I never thought about myself as negative and discouraging but apparently when we run across complications with our bands that is who we are - Negative, Discouraging, Sour pusses. We failed our bands and so we want you to as well. Never mind the Band failed us part. To accept that is to accept your own vulnerability.
Anyways I'm just sayin' that maybe we should go from here. I'd love to see the heavenly oasis many people speak of that would exist without us bringing them down. I keep hearing of this other forum where there are all positive band experiences and how positive people doing superbly with their bands have abandoned this site. I'm tellin' you I'd love to see this unfold - this happy, happy, joy, joy group. I'd be shouting off the rooftops myself - get the band, get the band it is awesome, people are doing so well! I'd do that because I know the pain of obesity and want nothing more than for that pain to be lifted even from my enemy.
Don't know if any of you old timers remember a gal named Vanessa? Back in 2005 she would go on and on about how her band failed her. I tell you that I did sympathize - I mean I had issues right out the gate and a non-working band the first 2.5 years. But in my heart of hearts I believed that what was happening to her was somewhat "self-inflicted". I wanted her to get revised to the DS and disappear (she I believe was a self-pay & couldn't afford her dream of a DS). To make me feel better, I thought "why is she fat if she can't eat" - what isn't she telling? I wasn't ready to see or hear her without first making my own alteration of her story. I was going to do this band thing right and Vanessa's woes were hers.
Then when I was at the top of my game, winning at losing - wearing size 6 donated designer jeans by the trunk full Nikki came along and seemed to always cloud my view. I was sorry for her, so sorry she had suffered so much from the band. I wanted this beautiful woman to stand up, stop blubbering, revise, and move forward. I told her so and I was sorry (you know that Nikki - I told ya that! Man oh man I still wish you could revise and be okay and feel the feeling I feel - my stomach sleeved is so lovely). So I do understand not wanting to know - though I was always too clever not to know. I knew. We all know don't we?
I'm not the most present of failed Bandsters on this board but I would be willing to "stop molesting them" with my truth so they can have their Positive Band Forum back. We can just pretend it is all gravy .
So I wonder if you don't see me, us will you be better for it? Was I better for it ? The day came when I could not pretend even if I was doing so.
All the best to you newbies and oldies
Avoid kemmerling, Green Bay, WI