and angry. I see now that it doesn't matter what I think, and it doesn't matter how I feel. It's what I do that counts. So when I become anxious or upset, I try to get into action by going to meetings, participating, and working with others in The Program. IF GOD SEEMS FAR AWAY, WHO MOVED?
TODAY I PRAY
May I not be immobilized by sadness or anger to the point of despair. May I look for the roots of despair in my tangle of emotions, sort out the tangle, pull out the culprit feelings, acknowledge that they belong to me. Only then can I get into gear, take action, begin to accomplish. May I learn to make use of the energy generated by anger to strengthen my will and achieve my goals.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To sort out my feelings.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
TWO FOR ONE TODAY... Yesterdays and todays..
03-13 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
All my life, I looked to others for comfort, security and all the other things that add up to what I now call serenity. But I've come to realize that I was always looking in the wrong place. The source of serenity is not outside, but within myself, The Kingdom is within me, and I already have the key. All I have to do is to be willing to use it. AM I USING THE TOOLS OF THE PROGRAM ON A DAILY BASIS? AM I WILLING?
TODAY I PRAY
God gave me the courage to seek out the kingdom inside myself, to find that well-spring within me which has its source in the never-ending, life-giving river of God. May my soul be restored there. May I find the serenity I seek.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To see the inner kingdom.
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03-14 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
One thing that keeps me on the right track today is a feeling of loyalty to other members of The Program, no matter where they may be. We depend on each other. I know, for example, that I'd be letting them down if I ever took a drink. When I came into The Program, I found a group of people who were not only helping each other to stay sober, but who were loyal to each other by staying sober themselves. AM I LOYAL TO MY GROUP AND TO MY FRIENDS IN THE PROGRAM?
TODAY I PRAY
I thank God for the loyalty and fellowship of the group and for the mutuality of commitment that binds us together. May I give to the group in the same proportion that I take from it. Having been a taker during so many of my years, my giving used to be no more than a commodity, for which I expected to be paid in approval or love or favors. May I learn the joy of pure giving, with no strings attached, no expectation of reward.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
A perfect gift asks nothing in return.
03-13 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
All my life, I looked to others for comfort, security and all the other things that add up to what I now call serenity. But I've come to realize that I was always looking in the wrong place. The source of serenity is not outside, but within myself, The Kingdom is within me, and I already have the key. All I have to do is to be willing to use it. AM I USING THE TOOLS OF THE PROGRAM ON A DAILY BASIS? AM I WILLING?
TODAY I PRAY
God gave me the courage to seek out the kingdom inside myself, to find that well-spring within me which has its source in the never-ending, life-giving river of God. May my soul be restored there. May I find the serenity I seek.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To see the inner kingdom.
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03-14 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
One thing that keeps me on the right track today is a feeling of loyalty to other members of The Program, no matter where they may be. We depend on each other. I know, for example, that I'd be letting them down if I ever took a drink. When I came into The Program, I found a group of people who were not only helping each other to stay sober, but who were loyal to each other by staying sober themselves. AM I LOYAL TO MY GROUP AND TO MY FRIENDS IN THE PROGRAM?
TODAY I PRAY
I thank God for the loyalty and fellowship of the group and for the mutuality of commitment that binds us together. May I give to the group in the same proportion that I take from it. Having been a taker during so many of my years, my giving used to be no more than a commodity, for which I expected to be paid in approval or love or favors. May I learn the joy of pure giving, with no strings attached, no expectation of reward.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
A perfect gift asks nothing in return.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: How do I help my mom who has already had surgery?
MO only...
Your mother has to live with the consequences of her own actions rather she is behaving appropriately or not with her dieting skills. You can continue to love your mother and share her grandchild with her but if you are not comfortable doing that at a food court then don't.
