I'm looking deeply into the Lap Band and it seems the safets and most sure way to lose weight...
HOWEVER, my Fiance is not supporting my desicion.
I have an 8 month old and i want to watch him grow up and not sit at the sidelines because of weight.

EVERY time I got to lose weight he tells me how I don't need to and how he loves me the way i am and while that sounds amazing for him loving me no matter what, it isn't... Anytime i mention weightloss it starts a fight. I have a back disorder and with my weight gail it makes it hard to excersice I'm also asthmatic and have slight depression... I was wondering if there is anything I could do to change his mind and make him understand?

Unfortunately there's nothing you can do or say to change his mind- but (not to sound harsh)- are you doing this for you or for him? You're doing it for you. It is MUCH nicer to have support, but as long as you're committed and can deal with his not being on board, do it for YOU and what YOU know you need to do for your health.

I hate to say it, but he may be afraid you'll leave him after you lose weight, he may be jealous, etc- men often have these fears but don't say them as they are not manly, LOL.

Good luck, this was one of the best decisions I've made. Banded 1/26/12, lost over 60 lbs so far (started at 284). 

haha everyone is telling me that >_> I would never do that to him but I guess after this is all said and done he will realise it was what's best.

 It's not a matter of what HE likes. If your weight shortens your life - which certainly is possible for all of us - both he and YOUR CHILD will be without you forever. 

You need to do this for YOU and for that little one.

What can you say to change his mind? "Honey, I love you, but I'm not doing this for you. I'm doing it for me and for him. And would you prefer to have me thinner, or dropping dead early from an obesity-related disease?"

 Well, it is great that he loves you no matter what size you are. I am lucky to have a spouse of 28+ yrs who thinks that about me. But this is about YOU.

Your health is what is important. I did this surgery (band/plication) because of my 3 month granddaughter. I want to be able to walk with her and shop and play. I made the decision to do it for me.  I want to be healthy. Just like you.

All I can say is tell him you love him, and that you need the support and that you will not change (not your heart/mind) but your body will be healthier. 

All the best Bre.

My husband was not supportive either.  I finally just said to him...

"I love you dearly and I know you don't agree with my decision, and for that I'm sorry.  But I am going to have surgery because I'm scared I'm going to have a stroke. And after years of trying, I have not been able to lose weight on my own." 

I even offered to leave him out of it completely if he felt really strongly about not being involved...offered to have a friend take me to the hospital, stay with me if I needed help afterwards, etc....  He came around and was with me every step of the way.

Just approach your guy from a place of love and I bet he'll come around too.  And if he doesn't, still do what's best for you.

ps...that baby of yours is a DOLL FACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 Well thank you! ^_^
He's my first and looks just like his father haha.

I was in your shoes. I wanted the Lap Band. It seemed the safest, and definitely the cheapest. It was the worst mistake of my life. Please research the band. It has a 30% failure rate. My Dr doesn't even do them anymore... Bc she takes 3 out a week!

 if it doesn't work, i can alway get itremoved... so there's that. 
Gastric isn't right for me I know that much.
I was never really "taught" to eat right.

If it doesn't work, it's NOT as easy as just getting the band removed, I can tell you this from experience.

Our bodies are not made of hard plastic. There WILL be damage. I had atrocious nerve damage from the band and you wouldn't even believe the way it affected my body.

The band might be removable, but it's certainly not reversible.

You should never go into lapband surgery thinking that if it doesn't work, you'll just get it removed and go on like you never had it done. It won't be the case for most people.
This is why people really need to research A LOT before making a decision. The advertising leads people to believe that it's an easier surgery. It is not. There's no such thing.

 The damage is not always reversible, plus, if you're insurance pulls what mine did (and most companies are moving to this) they are adding a "one weight loss surgery per lifetime" clause. That means regardless of what surgery you had, and regardless of who paid for it, they will not pay for a reviosion to anything else, ever. Even if a previous insurer paid for the band, or like me, I self paid, that doesn't matter. They paid to remove it, but won't pay for a second surgery, period. If you are lucky enough to have insurance, make sure you do your research first, like I didn't the first time around. 

 Tell him that your weight is physically "weighing" down on you! If he loves you, he'll want you to feel happy and healthy! Also, he wants to be shown a medical basis behind the benefits of healthy weight loss, tell him to check out: www.healthtap.com. you can ask your weightloss questions for free to certified US doctors and get a response within 24 hrs! Anyway, good luck with this, and I'm sure you and your husband will reach some kind of compromise!

Regardless of the WLS option you choose, your doctor will likely have a support group available. Take your husband - caregivers, key support people are key. Support doesn't start/end with the surgery. Maybe he doesn't want to change the way he eats, doesn't want to lose his eating buddy, etc. There are support groups for preop and if needed maybe take him with you to counseling. In our group, I heard one woman's story how her mother didn't want her to change...when she went to the hospital to visit her right after surgery, her mother sat that and ate cookies in front of her, while commenting how her daughter will never be able to eat those again. It broke my heart.

 That is so mean! :(

He sounds very controlling! NOT a good sign. If he cared about you he would want you to do something to improve your health. And while I don't agree that the Lap-Band is the way to go about that due to it's 50% failure rate...............The other  WLS's are more successful short and long term. I would suggest posting this same thing on the DS,VSG, and RNY forums. There are many FORMER bandsters there and they can give you an accurate comparison of the band to their current WLS.

Good luck!

Click on the link above. Talk to former bandsters. We just dont want to see ppl suffer. I almost choked to death in my sleep... Also, the acid reflux it causes... Can lead to cancer. I promise if you don't have about reflux now... You will with the band. I'm not trying to be mean. Why not pick a surgery that works?

 I know ^_^
Thank you. 
I just want to be around to watch my son grow up and have a life...
and to be a part of that life with out holding him down.

Yes you will hear good and bad stories but as some people have stated, there is good and bad with all surgeries, not just WL ones. On any surgery, you sign forms and are told of (possible outcomes that are bad). I did when I had my gallbladder out and my breasts reduced etc.... I suggest you and your surgeron (and family) decide what is right for you. Because you are the one who will be dealing with it.

People have their opinions and that is fine. We are adults and have the right to think/feel what we wish. But it doesnt mean that it willl happen to you. What if it doesnt? What if it does?

Read some of the blogs on here from people who have succeeded with the band. Read some of the posts from people who have had difficulties. But keep an open mind. Ask questions and do what is right in your heart. Do not be swayed. Again, this is not a quick decision or a get better fast type thing. You have to do what works FOR YOU.

I wish you all the luck on whatever you decide. Have a great day.

 thank you/\.