Yeah, sorry... so few gay people on this forum in general, and so, even less trans.  We can still try to all support each other though!

Hi all.

I am a new member here and was excited to see a section for LGBT! I am trying to not hurry or worry about the process of surgery but I want to have my surgery and get going. I have lost 24 pounds on my own in the last several months and my SWL team is Extremely happy with me but I am so eager to get the surgery done and start seeing real results and living the life I have always wanted and know is available to me as a healthier person. When I make a decision I want to move forward with it ASAP! I know this is a process and life time changes but I want the surgery NOW (talk about instant gratification needed lol). I am just looking for ideas on how to handle the anxiety and fear of waiting.

I have never been successful with weight loss and this is why I am turning to bariatric surgery. Part of me is so excited to be on this journey but another part is scared that somehow this will be taken away from me and I will fail like every other time I have tried. I am so close to my surgery (I just have to meet with the surgeon and get my surgery date.) that the waiting is almost painful. I AM SO READY to have this done and have done all the prelim stuff to get ready. I am taking all suggestions and eating and practicing what I need to do. I keep being told it is a process and this I know but.....I am excited and so afraid that it won't happen. For so long I have not thought a solution to my prison of obesity was possible. This surgery and the changes I have made already have shown me the keys and the door. I just want to get moving and am waiting (not so patiently it seems).  Now that I have hope I am so afraid that it will be taken away. Any suggestions or anyone who has been where I am and would like to comment or offer advice would be gratefully appreciated.

Thanks,

Sarina     

your both look good,congrats on the lost

thank you sweetie

Maybe we can just talk about feeling disconnected to our bodies. Anyone else feel that way from a young age, just because of your size/self-image?

JB

I remember you, I hope you feel better. I too have been post-op for about the same time and I too am developing pain with my RNY. 

We are surviving the changes pretty well. I, too, feel like our relationship suffered more when I was bigger and had lower self-esteem.  I carried our first child, gained a TON of weight, and never lost it.  I was miserable and I think I may have been bringing her down with me.  9.5 months post op, we are doing wonderfully and she is 8 months pregnant with our second. 

It's amazing how the way we view ourselves affects those closest to us so much.

Good luck in your journey! 

Hi everyone, I'm JB.

Before sharing my story, I'd like to know if there are any LGBT forum members who view/viewed WLS as an integral part of their gender transition. Hello? Anyone?

I've just started the insurance process: three weeks with dietician, met the surgeon. Up next: support group, then pre-op dietician, sleep study. My insurance requires three months. I've come out to everyone about the gender issue, every step of the way.

Trans wise, I got my GID letter about three years ago, and was on testosterone for the following year -- but my weight sent my "male" health markers into a tailspin (liver enzymes, cholesterol). Doc pulled me off of the T. At least I'd already had a hysto, but no top surgery yet. Weird thing -- the T didn't turn me into that  20-year-old stud I planned to be; it turned me into a 46-year-old fat guy with medical problems!

I've never felt connected to my bio body. Never. That made it really hard to care about it , invest in it or do anything for it.  Instead, I just coped with the fat dysphoria the same way I coped with the gender dysphoria -- being either pissed off, detached, or in denial.

When I had to stop hormones, I got so depressed that I'd waited too long to change anything. Now, I feel like there's hope.

I have a super supportive wife and kids, and a great job with a built-in dietician and athletic trainer (university). My insurance will cover either the RnY or the sleeve. I need to lose 100 lbs. I'm 5'8" and weigh 280. I'll be 50 in May.

Sure would love to hear from other FtMs or MtFs.

JB

Just stopping in to say Hi. Haven't been on the board for ages. Yesterday was my 5 years out from RNY. Can't believe how the time has flown by....loving life generally. I am eating healthier than ever. Dont feel like a fat person...even inside. Hope you are all doing great, best of luck to you all on the path to becoming who you really are inside,

deb366

Hi Folks! 5 years ago I was very active in this forum. Actually, the forum was hopping at that time. I pop in now and then to see what's up. My life changed with WLS and I have attained many goals since surgery that I would have never without surgery. Overall, I have done quite well with my Lapband. 

Six months ago I began to experience acid reflux frequently. After months of tests, fill, and unfills, I am still waiting for an answer to my Lapband issues. I don't regret the surgery but I  am frustrated on how something that worked so well for me for 4 years is now giving me pains.

I beleive my surgeon is getting close to recommending a solution. I suspect I am headed to a revision surgery. Right now, he is trying everything to keep me from revision. Just goes to show that life does throw us curves. I am glad I changed my life to be more active. It is keeping the weight down. I am just mentally very frustrated.

Tom