From what I can remember right after my surgery.. (it was 5 years ago).. I had such head hunger. I would watch the food channel constantly and never watched it before. I would long to eat a big boy from Frisches.. or a big mac from McDonalds. Once (I dont' remember how far out.. it may have been about a month) I wanted onion rings from Frisches. I went and got them and ate a couple. It didn't taste the same.. not as good. It satisfied my urge to have them and I realized they didn't taste as good as what my head was telling me. Have I had any since.. YES.. I'm 5 years out. I know it's not a good choice, but I have to learn to work my WLS and eating habits if I want to maintain my weight. It's hard.. but I have to do it. Not have my mother (which she does).. tell me that I'm gaining weight. I KNOW when I am.. as I did before WLS. It's up to ME to work it or suffer the consequences of my actions.
Not long out from my surgery I went to see my surgeon and told him I'm having trouble keeping protein down. It's dense.. and it hurts the pouch and I would throw up. He recommended chili from Wendy's. Said that it cooks a very long time and the density of it breaks down and is easier on our pouch to digest. I also not long out had mashed potatoe with gravy from KFC.. other food does not digest well.. and it was a comfort food that soothed the taste buds and didn't hurt the stomach.
MO.. you mother will be experimenting for a long time on what foods she can tolerate.. and what she can't. I before didn't like many veggies.. brussel sprouts.. red peppers.. kale.. and now I love them. I use to love fast food burgers.. and now I don't cuz I find too many grizzles in them.. but I experimented and found all this out.
Keep trying to encourage your mother to do healthy activities.. walking.. hiking.. etc. Exercise is important. Transferring a food addiction into a more healthy addiction. Perhaps.. even meet at the food court allow her to have her lunch and then go walking the mall. Any activity at this point is probably more than what she had before. She's fairly new out.. her body will lose weight but she will have a bigger change going on emotionally.
There are plenty who have had the surgery and maintain.. and some gain their weight back, but it really is up to your mother in the end.. no matter how bad you want it for her it's her doing! If she gains it back.. will you no longer love her or allow her to see her grandchild because she failed..? and trust me.. many of us have that fear all on our own.. we don't need to be reminded of it from anyone else of the possibility.
It's really wonderful that you care so much to come here and ask how to give her the support. Just love her and encourage her positively. Best wishes!!
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02-22 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
When I came to The Program, I found people who knew exactly what I meant when I spoke finally of my fears. They had been where I had been; they UNDERSTOOD. I've since learned that many of my fears have to do with projection. It's normal, for example, to have a tiny "back-burner" fear that the person I love will leave me. But when the fear takes precedence over my present and very real relationship with the person I'm afraid of losing, then I'm in trouble. My responsibility to myself includes this: I must not fear things which do not exist. AM I CHANGING FROM A FEARFUL PERSON INTO A FEARLESS PERSON?
TODAY I PRAY
I ask God's help in waving away my fears -- those figments, fantasies, monstrous thoughts, projections of disaster which have no bearing on the present. May I narrow the focus of my imagination and concentrate on the here-and-now, for I tend to see the future through a magnifying glass.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Projected fears, like shadows, are larger than life.
When I came to The Program, I found people who knew exactly what I meant when I spoke finally of my fears. They had been where I had been; they UNDERSTOOD. I've since learned that many of my fears have to do with projection. It's normal, for example, to have a tiny "back-burner" fear that the person I love will leave me. But when the fear takes precedence over my present and very real relationship with the person I'm afraid of losing, then I'm in trouble. My responsibility to myself includes this: I must not fear things which do not exist. AM I CHANGING FROM A FEARFUL PERSON INTO A FEARLESS PERSON?
TODAY I PRAY
I ask God's help in waving away my fears -- those figments, fantasies, monstrous thoughts, projections of disaster which have no bearing on the present. May I narrow the focus of my imagination and concentrate on the here-and-now, for I tend to see the future through a magnifying glass.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Projected fears, like shadows, are larger than life.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02/21 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Do I waste my time and energy wrestling with situations that aren't actually worth a second thought? Like Don Quixote, the bemused hero of Spanish literature, do I imagine windmills as menacing giants, battling them until I am ready to drop from exhaustion? Today, I'll not allow my imagination to build small troubles into big ones. I'll try to see each situation clearly, giving it only the value and attention it deserves. HAVE I COME TO BELIEVE, AS THE SECOND OF THE TWELVE STEPS SUGGESTS, THAT A POWER GREATER THAN MYSELF CAN RESTORE ME TO SANITY?
