Well, I don't know if I'd qualify specifically as one who is trans, but my partner of 21 years is.  She had her grs in 2009, and I have had RNY wls. My surgery was in march, 2012 and I am down 135 from my heaviest weight.  We also completely renovated our house this year...which, btw, was harder on our marriage than any of the other changes that we made over the years! Go figure!

so, I understand to some degree all of your issues, at least through  my connectedness with my partner.

i also didn't like my body obviously, and didn't invest anything into it, except pain.  But now, I will tell you...you have the power to change your reality, and it is both scary and amazing to experience a wholly new life.  I say do it...because the last time I looked, we only live once!

have a great weekend!

amy

pictures please!

I wondered where you had gone!  Well, now I know! It does get better...I don't care about food anymore.  Don't crave specific foods, and buy the kind of foods that go down well, and are easy to digest.  I make sure that I have my proteins, fruits and veg, and leave the carbs and other old trigger foods on the shelf.  I wanted this to happen, and it did. 
So, hang on to your hat, because you're in for an exciting ride! Wheeeee.....
Amy

Not jealous......glad you had fun!

thanks Utahrob...I feel fabulous!

bon voyage!

thanks Danny...good luck on your dissertation!
I guess that someone is out there!
Amy

have fun on your cruise...not jealous, not jealous, not jealous....

thanks for your support! i feel like I am making good, positive thinking changes that may just allow me to be successful at ths weight control thing for once!

I have reset my goal.  I am now aiming for a BMI which is considered "normal" for someone of my height.  I am wearing a size 9/10 on the bottom and a M-L on top, which looks good on me at this time.  My doctor thought that I looked good yesterday and suggested that I not get too thin, as I would look unhealthy, and actually might get unhealthy.  So, as I feel really great even now, I have listened to him, and for now, have moved my goal ticker to 159, which puts me at 24.9 BMI.  If my body wants to get smaller after that, I will let it, but I am being mindful of my health, not focussing only on my desire to be skinny. 
Thanks for letting me share.
Amy

Hi Connie,
well, I slept in firstly.  I went back to school on Tuesday - I am a high school teacher, and boy am I tired.  I really haven't had any headspace to do any exercise other than walking the dog once or twice a day...but just waking up in the morning and working all day has been my "exercise".  What has been pretty mind blowing, are the things people are saying to me.  In my ENTIRE life, I have never been so complimented for my appearance.  I have been called TINY by about 10 separate people.  (I am down a further 10 pounds from the pictures in my profile).  Me> TINY???? That word can not be being said to ME?? I am freaked out really. 
so, as for exercise, probably not too much this weekend.  I may walk for a while on my treadmill, maybe not....
I will start soon....
I will.
really.
Have a great weekend everyone!
Amy

Hi Connie,
I am going to visit my old mom today...bringing my pup and we are going to have a nice day...that's all! Not asking too much from myself today, as I had to put down one of my dogs yesterday...and I am still feeling kind of down because of that. 
Hope you have fun at your party! Sounds cool!
Amy

thanks!!  I am sitting here, ready to go to the drop off stop...nearly out the door!  I am taking the ipad, so you never know...I might just post while away!
:)  Amy