Maybe we can just talk about feeling disconnected to our bodies. Anyone else feel that way from a young age, just because of your size/self-image?

JB

I remember you, I hope you feel better. I too have been post-op for about the same time and I too am developing pain with my RNY. 

We are surviving the changes pretty well. I, too, feel like our relationship suffered more when I was bigger and had lower self-esteem.  I carried our first child, gained a TON of weight, and never lost it.  I was miserable and I think I may have been bringing her down with me.  9.5 months post op, we are doing wonderfully and she is 8 months pregnant with our second. 

It's amazing how the way we view ourselves affects those closest to us so much.

Good luck in your journey! 

Hi everyone, I'm JB.

Before sharing my story, I'd like to know if there are any LGBT forum members who view/viewed WLS as an integral part of their gender transition. Hello? Anyone?

I've just started the insurance process: three weeks with dietician, met the surgeon. Up next: support group, then pre-op dietician, sleep study. My insurance requires three months. I've come out to everyone about the gender issue, every step of the way.

Trans wise, I got my GID letter about three years ago, and was on testosterone for the following year -- but my weight sent my "male" health markers into a tailspin (liver enzymes, cholesterol). Doc pulled me off of the T. At least I'd already had a hysto, but no top surgery yet. Weird thing -- the T didn't turn me into that  20-year-old stud I planned to be; it turned me into a 46-year-old fat guy with medical problems!

I've never felt connected to my bio body. Never. That made it really hard to care about it , invest in it or do anything for it.  Instead, I just coped with the fat dysphoria the same way I coped with the gender dysphoria -- being either pissed off, detached, or in denial.

When I had to stop hormones, I got so depressed that I'd waited too long to change anything. Now, I feel like there's hope.

I have a super supportive wife and kids, and a great job with a built-in dietician and athletic trainer (university). My insurance will cover either the RnY or the sleeve. I need to lose 100 lbs. I'm 5'8" and weigh 280. I'll be 50 in May.

Sure would love to hear from other FtMs or MtFs.

JB

Just stopping in to say Hi. Haven't been on the board for ages. Yesterday was my 5 years out from RNY. Can't believe how the time has flown by....loving life generally. I am eating healthier than ever. Dont feel like a fat person...even inside. Hope you are all doing great, best of luck to you all on the path to becoming who you really are inside,

deb366

Hi Folks! 5 years ago I was very active in this forum. Actually, the forum was hopping at that time. I pop in now and then to see what's up. My life changed with WLS and I have attained many goals since surgery that I would have never without surgery. Overall, I have done quite well with my Lapband. 

Six months ago I began to experience acid reflux frequently. After months of tests, fill, and unfills, I am still waiting for an answer to my Lapband issues. I don't regret the surgery but I  am frustrated on how something that worked so well for me for 4 years is now giving me pains.

I beleive my surgeon is getting close to recommending a solution. I suspect I am headed to a revision surgery. Right now, he is trying everything to keep me from revision. Just goes to show that life does throw us curves. I am glad I changed my life to be more active. It is keeping the weight down. I am just mentally very frustrated.

Tom

 

NO YOU are a judgmental IDIOT!!! And YOU and the OP are the TYPES who "Support" people into DEATH! THANK GOD that people like YOU ALL were/are NOT in My Life...I would NOT have a Life...One minute saying GOD has Blessed you and the next saying you are basically "cursed"! It can NOT be both. Either GOD is a lie or she is, guess which one I CHOOSE to believe! The OP does NOT deserve this much time unless she is will to change and DO the work. Peeps like you give people who are begging for help (OTHERWISE why would OP even post) huggs and back strokes and warm fuzzies, and when they die or do something stupid you say "I wonder why?" There are several types of people in the world two types are "Cheer Leaders" and then there are "Coaches". I am a Coach type, if someone says to Me that they do not like something in their life, My response is CHANGE IT...YOU HAVE the Power, and I will help if you want. 

 

Oh, and being a Lesbian in the world is NOT a problem or hard for Me. I have ALWAYS just been ME! I NEVER blew it out of proportion or tried to make it a "Lifestyle". You FIGHT FOR AND LIVE with dignity and respect...and expect that from everyone. YEAH, it IS just that simple!

 

SOOOO don't TRY and tell ME off, I came into this Post for the same reason YOU did, to OFFER support...SHE (OP) has a choice which TYPE of support she needs or wants. People like you only see "black and white" but the world is made up of shades of gray. If someone like YOU had had been MY support system, I would have died; but that is Me, Love is a VERB type person!

Congratulations! And thanks for inspiration. As the pre-surgery nerves kick in, it's really helpful to hear about other people's success on their journey.

Keep up the great work & thanks again!

Marcus,

I had VSG on Sept. 10, 2012 and I can assure you that everything will be just fine with your post surgery sex life.

Trust me, you have nothing to worry about.

Best of luck on your journey,

Utahrob

Hey There:

When You decide that You want to live a quality healthful LIFE...and that you STILL have some Good Stuff to contribute to Society, hit Me up. I come on here now and then. I did not have WLS because I got colon cancer when I began the process, that SAVED and CHANGED My Life for the best! I'm cancer free, lost over 150 lbs and still losing, and most of all I am Healthy, actually healthier than I have been in 25 years. Now, I am getting Physically, Emotionally and Spiritually ready for hip replacements. I gotta have My full mobility back, relatively pain free. I'm wayyyyy to young and pretty to go out w/o swingin'. I got too much left in Me at 58 y.o. and I don't plan on takin nothin with Me when I leave at about 97 y.o.

 

You know why the 'Caged Bird Sings" because it REFUSES to let ANYTHING stop what GOD placed in it to DO! Yeah, Imma be Singing My song no matter what! It took cancer to open My eyes to what is important, and I am Blessed with the Courage to DO what I learned, finally. They call that wisdom, and it took Me My mid 50's to get some.

 

I'm not much for listening to whiners, complainers, totally negative people, haters, peeps who put themselves or others down. So if you decide you got a little time and you want to get a little healthier and happier, and that you have a few years to DO it...hit Me up. I need some place to visit when My "wheels" get fixed.