Topic: RE: Fierce Fat Femmes?
Wow, good questions. And good responses.
I admit that I have a selfish reason for wanting the surgery - to no longer be fat. But when I started this journey over 3 years ago at age 54, my blood pressure was going up, I had arthritis in my hips, knees and feet, and obstructive sleep apnea. Obesity, diabetes and heart disease run in my family so I felt like I had a big target on my chest and back. So I've made this about changing me, to be healthy and give myself more quality life. I look at my mother who is 88 and has shrunk about 5 inches because she didn't take care of herself throughout the years. She's been very sedentary although has never been morbidly obese. But members of her family, almost every single one, is fat to morbidly obese. I needed to change this pattern for me, and maybe my kids. I needed a tool that was extreme to help me.
Initially, I didn't tell many people about my revision surgery because I was quite chatty about my first surgery, which failed. So I was apprehensive about talking about the second surgery. However, I started a blog where I basically journal and talk about my feelings In dealing with this process and made it public a few weeks ago. I've gotten such a good response from it, I have felt very encouraged and validated by it. It was hard to be open about it as I felt very vulnerable. I guess my point in this is to say that if you feel more comfortable by not telling others, then don't. If you fear a lot of flak and negativity, believe me, it's best to be quiet about it. Eventually, you can share it if you want, but consider what kind of fallout you might have if you told people prior to the surgery. You can get tons of support here and other forums.
Wishing you the very best!
Lap band 03/09; revised to RNY 01/12
Read about my journey at www.journeyofafatwoman.wordpress.com