On March 14, 2010 at 12:48 PM Pacific Time, amystone wrote:
I had surgery Oct. 30, 2008. I lost a total of 43 pounds and have gained back 23 pounds of that.
To top it all off, I was self pay. After all was said and done, I spent 'round about $24,000.00.
I know my husband is pissed, he just doesn't say anything. He wanted to use that money to build a garage onto our house. I wish he had. At least we'd have something to show for it.
Things were going so well the first 6 months. I was losing (slow, but losing) and then stalled for about a month and decided to go in for a small fill. I'm talking .1cc. Then, things started to go downhill from there. I'm not blaming the band. Shoot, 99.9 % of it is all my fault.
I've started back to eating whatever I want. Bread, Sweets. The only thing that I have managed to stick to is not having any sodas. I haven't had one since early October of 2008. I want to go in for a fill, but I'm scared. Like I said, things were fine until I had that last fill. I started having reflux and couldn't get rid of it. I still have it daily, but it is not bad. I have fibromyalgia and can't exercise like I need to.
Please don't think that I am wanting anyone to feel sorry for me. I sure don't feel sorry for myself. I know I need a swift kick in the ass. I just don't know where to start. Any advice?
It's hard getting back on track. Your issue is white carbs. It's time to have a "come to Jezuzzz" meeting with yourself. Either you want weight loss or you don't. It *is* okay if you don't want it, it's not a sin. Some people are exceedingly happy being their current weight.
BUT... if you want to lose weight it's time to pooh or get off the pot. I say this lovingly, I swear. But it's true.
Maybe this would help?
If you seriously want to lose weight, this is what you do.
Go through the house and toss every white carb there. Pitch/give away all flour, sugar, rice, potatos, pasta, and every food item that contains these products. That means bread, crackers, the works. Nobody in your home including your husband needs those foods. I don't care if you throw them away or give them away, just get them out of your house. We don't need "food" treats, it just causes cravings for more "food" treats. Treat yourself to a manicure, a pedicure, a new hair style, a new outfit but we don't need food treats. That is exactly what got us into the position of needing WLS to begin with. What we need is a healthy diet and with any WLS food amounts are so restricted we don't have a right to tell ourselves we DESERVE treats, what we deserve is a nutritionally balanced diet that feeds our body, not our fat cells.
Then you go to this website and buy this workbook:
It's not a diet, it's a solution. You choose your own food plan, this workbook is an interactive book designed to help you understand why we eat the way we do and how YOU can fix your own brain. I'm doing it too, just to stay on track. It's a great resource. Now, you can buy the book new at Barnes & Noble for $17.00 USD but this is cheaper.
Tomorrow... not next week, TOMORROW start on the 5DPT but a low carb version. No creamed soups, this is to get off carbs, not to drink them. Do 2 days of protein shakes with no more than 20gms TOTAL carbs daily. Not net carbs, total carbs. Buy protein shakes you don't need to mix with milk. Don't count calories, I don't care how many calories you have, just don't eat solids and don't go over 20gms carbs daily. Then do 2 days of soft proteins such as fish, tuna, eggs, those kinds of food. Then do 1 day of dense protein such as chicken breast, shrimp, turkey breast, steak, etc.
No more than 20gms of carbs daily for 5 days.
Starting day #6 start adding in veggie carbs. No fruits, you don't need them. If you want something sweet have some berries but no oranges, apples, etc. It's too early for you in your carb withdrawl for that.
Tomorrow moring bright and early you be sitting by your phone waiting for your MD office to open and you schedule a fill.
Daily do your workbook (link posted above). And really really do it, work the workbook, do the daily written exercises. Don't miss a day, it takes 10 minutes.
Do your regular exercises. 20 minutes daily, we ALL have time for that. If you have time to post on message boards you have time to take a 20 minute walk. If you can't walk for 20 minutes than walk for 5 minutes and I mean WALK! Power walking. Each day add a minute. I don't care if you are too tired or not, do it anyway. It's a responsibility you owe to yourself and to your husband for not having a garage.
And $24K for a band? Holy crap, is it made of gold? Look, you have a lot of money, emotions, a garage, and a relationship with your husband invested in this band. Get out there and get it done. Get your life back.
I'd love to hold your hand or pat your head, I do neither well. I'm a bottom line type person. Do it or don't, it's your choice.
Good luck to you.