TODAY I PRAY
God, keep my perspective sane. Help me to avoid aggrandizing petty problems, tying too much significance to casual conversations, making a Vesuvius out of an anthill. Keep my fears from swelling out of scale, like shadows on a wall. Restore my values, which became distorted during the days of my chemical involvement.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Sanity is perspective.
I read a quote yesterday that got me thinking..
"People never improve unless they look to some standard or example higher or better than themselves." Tyrone Edwards
It made me think... in AA they say you must believe in a Power higher than yourself. It doesn't matter who or what that power is.. but you must find one. Some who don't believe in God will find that power in The Group of AA as a whole. That the group is stronger than themself. After reading that quote I think it makes more sense to me now..
If you don't have a Higher Power.. find one
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
Per an email I realize how much these posting mean to some. Sorry I've slacked the past couple days.. and I thank YOU so much for making me aware of it. It helps keep me sober.
02-19 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
When a person says something rash or ugly, we sometimes say they are "forgetting themselves," meaning they're forgetting their BEST selves in a sudden outburst of uncontrolled fury. If I remember the kind of person I want to be, hopefully I won't "forget myself" and yield to a fit of temper. I'll believe that the positive always defeats the negative: courage overcomes fear; patience overcomes anger and irritability; love overcomes hatred. AM I ALWAYS STRIVING FOR IMPROVEMENT?
TODAY I PRAY
Today I ask that God, to Whom all things are possible, help me turn negatives into positives--anger into super-energy, fear into a chance to be courageous, hatred into love. May I take time out to remember examples of such positive-from-negative transformations from the whole of my lifetime. Uppermost is God's miracle: my freedom from the slavery of addiction.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Turn negatives into positives.
.. yesterday I became mad.. frustrated at a cowork who is also a friend over something she did/said. I then said something out of haste to just be spiteful. It bothered me the remainder of the day and last night altho I was still angry. This morning when I went in she was there. I said Hi.. and we talked very casual cold. I then told her.. I want to apologize to you for yesterday for being spiteful. I was angry but should not have said what I did. She apologized also and we are good buddies again. IT WAS EASY.. usually I NEVER can say I'm sorry. But I did.. (thinking of the A DAY AT A TIME past few days talking about anger) and it was easy.
who knew that this stuff really does work. I'M LIVING PROOF.. a work in progress.. but living proof!!
02-19 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
When a person says something rash or ugly, we sometimes say they are "forgetting themselves," meaning they're forgetting their BEST selves in a sudden outburst of uncontrolled fury. If I remember the kind of person I want to be, hopefully I won't "forget myself" and yield to a fit of temper. I'll believe that the positive always defeats the negative: courage overcomes fear; patience overcomes anger and irritability; love overcomes hatred. AM I ALWAYS STRIVING FOR IMPROVEMENT?
TODAY I PRAY
Today I ask that God, to Whom all things are possible, help me turn negatives into positives--anger into super-energy, fear into a chance to be courageous, hatred into love. May I take time out to remember examples of such positive-from-negative transformations from the whole of my lifetime. Uppermost is God's miracle: my freedom from the slavery of addiction.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Turn negatives into positives.
.. yesterday I became mad.. frustrated at a cowork who is also a friend over something she did/said. I then said something out of haste to just be spiteful. It bothered me the remainder of the day and last night altho I was still angry. This morning when I went in she was there. I said Hi.. and we talked very casual cold. I then told her.. I want to apologize to you for yesterday for being spiteful. I was angry but should not have said what I did. She apologized also and we are good buddies again. IT WAS EASY.. usually I NEVER can say I'm sorry. But I did.. (thinking of the A DAY AT A TIME past few days talking about anger) and it was easy.
who knew that this stuff really does work. I'M LIVING PROOF.. a work in progress.. but living proof!! It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: HAPPY BIRTHDAY..
