Congrats on getting a surgery date! Yea! As far as your family goes...they are probably a little bit worried for you, and maybe...jealous? I come from a family where everybody is obese, or moridly overweight. Nobody likes change, and anything unfamilar is scary. It is okay to acknowlege those emotions, but dont let them control you. yeah, easier said than done. But...it is possible! :o) Seek out people that DO support you. There are many here that can. They either are, or have been in the exact same boat.
As far as surgery goes...it isnt too bad. :o) lol, I have had A LOT. The weight loss surgery wasnt nearly so bad as like the one I had that is similar to a tummy tuck. :o) BOTH are totally worth it though! With the RNY, I lost over 200 pounds. With the TT...25 pounds..(In 1 day!) They removed ALOT of extra skin. After WLS, I also had to have my gallbladder taken out. Then...I have also had a C-section. So, you see, surgery really really isnt so bad. :o) It is definately doable!
Oh, just in case you were interested, I am 11 1/2 years post op, from RNY. I have never ever regreted it. For me, I was SOOO lucky to have it done when I was young, only 18 years old. The only regret I have EVER heard from folks here, is that they DIDNT have surgery sooner. lol, well, and there is a lot of debate over which WLS is best, but I think it depends on the person, not just the procedure.
Anyways, BEST of luck to you sweetie, I am sure you will be fine. I will be thinking good thoughts for you. Take care,