HEY... I've missed you flirtin with me ole man..
you sexy stud you.. hubba hubba..
love ya
HEY... I've missed you flirtin with me ole man..
you sexy stud you.. hubba hubba..love ya
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02-15 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
When I become angry, can I admit to it and state it as a fact without allowing it to build up and burst out in inappropriate ways? Pent-up anger, I've finally begun to learn, quickly shatters the peace of mind that's so critical to my on-going recovery. When I become enraged and lose control. I unwittingly hand over control to the person, place, or thing with which I am enraged. WHEN I'M ANGRY WILL I TRY TO REMEMBER THAT I AM ENDANGERING MYSELF? WILL I "COUNT TO TEN" BY CALLING A FRIEND IN THE PROGRAM AND SAY THE SERENITY PRAYER ALOUD?
TODAY I PRAY
May I recognize angry feelings and let them out a little a time, stating my anger as a fact, instead of allowing it to fester into rage and explode uncontrollably.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Anger is. Rage need not be.
When I become angry, can I admit to it and state it as a fact without allowing it to build up and burst out in inappropriate ways? Pent-up anger, I've finally begun to learn, quickly shatters the peace of mind that's so critical to my on-going recovery. When I become enraged and lose control. I unwittingly hand over control to the person, place, or thing with which I am enraged. WHEN I'M ANGRY WILL I TRY TO REMEMBER THAT I AM ENDANGERING MYSELF? WILL I "COUNT TO TEN" BY CALLING A FRIEND IN THE PROGRAM AND SAY THE SERENITY PRAYER ALOUD?
TODAY I PRAY
May I recognize angry feelings and let them out a little a time, stating my anger as a fact, instead of allowing it to fester into rage and explode uncontrollably.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Anger is. Rage need not be.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02-14 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
Today I will take the time to list the positive aspects of my new life and the blessings that accompany the miracle of my recovery. I will be grateful for the seemingly simple ability to eat normally, to fall asleep with a feeling of contentment, to awaken with a gladness to be alive. I will be grateful for the ability to face life on life's terms -- with peace of mind, self-respect, and full possession of all my faculties. ON A DAILY BASIS, DO I COUNT MY BLESSINGS? DO I SEEK THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDITATION TO IMPROVE MY CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD AS I UNDERSTAND HIM?
TODAY I PRAY
On this day of love-giving, may I count all the good things in my life and give thanks for them. May I take no blessing for granted, including the beating of my own heart and the fresh feel of new air as I breathe.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To count -- and consider -- my blessings.
I want to publically thank a friend who is emailing me with her life situation. YOU are blessing to me .. and I thank you for sharing with me!! It helps me in my sobriety hun. You take care of yourself.. and I will keep YOU and YOUR loved one in my prayers!!
Today I will take the time to list the positive aspects of my new life and the blessings that accompany the miracle of my recovery. I will be grateful for the seemingly simple ability to eat normally, to fall asleep with a feeling of contentment, to awaken with a gladness to be alive. I will be grateful for the ability to face life on life's terms -- with peace of mind, self-respect, and full possession of all my faculties. ON A DAILY BASIS, DO I COUNT MY BLESSINGS? DO I SEEK THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDITATION TO IMPROVE MY CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD AS I UNDERSTAND HIM?
TODAY I PRAY
On this day of love-giving, may I count all the good things in my life and give thanks for them. May I take no blessing for granted, including the beating of my own heart and the fresh feel of new air as I breathe.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
To count -- and consider -- my blessings.
I want to publically thank a friend who is emailing me with her life situation. YOU are blessing to me .. and I thank you for sharing with me!! It helps me in my sobriety hun. You take care of yourself.. and I will keep YOU and YOUR loved one in my prayers!!
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02/13 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
We sometimes hear someone say, "He is standing in his own light." A mental picture then clearly reveals that many of us tend to shadow our own happiness by mistaken thinking. Let us learn to stand aside so the light can shine on us and all we do. For only then can we see ourselves and our cir****tances with true clarity. With The Program and the Twelve Steps, we no longer need to stand in our own light and try alone to solve our problems in darkness. WHEN I AM FACED WITH A SEEMINGLY INSOLUBLE PROBLEM, WILL I ASK MYSELF IF I AM STANDING IN MY OWN LIGHT?
TODAY I PRAY
May I not get in my own way, obscure my own clarity of thought, stumble over my own feet, block my own doorway to recovery. If I find that I am standing in my own light, may I ask my Higher Power and my friends in the group to show me a new vantage point.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
If all I can see is my shadow, I'm in my own light.
http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Prayers requested for a friend's son who we may be taking to inpt rehab this evening!!
We sometimes hear someone say, "He is standing in his own light." A mental picture then clearly reveals that many of us tend to shadow our own happiness by mistaken thinking. Let us learn to stand aside so the light can shine on us and all we do. For only then can we see ourselves and our cir****tances with true clarity. With The Program and the Twelve Steps, we no longer need to stand in our own light and try alone to solve our problems in darkness. WHEN I AM FACED WITH A SEEMINGLY INSOLUBLE PROBLEM, WILL I ASK MYSELF IF I AM STANDING IN MY OWN LIGHT?
TODAY I PRAY
May I not get in my own way, obscure my own clarity of thought, stumble over my own feet, block my own doorway to recovery. If I find that I am standing in my own light, may I ask my Higher Power and my friends in the group to show me a new vantage point.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
If all I can see is my shadow, I'm in my own light.
http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Prayers requested for a friend's son who we may be taking to inpt rehab this evening!!
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: HAPPY BIRTHDAY..
if my social networking date is correct.. 
Today is *my* babies momma's BIRTHDAY..
DAWN..
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY.... DEAR BABIES MOMMAAAA
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!
Hope you had a wonderful day sweetie.
Today is *my* babies momma's BIRTHDAY..
DAWN..HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY.... DEAR BABIES MOMMAAAA
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!
Hope you had a wonderful day sweetie.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02/11 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
I can always take strength and comfort from knowing I belong to a worldwide fellowship. Hundreds and hundreds of thousands, just like myself, are working together for the same purpose. None of us needs to ever be alone again, because each of us in our own way works for the good of others. We are bound together by a common problem that can be solved by love and understanding and mutual service. The Program -- like the little wheel in the old hymn -- runs by the grace of God. HAVE I THANKED GOD TODAY FOR HELPING ME TO FIND THE PROGRAM, WHICH IS SHOWING ME THE WAY TO A NEW LIFE?
TODAY I PRAY
May my thanks be lifted to God each day for dispelling my self-inflicted loneliness, for warming my stoicism, for leading me to the boundless fund of friendship in The Program.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I have a world of friends.
http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
http://www.aagrapevine.org/
I can always take strength and comfort from knowing I belong to a worldwide fellowship. Hundreds and hundreds of thousands, just like myself, are working together for the same purpose. None of us needs to ever be alone again, because each of us in our own way works for the good of others. We are bound together by a common problem that can be solved by love and understanding and mutual service. The Program -- like the little wheel in the old hymn -- runs by the grace of God. HAVE I THANKED GOD TODAY FOR HELPING ME TO FIND THE PROGRAM, WHICH IS SHOWING ME THE WAY TO A NEW LIFE?
TODAY I PRAY
May my thanks be lifted to God each day for dispelling my self-inflicted loneliness, for warming my stoicism, for leading me to the boundless fund of friendship in The Program.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
I have a world of friends.
http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
http://www.aagrapevine.org/
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: AND?
Keep me posted on when you will be in.. I've not heard from Chris in awhile (few weeks). I signed up for a meetup group dining out on the 17th and see that Rhonda D. is going also.
Yepp.. gotta love PERKIE
I know I do.. lol
Yepp.. gotta love PERKIE
I know I do.. lol It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02/09 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
The slogan "Live and Let Live" can be extremely helpful when we are having trouble tolerating other people's behavior. We know for certain that nobody's behavior -- no matter how offensive, distasteful or vicious -- is worth the price of a relapse. Our own recovery is primary, and while we must be unafraid of walking away from people or situations that cause us discomfort, we must also make a special effort to try to understand other people -- especially those who rub us the wrong way. CAN I ACCEPT THE FACT, IN MY RECOVERY, THAT IT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND THAN TO BE UNDERSTOOD?
TODAY I PRAY
When I run headlong into someone's unpleasant behavior, may I first try my best to understand. Then, if my own sobriety seems threatened, may I have the courage to remove myself from the situation.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Live and let live.
The slogan "Live and Let Live" can be extremely helpful when we are having trouble tolerating other people's behavior. We know for certain that nobody's behavior -- no matter how offensive, distasteful or vicious -- is worth the price of a relapse. Our own recovery is primary, and while we must be unafraid of walking away from people or situations that cause us discomfort, we must also make a special effort to try to understand other people -- especially those who rub us the wrong way. CAN I ACCEPT THE FACT, IN MY RECOVERY, THAT IT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND THAN TO BE UNDERSTOOD?
TODAY I PRAY
When I run headlong into someone's unpleasant behavior, may I first try my best to understand. Then, if my own sobriety seems threatened, may I have the courage to remove myself from the situation.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Live and let live.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: AND?
Hi Ron..
.. had my plastic surgery (1/5).. healing now.. and slowly getting myself back out there in society. My cats.. are soo gonna miss me when I finally get out of the house again. LOL.
actually I went out last night to listen to a girl friend sing in her band. She was good.. as was the band. She use to sing karaokie and I did NOT like it. But.. I enjoyed listening to them last nite.
How have you been.. ?? hope the holidays was good to ya
.. had my plastic surgery (1/5).. healing now.. and slowly getting myself back out there in society. My cats.. are soo gonna miss me when I finally get out of the house again. LOL.
actually I went out last night to listen to a girl friend sing in her band. She was good.. as was the band. She use to sing karaokie and I did NOT like it. But.. I enjoyed listening to them last nite.
How have you been.. ?? hope the holidays was good to ya
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
Topic: RE: ~SPIRITUAL~ A DAY AT A TIME
02/08 REFLECTION FOR THE DAY
When we first stopped drinking, using, over-eating, or gambling, it was an enormous relief to find that the people we met in The Program seemed quite different than those apparently hostile masses known as "They." We were met not with criticism and suspicion, but with understanding and concern. However, we still encounter people who get on our nerves, both within The Program and outside it. Obviously, we must begin to accept the fact that there ARE people who'll sometimes say things with which we disagree, or do things we don't like. AM I BEGINNING TO SEE THAT LEARNING TO LIVE WITH DIFFERENCES IS ESSENTIAL TO MY COMFORT AND, IN TURN, TO MY CONTINUING RECOVERY?
TODAY I PRAY
May I recognize that people's differences make our world go around and tolerate people who "rub me the wrong way." May I understand that I must give them room, that some of my hostile attitudes toward others may be leftovers from the unhealthy days when I tended to view others as mobilized against me.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Learn to live with differences.
When we first stopped drinking, using, over-eating, or gambling, it was an enormous relief to find that the people we met in The Program seemed quite different than those apparently hostile masses known as "They." We were met not with criticism and suspicion, but with understanding and concern. However, we still encounter people who get on our nerves, both within The Program and outside it. Obviously, we must begin to accept the fact that there ARE people who'll sometimes say things with which we disagree, or do things we don't like. AM I BEGINNING TO SEE THAT LEARNING TO LIVE WITH DIFFERENCES IS ESSENTIAL TO MY COMFORT AND, IN TURN, TO MY CONTINUING RECOVERY?
TODAY I PRAY
May I recognize that people's differences make our world go around and tolerate people who "rub me the wrong way." May I understand that I must give them room, that some of my hostile attitudes toward others may be leftovers from the unhealthy days when I tended to view others as mobilized against me.
TODAY I WILL REMEMBER
Learn to live with differences.
It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end. ~Ursula K. LeGuin
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